Rethinking how leaders build trust with Dr. Alex Auerbach | The Highest Level Podcast with Evan Burk

You know, there's a real. I think pressure is a big part of that, right? Like, when people are stressed or feel under pressure, there is a tendency to try to take care of yourself first. And I think the ironic part of that is actually, again, the more you put somebody else first, the more likely it is that that person actually wants to help you and wants to succeed. And I think about this a lot in terms of, like, trust. That's a big thing that comes up a lot in leadership or relationship building. It's like, well, do I trust you? You? And so, you know, even in sports, like, a lot of times, people behave in ways where, you know, the common thing is like, well, you got to earn my trust. It's like, well, if you behave like I need to earn your trust, I'm actually less likely to act in ways that are going to make you trust me. Because at the end of the day, we're just both humans. Like, we're both equal. And so if you act this way, you're not sending signals to me that I should trust you, right? And so now I'm going to be guarded. Now I'm going to protect myself, Now I'm going to respond differently to pressure. Whereas if I just gave you my trust and act like you deserved it, you're more, much more likely to behave in ways that keep me trusting you than you are to break that trust. And so I think those are some of the ways I start to think about this relational dynamic and this, the pieces of leadership.