How To Move Past Blaming Your Twin Soul #twinflames #soulmates #twinflamedynamic #divinemasculine

Hey there, Sovereign! Monica Grace from cardreadingqueen.com here. Today's content is all about how to move past blaming your twin soul. Blame is a very common challenge on the twin soul journey, and we are going to talk about what's going on here and how to eradicate blame from your relationship. Before we get into that, I want to make sure that we get and stay connected. This is how you get free content and updates from me. You can follow me at facebook.com/cardreadingqueen, cardreadingqueen.com/youtube for my YouTube channel, instagram.com/cardreadingqueen, twitter.com/MonicaGraceCRQ, pinterest.com/cardreadingqueen. We have a Tumblr called dailytwinseoul.tumblr.com, and I also post other twin soul content there. And then linkedin.com/company/cardreadingqueen. Additionally, if you are looking for any of the freebies that are mentioned in this content, you can go to cardreadingqueen.com/freebies. There is a list of the freebies that we offer there, and you can sign up and receive that free download. So let's talk about how to move past blaming your twin soul. The biggest challenge with this and why you need to eradicate this is because you can't manifest from a place of blame. So how many times in the twin soul community do we see, oh, he did this to me, and how do I get him to stop doing that? Or how do I get her to come back around? Now, when you're even in that language, you can hear that the challenge that you're having, you're blaming it on somebody else. And because of that, it's going to be difficult to manifest what you actually want instead. So the insidious blaming— I actually learned about this from my husband. So my husband Patrick used to make a mistake or mess up or forget to do something, and he'd say something like, we messed up, or you know, we forgot to do this, or we did this. And naturally, not surprisingly, I was like, no, you're the one who messed up. You're the one who didn't do it. You know, why, why are you trying to rope me into this? Um, so then he would get on my case about blame, and he would, you know, basically say like that I was always looking for somebody to blame for things, or that I— the way I think about things and the way I frame things is always trying to find the source of blame or always trying to blame somebody else. And I didn't agree with him for a while, but then after some time I realized, yeah, he's right. I'm definitely, uh, coming from a place of blame when it's not really necessary. And so now I would say in our relationship we are very focused on teamwork and finding solutions to everything and not trying to blame each other for the frustrations that we feel, but just trying to work things out, uh, in a more, you know, partnered way. And this is what you'll want to do as well to come into your twin soul union. This is going to be a big part of understanding that. So I'm going to talk about the reflection journaling practice. And, um, basically this is my version of something that is pretty common in the twin soul community. So, um, other versions of this might be called the mirror exercise, the Ho'oponopono technique, the completion process. So some people have, um, something similar to this, uh, out on their websites or wherever else. Um, My version, it does incorporate some aspects of these other, you know, tools, but it is an, you know, it's original to how I have processed my own wounding. And the idea here is that it's a list of journaling prompts that helps you go through this process of looking at what is bothering you and healing it, right there and right then and there. And so, um, the gist of all of these processes is that you are going to assume that whatever you're feeling is a projection onto another. So if you are feeling frustrated with your spouse, or if you are feeling frustrated with your twin soul, that is a projection, um, that you are placing on them. And the real frustration, it's it's really that you are frustrated within, you are frustrated with yourself in some way. So then once you kind of are able to turn it around on yourself, then you go within and heal it instead of trying to heal it on the outside. So on the outside, you might be saying, I'm frustrated with this person, so I'm gonna go confront them, or I'm frustrated with this person, so I'm gonna give them the silent treatment, or whatever it is. And instead you can say, I'm frustrated with this person, I'm frustrated with myself, so let me go within and heal it within myself. And then it heals the situation on the outside as well. Like, either that situation vibrates away or that person changes their behavior. So, um, the seeming goal of the reflection practice is to take responsibility for your reality and the things you can control. That is what a lot of people see this practice as doing. There's a false belief there though. The false belief is that you have to blame yourself or take responsibility for the bad behavior of others that are surrounding you. And this is not true. It is a false belief. And a lot of people get— they get stuck on it because— or they get— they, they get stuck on the reflection journaling practice overall because they say, well, you know, why am I taking responsibility for someone else's actions? How is that self-love? Um, you know, when, when is it ever their fault for what they are doing? So what's really going on here, um, the real goal of the reflection journaling practice and other practices that are similar to it is to eradicate the entire concept of blame from the twin soul relationship. So it's this, um, it's this idea that you really, really— blame is of no use to you in your relationship or in your manifestation to try to receive your relationship and your union. So why you need to release blame to be with your twin soul. Um, the only sane way to mirror your upsets is to see that everything you're seeing on the outside is a pattern between you and that thing or that person. This is incredibly important, and it's, it's, um, what's really important about this is to understand that Well, first of all, to understand that you have to shift from finding fault in yourself or finding fault in others to understanding that it's just a pattern between the two of you and not placing any judgments on that. But then I think the, you know, I think the big part is to— or another part is to understand that this is the only sane way to do it. It's not insane to either take on it as your fault or to take on— or to place that blame on someone else. Neither of those are going to make sense because again, you can't manifest from a place of blame. So you can't manifest from blaming them, you can't manifest from blaming yourself. So it's not their fault, it's not your fault, it's actually just a pattern that exists between the two of you. And Real quickly, I do want to say if there is a pattern of toxicity and abuse between the two of you, that's a very different thing. So if you're being emotionally, physically, or mentally abused, please contact, please contact an organization that is able to help you with that. So that, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking more about just the general back and forth of like, he didn't call me back, she didn't do the dishes, like that sort of thing. So it's not their fault, it's not your fault, it's a pattern that exists. Between the two of you. And this is true whether it's positive or negative. So there's actually no, um, there's no judgment around this because that's also going to be very unhelpful. And then, as I like to say, toxicity is not a person, it's a pattern. And I think, you know, we as humans have a tendency— and this is a more recent trend as well— to say like, oh, she's so toxic, so I have to cut her out of my life. Or, you know, I don't, I don't hang out with this toxic person, or this relationship is toxic, or whatever it might be. But just know that it's not the person that is the toxic thing. It's actually the pattern between you that is toxic. The pattern often becomes the dynamic of the relationship, and that's a good thing. And that if you change the pattern on your end, it will change the dynamic of the relationship. And so this is the foundation of the twin soul journey, is understanding that, um, everything outside of you is just a pattern you hold within yourself. So this isn't just about a person, it can also be, you know, your relationship with money, your relationship with health, your relationship with whatever else. It's all patterns that you hold within yourself, and the minute you change the pattern on your end, then your reality will reflect that back because you can't have— you can't have the pattern without both of you. So blame is a distorted masculine form of betrayal, and I talk about betrayal in my core wound wheel. It's one of the 6 core wounds I identify. Um, so we're gonna go into this, um, inner union work, which is, um, another framework that I have on Card Reading Queen. Um, so the masculine and feminine, they both exist inside you. Um, when either is on the distorted side, these two energies can't work together. So, um, the distorted masculine trait of blame, um, You know, so there's a couple things. One is that the, the sort of feminine side of that is seduction or manipulation. So, um, and this kind of goes back to the story of Adam and Eve. So, so that's kind of a separate thing. Um, something if you want to explore it though, you can check that out at cardreadingqueen.com/freebies and just look for, um, the Core Wound Wheel or the Inner Union work. Um, so basically, in order to heal that distorted masculine trait of blame, you have to shift it to the divine masculine trait of responsibility. And so you're not taking responsibility for that person's bad behavior, you're just taking responsibility for the dynamic of the relationship, for the pattern that you're experiencing. Um, both people have to be part of the dynamic to feed it. So kind of where that phrase, it takes two to tango, comes from. Um, the dynamic can only exist if both people participate. So you have to change, um, yourself. And if you only change yourself, you will eradicate that dynamic from your relationship. So as you take responsibility for your side of the dynamic, you shift from the destroyed masculine to the divine masculine within you. And then your twin soul does the same. So I hope that was helpful to you. Um, I know that we covered a lot of ground in one video, and, um, if you are interested in more, um, you can check out my freebies at cardreadingqueen.com/freebies, and that some of those freebies will kind of explain this in more detail. So as far as next steps go, um, look at one dynamic in your relationship that you would like to divest your energy from, um, and And remember that it is that easy to eradicate the dynamic forever. You just choose not to participate. And this is really important for anything that you're blaming somebody for. So if you're blaming them for not contacting you or not texting you back or whatever, just choose not to participate in that. And you'll have to follow your own guidance, as to what that means. So it could just mean like, okay, they're not getting back to me, like whatever, like I'm just gonna not worry about it. Or it could mean they're not getting back to me, I'm not going to take it personally, I'm just going to reach out again when I feel called to. Um, so it can be, I, you know, it could be either of those. It could be something else as well. So just, um, decide not to— decide to divest your energy from the dynamic, and then it shifts. You can try the reflection journaling practice at cardreadingqueen.com/freebies. I also talk about the masculine-feminine dynamic and what I was explaining about blame, shifting from blame to responsibility. I talk about that in my inner union framework, which is also at cardreadingqueen.com/freebies. Um, if this resonates with you, leave a comment on this posting to share your upset story or results. Additionally, if you found this video useful, you can go to cardreadingqueen.com/twinsouljourney and check out my book called Your Twin Soul Journey. It's a guide to experience eternal, unconditional, harmonious, embodied love and union with your divine partner, and we talk about lots of topics similar to this within that book. It really goes through all the different pieces of this journey, and I think it could help you a lot with whatever you are experiencing on the journey. That's all for me. Thank you so much for watching. Have a beautiful and blessed day.