Do You Have a Toxic Relationship With Life? How It's Holding You Back From Your Twin Soul! #union

Hey there, sovereigns! Monica Grace from cardreadingqueen.com here, and today's content is: do you have a toxic relationship with life? How it's holding you back from uniting with your twin soul. So I wanted to create this because I have noticed in some twin soul forums that people are being a bit manipulative with with the concept of life. And in this, in terms of this content, your relationship with life is basically your relationship with your higher power. So that's God, your creator, the universe, source, or spirit. And, you know, I think if you are an atheist and you don't believe in a higher power, it's really just yourself and um, so you would see yourself as relating to life. So that— so what I see is, um, this desire to manipulate life or manipulate the universe, manipulate God. And so how— what this comes down to, um, it's, it's really this idea of like doing a lot of doing a lot of things in the external in order to create, as opposed to doing your inner work. So it's a way to avoid the work on the twin soul journey. And so this can come up in so many different ways. It can be, you know, going to like, like only going to healers or only going to tarot card readers, astrology readers, with the goal of like, when is my masculine gonna come home? Or, you know, let me— or even like, I heard recently about like, you can buy a twin flame crystal and just put it on your altar and it'll bring your twin flame in. And all of this is fine, like, I'm all for— I, you know, I am a tarot reader, I'm an astrologer, astrologist as well. I have both of those skill sets and I go to energy healers to do my work. So these are all great tools, but they're not a substitute for making true inner shifts within you. And I see this, I mean, it's really everywhere. And the problem is that as a society, we always want the quick win. We want the quick solution to our problem. We don't want to do the inner work. So I see this in business as well, where people are like, oh, I'll just buy this piece of software and then that'll help me move forward. And it's like, you can buy any piece of software, you're— if you don't do the inner work to use that software, um, in a positive manner, it's not going to create the results you want. And so you see this everywhere, these like get-rich-quick schemes, um, and get your twin soul quickly schemes, basically all the same thing. And it's really the, the goal there is to avoid the inner work and try to do outer work, which is much easier to do than the inner work and like trying to get a result on the outside. And there's really no point to that because even if you were to get the result, it would just fade away because you wouldn't— you can't hold— you can't sustain a result in the outer world without having the foundation of your inner work. And so that's why you see people like win the lottery, for example. It's like they tried to, they tried to get what they wanted externally, so they win the lottery, but then they lose it all. Or even just having like a huge windfall and then losing it all or wasting it all. And that happens because the inner work was never done on it. And so you didn't achieve it through inner work, so then you lose it. Through, uh, like, like you can't hold it in your reality basically because it doesn't exist inside you. So how can you hold it in your reality? So I've seen people try to do this with twin souls, um, and basically what happens, um, like, like the biggest thing, and this is an insidious thing, is that you're not doing your inner work or your spiritual work for yourself, you're doing it to get your twin flame or your twin soul. So when you do this, and it's, it's, it can be very hard to recognize this, but I will say it's very easy for me to see this in other people, um, and I've seen it a lot in other people where they are trying to create on the external and not trying to in order to avoid creating internally. So what's really happening there is you are trying to essentially trick or manipulate the universe. And so you're trying to have— it's almost like a relationship, right? Like if you were to be manipulative in your romantic relationship, that relationship would eventually fall away because it's not built on foundation. And so This happened to me with my ex-husband. Like, he, he was manipulative. He like lied to me quite a bit about who he was because his goal was never to really— his goal wasn't to show me who he was and see if we were a match. His goal was always to like get me, basically. His, you know, his goal was he, he wanted us to date. He wanted us to get married. He wanted to have me. And he didn't care if it cost me anything. He didn't care if he was lying to me in order to get me, so he was not willing to like reveal the truth of himself in order to see if we were a match. And really, every time he did reveal the truth of himself, it pushed us further apart because we weren't a match. So, but like, he didn't care. Like, he wanted me for whatever his reason was for wanting me. And that, you know, I don't know if I— I'm sure I had that pattern as well, but that was not how I really approached relationships. And, you know, I always approached it like I always tried to like be honest in my relationships because I know that the lies catch up to you eventually. And so not surprisingly, our relationship did fall away. Because you can't sustain a lie over a long period of time. And so he, he manipulated me and it ultimately drove me away. And the universe is the same way. Like, if you try to manipulate the universe, um, it doesn't work. And with the universe, it's much more efficient in the sense that my ex-husband was able to hold me in that relationship for years through through guilt, lies, manipulation, the whole shebang. Control was a big one. He was able to hold me there for a while before I could really get out. And the universe, though, it just doesn't engage at any level with manipulation. It can't engage with you at a place of manipulation. It's just not able to because it's only— like, the universe or God can only express love, basically. Like, there's no way for them to express fear, which, you know, manipulation is fear. And I saw that with my ex-husband. You know, he was afraid to lose me, so he would lie to me. Kind of makes sense, like, because if he had revealed the truth, he would have lost me sooner. But it's like, um, the universe doesn't do that, you know. You can't lie to— you can't lie or manipulate the universe and get any sort of result. So it's a very— it's very efficient at sniffing out manipulation and lies, not even because it's all-powerful, more because it can only express love, so thus it can only receive love. So if you're not, if you're not like giving the universe love or giving God love, it's like it can't engage with you. So, and again, God, God in the universe is my representation of life itself. So if you're trying to control or manipulate the universe, it's basically a toxic pattern within you. It's the same toxicity that you would bring to a romantic relationship. So if you're trying to manipulate the universe, you're trying to manipulate God, you're only going to see manipulation and lies and deceit, um, in your twin soul. Like, your twin soul is going to reflect that back to you because you can't— like, if you were if you are showing God manipulation and lies, that's your relationship with God. That's your relationship with the universe. That's your relationship with life. And thus, because of the twin soul trinity, you're going to see that in your twin soul. So, um, here's another, another little thing in my notes. I say the universe, when you try to engage with the universe on a level of manipulation, the universe does what healthy people do. It disengages, gives zero attention, and blocks, blocks your manipulation at every turn, basically. So I talked about how the universe, God, your creator, your higher power, source, spirit, life itself, all of that is your twin soul. All of it. Every, every single expression of it, however you want to— like, whatever you want to call it, however you experience it, it is all literally your twin soul. Um, your twin soul is the universe personified. Um, so, and I, I've, I've taught this in so many different ways, right? Like, I have a— I have content on the twin soul trinity. I talk about you know, the law of attraction. But this, this I think like is a, is a really different and interesting way to think about this, that your twin soul is the universe personified. And so if you are trying to manipulate the universe in any way, your twin soul is just going to reflect that to you. So I hope that all of that makes sense and gives you a better understanding of why you you have to do the inner work and you can't create outside of you. The inner work is literally the only way. There's no other thing to do in life besides the inner work. You're never going to get anything or hold anything. You may get it in the physical for a very short period, but you're never going to hold on to it. You're never going to be able to get something outside of yourself. Life is only about doing the inner work. It's only about figuring out what your desires are and working toward them through your inner work. There's just like no— there's literally no other game that you can play in life besides this one game. And you can try to circumvent this game in so many different ways and it does not work. Like, it will not work for you. So the good news, unlike a romantic partner who you try to manipulate, like, you try to manipulate a healthy romantic partner and that partner disappears, like, pretty quickly. Again, they're just gonna disengage with you and they're probably never gonna speak to you again. But if you do this to the universe, The great thing about the universe is that it only knows love. So you can actually just shift this pattern at any time. You just make a new choice. The universe is never going to leave you because the universe and God, they, it loves you unconditionally. So they're never gonna leave you. When you begin to engage with the universe in a healthy way and take full responsibility for yourself and your happiness with no one else in mind, the universe is gonna respond abundantly to you. Going to give you everything once you focus on yourself and do your own inner work and come from a place of love. It's always going to respond back to you with love because that's all— that's like the only game in town. That's all the universe does, and that is how the universe works, basically. So this is true. I want to connect the dots here. I'm saying it for the universe. This is also true of God. God loves you unconditionally. When you engage with God in a healthy way, way, then God rewards you abundantly. And God, because of the twin soul trinity— God or the universe or your creator, whatever you want to call it, um, life itself— is your twin soul as well. So your twin soul is a personification of God, of the universe, of life. And so when you engage with your twin soul in a healthy way, they're going to show love back to you. And In truth, in spiritual truth, your twin soul only understands love from you in the same way that the universe can only engage with you on a level of love. Like, that's the only way your twin soul can engage with you. There are people in, in this world who can engage with you through manipulation and lies. So you can engage with people through your wounding, basically, um, other people in the world. But your twin soul can only engage with you at the level of love, um, and that, that's the only relationship you will ever be able to have with your twin soul is, um, full unconditional love and engagement there. And so, um, even if you're not seeing love from your twin soul, it's because— and like they're triggering you— it is like the ultimate love. It's the same way that the universe works, like like they're just disengaging with you basically, um, because the level that you're at is toxic and manipulative. You're trying to engage with them in a manipulative way. So, um, yeah, so same, you know, just as the universe can never leave you, can never abandon you, neither can your twin soul. So that's, that's the good news, is that at any point you can decide to shift out of your toxic relationship with life, with the universe, with God, with source, with spirit, with your higher power, with your creator. At any time you can shift out of that relationship with yourself as well. So if you, you know, if you're taking like a more atheist perspective with yourself, if you believe you are your own creator, basically, then it's with yourself. And you're not wrong, is the other thing. You are your own creator. So if you, um, yeah, if you change your relationship and, um, move out of the distorted and into the divine, into that space of love, um, the universe responds back to you It's the same for your twin soul. As you heal your wounding, your twin soul responds back to you more deeply and from a greater place of love because you are loving yourself more. So I hope this was helpful to you, uh, and I'll be talking about this more in my book, which I'm getting on pre-order, called Your Twin Soul Journey. I talk— I go more deeply into the concept of the twin soul trinity, and this is is one of the things that I talk about in that book. And again, those will be— that will be up on pre-order shortly. I don't have an exact timeline. I also, you know, I record a lot of these in advance, so the— by the time this is out, it could already be up. Um, it's just not at the— it's not up at the time of recording. So definitely check out my book, Your Twin Soul Journey. It is at— you can learn more about it at cardreadingqueen.com twin-soul-journey, no spaces. Um, and if it's not already out, you can sign up for pre-order notifications. Um, again, that's cardreadingqueen.com/twin-soul-journey. I hope this was helpful to you. Thank you so much for watching and listening, and I hope you have a beautiful and blessed day.