The EXACT Process To Go From Single To Married

You've done the work, you've healed, you've grown, you've prayed for your future husband. So why does it feel like love is happening for everybody else except you? Well, I'm here to tell you that it's not your age, it's not where you live, it's not your looks, it's not your weight, it's not any of that. It's because no one taught you the five step process I'm about to show you in this video. We have had countless women who have come to us who have felt heartbroken or with a love life that felt non existent and feeling sad because people close to them are getting married, they're having a family, they're settling down while they're going home alone. But because of the five step process I'm about to share with you, now they're engaged, now they're married, they're having children, or they're just in the healthiest relationship that they've ever been in. And over the next few minutes, I'm about to share with you what the five step process is. The three mindset shifts that you need to make so that way you can have the family and marriage that you have been desiring. And before we dive in, I just ask one thing, one thing only, please give me your full attention. Because there could be one thing that I could share that just transforms your love life forever. But if you're distracted or you're swiping a dating apps, whatever it might be, you might miss it or you might hear it, but it might not fully land for it to make a change for you. Now, if you don't know who I am, my name is Matt. I'm a husband, I'm a father, and I'm a certified trauma informed dating coach. And my wife Kelly and I, we are the founders of Dating for marriage. And over the years, through our retreats, our workshops, our online courses, our coaching, we've worked with over 10,000 women who were stuck in situationships, stuck in heartbreak, convinced that maybe love isn't for them. Maybe Go just wants them to be single for the rest of their lives and now they have the love that they want. So here's what I really want you to hear. Finding and building a healthy relationship isn't about luck. It's not about timing or being the perfect or most beautiful woman. It is a skill. And like any skill, you can learn it. And that is why we created our five step formula to finding love. So let me share my screen and show you how it all Works step number one, in order for you to go from where you are right now to having that love, that marriage that you want. What, what we must start with is healing. Because if we don't heal, then you could carry old wounds, past trauma, past heartbreak into the future relationship or just while dating. And it could impact and influence how it is that you show up or not show up when dating. And when we're working with our clients and dating for marriage, what we do is we work with the body, the nervous system, but we also work on what we call love blocks. The subconscious beliefs that you might have about yourself, about men, about, about dating, about marriage, about everything that could be impacting how you show up or not show up when you date, when you're in a relationship. So that's step number one. And then after we focus on healing, then what we do is we must clarify exactly what it is that you want. We have such an in depth process and every single client success story tells us that it has made their dating lives so much easier. It has made choosing a man 10 times easier because of the process that we walk all back clients through. So you must get clear about what is it that you want. The next step is embodiment. So embodiment is being in the practice of something until it becomes the new normal. Now for most people, they have been in the practice of shutting down their voice, they've been in the practice of collapsing, they've been in the practice of avoiding, they've been in the practice of dating very quick and then skipping red flags and then dating the same type of people but with a different face and a different name. So we focus on embodiment. Who do you get to become in order for it to be normal and natural for the man that you just wrote down to not only show up in your life, but stay in your life? It's a big one. Then we go into dating. So this is where we help you to have a dating plan. This is where we help you to have structure when you date. So you know the three ways that you can meet someone and then while you date, the phases of dating to ensure that you're not skipping red flags that you know if you can trust a man before you go into commitment and you're making sure that, that you are taking your time, you're being discerning when you date. And the last step that we focus on is create. So what is create? This is about creating the foundation for you to have that healthy and loving relationship. It's not just about learning how to attract a man through dating skills. But how do you actually maintain a relationship? How do you communicate your needs? How do you set boundaries? How do you set up rituals in your relationship so you're both on the same page and the relationship is consistently growing over time that it evolves naturally to marriage? Most people don't know those skills. I didn't know those skills for a very long time. So this is the formula to finding love that we got all of our clients through. And I want you to know something important. What keeps a woman stuck and single, even when they know the formula to finding love, is because they're believing three core beliefs. So let's break down what they are. If it's meant to be, it will be. It sounds good, right? It feels safe. But in reality, this mindset creates what we call passive surrender. It keeps incredible women sitting on the sidelines, not putting themselves out there, waiting for a man to show up at the doorstep. It'd be pretty great if that was the way that it did happen, right? You don't have to put yourself out there, but that's not the reality. Before Kelly and I met, Kelly realized that faith is impassive. She hired multiple coaches, and it helped her to start showing up intentionally, and she aligned her actions with her desires. So what did she do? She sent me a dm and that Instagram DM turned into a relationship. To then us being engaged, to then us getting married, to. To then getting pregnant, to now having our baby, just from putting herself out there, being intentional, not waiting on the sidelines. But it wasn't just her. We have had so many clients, like Ashanti, for example. She was clear on her standards, and she wanted a man who is vegan. And not just a vegan, but someone who wants marriage, someone who wants family. Now, if you don't know, vegans make up a very, very small portion of the population. 0.5% to be exact. Out of that 0.5%, 1 in 4 vegans are mentioned. Plus, she wanted a man who was emotionally available, who wants marriage, who wants a family. So just having a man who is vegan is rare in itself. But to have a man who wants all of those things, that puts him in the 0.1% category. So what does she do? Does she just sit around and hope that that man is just going to knock at her door? No, she followed the process that we teach in dating for marriage. And from following our process and getting coaching from Us Weekly, Ashanti was able to meet that 0.1% guy. And now they are in a committed, healthy relationship. So if she can find a man who is 0.1% of the population, you can a man as well. The second mindset is I need to be fully healed before I meet someone. And you know, for a very long time, this is something that I believed as well. I thought that I had to reach this point of perfection before I was worthy already to be in a relationship. It's like I had to have no baggage, no trust issues, no triggers, no trauma. Then I could be lovable. But when Kelly and I first got together, there was still some trust wounds in me. Some of you might know the story, but in a past relationship, I was cheated on, so of course I had some trust issues. And even though I had done so much healing of invested so much money into myself to really focus on healing these wounds, there was still parts of me that I didn't realize still needed acceptance and healing and love until I was in the relationship. And that's when I realized that there is only so much personal healing that we can do. There is personal healing and then there's relational healing. The relational healing happens when you're in a relationship or when you are dating someone. You don't have to arrive at this point of perfection before you're able to put yourself out there. It's not about being perfectly healed, perfectly ready. It's about being ready enough. And one of the fastest ways to get ready enough is to get support. This is what John Murray did after 10 years of being in situationships and constantly seeking validation from other men because of the wounds that she hadn't dealt with. She worked with us. She did the healing work. She didn't reach this point of perfection, but she just got ready enough through support. And because of that support, not only did she get engaged, now she's married, and she's been married for two years. And their relationship is constantly. Their marriage is constantly growing and thriving over time. So again, you don't have to be 100% ready or healed. You just have to be ready enough. Mindset three is I shouldn't have to hire a dating coach to learn dating skills. Maybe you believe that it should just come natural, like why my friend over here got married. She has a family. She didn't hire a dating coach. This person over here, you know, they're dating. Fine. They didn't have to get support. Why do I have to learn these skills? Now, some of you might know this story, but I hired a dating coach in the past, and the reason why I did that Is because for a very long time I thought that if I had just become attractive enough, then I was going to find love. If I just go to the gym, make sure my haircut is good, make sure that I'm eating good. Well, I did that to the best of my ability and my love life sucked. Don't you know people who are like attractive in your eyes but they just can't hold a relationship, they can't get into a relationship again. This is coming back to skills because for me, the average lifespan of my relationships was about three months. And. And it's because I didn't know how to open up. I didn't know how to communicate or when I did communicate, it only, I only communicated to the point when I had so much resentment and then it'll come all out at once. I didn't know how to create a healthy relationship and that's why I hired a dating coach. When I did that, something in me shifted. I learned that I had to take ownership. I stopped just being in this victim mentality. Then why do I have to do it? It doesn't happen for this person and this person. It should just happen for me. But my old approach wasn't working and I realized that this wasn't just going to come down to luck. I can't just keep swiping on dating apps and hoping that I find someone that way. This is a skill that I can learn. It's about becoming the type of man where it's normal for me to have the person that I was calling in and now that's my reality. And all of that is because I started asking myself, what are the actual skills that I need to not only date well, but to build a healthy and loving relationship. So this is why I want to invite you to a four month dating for marriage program. Because in this program it's going to show you the exact skills, like how do you actually get clear about the man that you want? How do you establish if there's compatibility or not? How do you heal from the breakup that you might be going through? How do you heal from past trauma that might be impacting how you show up or not show up in relationships? How do you actually embody your femininity? That's not my expertise. That's where Kelly's going to help you with that. But how do you actually position yourself online or in person to meet the man that you want to meet? And then how do you actually date with discernment and date at a healthy pace so you don't repeat the old patterns and also how do you do all of that that's aligned with your faith? So what we do, it is a blend, strategy, inner work, but also God. So here is what to do next. If this spoke to you. If you're tired of waiting for love, if you're tired of a non existent love life or a love life that just feels hard and lonely and you're seeing other people get married and have a family and you're wondering when is it going to be your turn? Then go ahead and check out down below this video, our Dating for Marriage program. When you go ahead and click on the link, it'll take you over to our website. From there go ahead and check out all of the success stories, a little bit more about how the program works. And from there we're going to book you in with a no pressure call and we're just going to see if dating for marriage is for you or not. So right now you have two choices. You can keep waiting, you can keep trying to do this all yourself, maybe hoping and praying that love's going to find you by just by swiping on the dating apps and you might meet a man like that. Or what you can do is you can learn the skills that makes having that marriage and family that you want inevitable. You can become the type of woman where it is normal for you to have that marriage and family and you can do this with support. You don't have to do this all alone because there are other women who are navigating through the same thing. So again, go ahead and check out the Dating for marriage program down below this video, click on the link and I'll see you on the next page.