Speaker A and Speaker B discuss proactive versus reactive communication, with Speaker B sharing a technique called "stops on the train" for checking in with partners. Many people think they communicate well but fail to convey messages in ways their partners can actually hear.
Talked about proactive communication versus reactive. I'd love for you to dissect that because that's so spot on.
Hey, you never want to spend enough time or you're not being present enough. I learned to be like, hey, I need you to be more present today. Like, I'm— or even in real time, like, hey, I'm trying to share something important with you right now. I need you to be present. And, and, you know, to his credit, he would like really show up when I communicated well, like 10 out of 10, like really made a big effort. And so positively framing is like, I call them like the stops on the train, like the things we want to check in. Because as I was learning this, I was already in client practice for a while before this, particularly on more like subconscious reprogramming things. And I learned like so many people say, "I'm communicating everything, I'm telling my partner," and really it's that they weren't communicating properly, and so their partner's not hearing that.
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