Cynthia G - Black Women Are Divesting! Response

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Welcome back to the channel. I hope you all are having a great Friday afternoon. And so today I want to talk about a topic that I've seen come up. I don't know if it's an old topic or if it's, uh, something that's recent and new, but I've just kind of seen it around, and that is based on, uh, Black women, uh, divesting, right? And, um, I think maybe Cynthia G's specifically— I think Cynthia G's idea of Black women divesting. Um, so before we get started, just a little disclaimer about the Education Entertainment Television Show. So when we think about education, education is about giving you the tools that you need in order to use these tools, uh, with the information provided that you gather, use those tools and go on to, to make the decisions on something, uh, you know, that's, that's best for you, that navigates the environment best for you. Um, I believe that's the purpose of education. Um, you know, it's, it's not to connect, hang on to my views, and there'll be some type of brainwashing ceremony where you share my views. No, it's all about the information that we can gather on this topic. We try to fairly, as fairly as possible, try to take the information and, you know, be fair with it all on all sides, right? And so when we speak of Black women and divesting today, uh, I think we can also, uh, put that in reverse and a lot of this, uh, be relational to Black men, right? And maybe Black men making, uh, similar decisions. And when we speak of divesting, um, you know, the idea that comes up a lot, this is about Black women no longer being supportive of Black men to the point it is detrimental to them, right? And I think terms or popular phrases that gets used a lot is the idea of Black women being ride or die. So, uh, and thinking of it in terms like that, ride or die, divesting is Black women are no longer gonna be ride or die. That is a falling away from Black men and the support of Black men to the point they feel it's detrimental to them, that is not beneficial to them, right? Um, now, Here's, here's my point of view, uh, you know, looking at ideas like this. Um, first off, I would say being ride or die for a person or group of people for any reason, it can be a problem, right? Because ride or die means then that, uh, no —no matter what the moral landscape of these people, right? You're never going to be the person who stands up to something you know that is wrong in a sense, right? So, and the idea of ride or die, I don't think that would be an ideology I would ever recommend supporting, right? I don't know who came up with that idea. Maybe it works for certain things. But, uh, we can see where that could be very, uh, non-beneficial to people, right? Uh, so, uh, I wouldn't subscribe to that. Maybe the idea like being ride or die, provided that you keep in balance with the ideas, the morality, the value system, and the virtues we agreed with. Right? And as long as you're in the scope of that, uh, then we can be ride or die, right? And so I, I think that's one way to, to look at that. So some of the opening clips were cases where, um, you see Black women and they have chosen to, to date outside their race Uh, now what's interesting about both of the, the clips from the films I present— I believe one, the first one was The Bodyguard, the second one was, uh, called, uh, Something New, which I think stars Sanaa Lathan— where, um, I believe she's a successful Black businesswoman and, uh, he's, uh, a man, uh, you know, blue-collar manual labor, uh, worker. He's in a different class as her. Uh, and so it's a kind of reversal role, right, on all sides, class and race. And, um, you know, but the thing about these films I, I think we should keep in mind, and I think it's kind of important to the discussion, is in every one of these films, these relationships were incidental to people's jobs and people's works, and they was coming into these people's Orbit, uh, you know, uh, incidental. Like, there, there is no, uh, story written into any of those films where I picked up on, uh, any idea of the characters themselves were only attracted to that particular race of people, right? And that their whole ideology was just date, you know, don't date a Black man at all. I don't think any of those movies where the main characters are expressed to be, uh, Black women who only have a mindset to date white men. You know, the movie comes about, uh, like many romances comes about, where you are, you know, basically, uh, uh, you know, you meet on accident, right? You, you— these people come into your, to your lives at certain times and, uh, the relationship based on circumstances they develop. Um, but none of it's all very organic, you know, oftentimes how they depict these films, right? I have yet to see a film where, you know, the main character is going, I'm only looking for a person of the Caucasian race only, I'm only going to date that person. I don't think they make for good movies. And so maybe that's why they don't get that. Now, in reality, there are people probably doing that, but, uh, but, uh, that's not, you know, what people see as an ideal way to meet someone. Now, there's an 800-pound gorilla in the room, and it doesn't come up, uh, oftentimes when people talk about this subject, although I know it's, it's up, and The reason I know it's there is because I remember when that movie The Bodyguard first came out, and I remember Black men in my family saying things like, uh, just how bad the imagery was of seeing someone. And, uh, rest in peace Whitney Houston, you're great, beautiful in that movie, still very beautiful. It was a very beautiful Black woman, had your share of problems you know, and your family problems. And, uh, I'm sorry for that. Rest in peace. But, um, there was people very upset with Whitney Houston, I remember, at that time. And they were talking about how bad the imagery was of her, uh, you know, being involved on the screen with this white man and things like that. You know, at that time in that movie, you know, it was, you know, we were kind of, uh, we were a little bit more, um Uh, when it came to racists, we weren't as tolerant as we are now, I think, around the time that movie came out. So we've evolved, we've changed as a people, right? Now if you see movies like that, I don't think anybody makes a big deal about, uh, people, you know, in these movies. Even when— by the time Sinead Latham's movie came out, I think it came out in 2006, I didn't— it was no uproar about that movie anything like The Bodyguard. But anyway, let me get on with the, with the point I'm trying to make, because I— people say I kind of ramble on about things in these particular relationships, because relationships are tough. And, uh, the hardest thing I found you could do in a relationship is tell people who to be in love with and why this, that, and the other. So in my disclaimer, let me also make this point of view, and that is On this channel, we don't concentrate on, uh, if you date a person of another race, right? We focus on the reasons why you date a person of another race. Are you dating for what most of society would deem to be, uh, an accept— uh, an appropriate reason, right? Because if we get into ideologies like Well, I would only date this person because they are a specific class or race or something like that, right? Then you get a lot of pushback from society, and it doesn't feel very human or loving because what you're doing then is you're, uh, you're excluding, uh, a human being for no other reason but the color of their skin. This the very same reasons why certain groups throughout history were treated unfairly, right? So we concentrate on, are you doing it for the right reasons? Now, in reverse of that, if you're a person who is, let's say you're a Black man or a Black woman, or you're Asian man or Asian woman, whatever the case may be, and you're saying something to the degree of, I'm not, I'm a Black person, but I'm not going to date another Black person because I believe this, that, and the other, all Black people are this, that, and the other. Right? In reverse, you're kind of doing the same thing, right? You're subscribing to that very same type of ideology, right? Based on, on those factors, right? So I'm just saying you need to be careful with it if you're doing things for the wrong reasons. You know, like oftentimes the divestment that the Black women divested for the Black man, what comes up is Black men are going up going outside their race. And because of that, Black women are fed up, in some cases are fed up with them doing that and the treatment of Black women. And so they're deciding to go outside their race and not date, you know, not be involved with them anymore, right? But can you see the problem with that though? Can you see the issues with that? That very ideology may fall under that is the wrong reason to to make that choice, right? Are you with me on that? So what would be an example of what I believe to be the right reasons? My idea of the right reason would be if you're a Black woman and you date a non-Black person, you happen to come in their orbit and there were coincidental things, there were incidental things, and there were organic things, just like in those movies, right? Just like in The Bodyguard and Something New, right? And I think that's totally valid. But if the entire basis of why you're doing what you're doing is about, um, you know, just because it's this Black man— it was a YouTuber earlier, and I can't remember their name, and they were talking about this, and they said one word that came to mind that I think we should be aware of and I'm still doing research looking at it psychologically to see if this is what it is. But the word she, that came up was punishment, right? And so I can't draw that conclusion because I haven't done enough research on it. So I don't know if it's just about punishment. It could be a mixture of punishment preference. I don't know. But she talked a lot about it being punishment. Now, there are certain, uh, views taken in certain ways about it, um, that would suggest to me that it does seem like punishment, right? And in those cases, those seems like the wrong reasons, right? To— because part of the reason too is you have to understand, you know, why people are doing what they're doing. In the case like, um, where you have people, uh, dating because somebody who they share the same type of work or they have the same, uh, religious views or whatever, that may not be the same as a person who is dating just for the sake of trying to date outside their race because they think they're finding something better or something to that extent, right? Of course, the 800-pound gorilla, I think, in the room— even when I used to, back in those days, when I used to listen at, you know, at a Black man in my family who didn't like the idea of Black women, um, dating outside their race or even being seen on civil screen with them, uh, in that way, uh, you know, I think historically a lot of this goes back to a time in history where Black people didn't have choices about dating white people, right? And you know, this is, this is something that is always going to come up and this is something we just have to come to terms with. And that is Black people, uh, are going to hearken back to the days where they didn't have choices to be involved with a white person, right? So, um, You know, Black women were raped by, by white men as slaves. Uh, Black men, uh, you know, basically the same thing with the white women, or sometimes even with the men slave masters themselves, is forced into homosexuality, or they were, uh, you know, forced to have sex with a white woman on a plantation, or she may say they tried to attack her or rape her or something like that. Right? So all of that is part of our history, and that is kind of stained, and that is kind of what's in the back of a lot of Black people's minds, and that's what pushes a lot of these ideas about, you know, being involved interracially, and why some Blacks deem it a bad idea, and some, uh, you know, in some context. Um, The only problem with that we have to keep in mind now though is that, you know, the, the concept of the sins of the father and the white people that are around now, most of them, right, most of them— there might be still some that hold on to those old ideologies, but let's just say, uh, there are a lot of them who, uh, well, I can accurately say most all of them, uh, for the most part weren't back in those days unless it's very, very old white people, you know. But, uh, you know, um, most of the white people today didn't share in the, uh, uh, these type of crimes against humanity and You know, let's just think about it from a logical standpoint. Even if we want to hold races of people accountable, right? You know, would it be any type of equal justice to sentence people, or if we were charged with crimes of our ancestors, right? And, uh, or, you know, or, you know, having to, to hold on to that, you know, even though you, you might not be that type of person, right? And this is not a cop-out, right? This is not me trying to— this is just, uh, a balanced, fair review, I believe, of what's happening. And, and this works in reverse for Black men as well. Black men may have that ideology, some of them, like some Black women have. You know, you do have some Black women who only date white men or only going to date white men or non-Black men based on that ideology. And you're going to have some Black men that only want to date white women based on some type of ideology that they're getting something more or better or less problematic or more beneficial or however they want to deem it. But as I was responding to a commenter earlier, that's not how genes work. You know, there are bad genes jumping around, to, from race to race. And guess what? They're in the Caucasian race and they're in the Asian race, they're in, uh, uh, in the, uh, in the, in the, uh, the Black race, right? They're, they're everywhere, right? And so you don't know what you're gonna get, all right? And, uh, I'll tell this story, just going last but not least, and I'll tell this, this one story about, uh, this person who um, was somewhat interested in me, and they told me they had children from a Black woman who had previous children from a white man. And, uh, uh, and, uh, she just told me these horrific stories about the level of abuse she got from this, from this white man who had been ex-military and had a lot of problems and treated her very, very poorly, right? And, uh, right, and that she saw that it wasn't like she thought it was. And not saying that to make any kind of statements that all white people are bad. I don't believe that, right? And I, I believe Blacks and white people can date. I've seen very successful interracial relationships. I've seen successful Black-on-Black relationships. I've seen successful white-on-white relationships. I've seen horrible white-on-white relationships. I've seen horrible, uh, Black-on-Black relationships, and I've seen horrible interracial relationships. And that's the, the fact of the matter. The problem is you don't know what you're going to get, right? You don't know if you're going to be in that situation or not where you end up with that crazy person out in whatever group, outside your group or in it, where they treat you very poorly, where they abuse you. I, you, you know what the, I think the real fear is too with interracial dating is when it happens, uh, and, um, you know, these people think back to, you know, it's almost like a double whammy, isn't it? Because I think a lot of Black people would think about, well, I've been abused by these people of another race. And these could be the same people who abused me, uh, you know, a century ago, you know, 50, 60 years ago, real badly. So I've allowed this to be done to me twice, right? And that doesn't mean that's going to happen, right? But I'm just saying, if it happens, I think that fear is there. And I think that's why you might get a little bit more uproar when that happens. And I think that might be somewhat a natural fear within the scope of some relationships that are, you know, where people choose to do that, right? Again, our— the purpose of this video is not to tell you to divest or not divest. The purpose of this video is to under— to, to— for you to explore why you are divesting right? Or, you know what I mean? Or, uh, if you want to divest but you think it's wrong to divest, right? Uh, the problem with preference and this type of prejudice, in a sense, is that those type things, they, they start from a defeated standpoint, don't they? Because they always take out of account the person in the skin, right? And so it's going to always start from not the best place, right, as far as a concept and an argument. But those are just some things to think about. I think just address if you would be doing it for the right reasons, right? I'm not going to tell you not to do it, uh, or let me, let me rephrase it. I'm not going to tell you not to do it If you're in a toxic relationship, if you're in a relationship not beneficial, I'm not going to tell you to be ride or die for a Black man. You know, if it happens that you find a good person of another race, my logical conclusion is the person that is the best for you, right, and your environment and your community, which I think is all the same thing, right? If you have someone loving on your side, they're going to take care they're going to help you to take care of your community, right? If you have someone loving. Now, if you're out there getting someone who is not that, they're not going to probably care about your community, right? But that's all I want to say in this video. If you like content like this, don't forget to like, subscribe. Uh, as always, take care of yourselves and each other. I do appreciate the comments and I appreciate your points of view. And, uh, uh, we're all just trying to find the solutions here. And I hope this channel helps you to consider, uh, some of those solutions or come up with some. But take care of yourselves and each other. Bye-bye.