How To Tell If You're the Masculine or Feminine Twin Soul #twinflames #twinsouls #divinemasculine

Hey there, sovereigns! Monica Grace from Cartomancy and Queen. Today's video is going to be a quick one. It's a simple video about how to tell if you are the masculine twin soul or the feminine twin soul. This is a question that is often asked in the twin soul community. How do you know which one you are? A lot of us have been in masculine and feminine at different points in our lives. So I'm going to give you just a few easy tips to know once and for all whether you are the masculine twin soul or the feminine twin soul. Now, of course, this is really important to know, as there— as within every twin soul union, there is a masculine and feminine, um, and embodied energy. I want to be clear, and I want to just say that masculine/feminine, it has nothing to do with gender. So you can be any, you know, any color, any rainbow-colored relationship that you like. LGBTQIA+, anywhere on the spectrum in terms of your sexual preferences, in terms of your gender. None of that stuff matters. What matters is who, you know, who your twin soul is, and then which of you embodies the masculine more easily and which of you embodies the feminine. So my first tip on trying to figure out whether you're the masculine or feminine twin soul is to look at yourself and just reflect on which one your inner knowing is telling you that you are. So for For me, for example, I am the feminine twin soul, but it took me a little bit of time to figure that out because in my past I have been so masculine. I tend to be a very logical thinker. I like frameworks and structure. On the Myers-Briggs, I'm a thinker rather than a feeler. So there are lots of things in my in the past that have indicated to me that I might be the masculine. This is pretty common because we live in a patriarchal society, so for many feminines and many women in general as well, we are taught in some ways to be more in our masculine energy in order to achieve success. So that was my own experience, is that I tended to be in my masculine energy quite a bit as a child and then going into adulthood. So that was a little bit confusing for me as I was entering this awakening and this journey. So that's my first tip, is to just think, you know, just find a quiet space or a couple minutes and just kind of look at, you know, which one, which one do you feel like you probably are. Because the truth is that you know, your inner, your inner intuition knows exactly which one you are. And so it's just about clearing away kind of the muck and the expectations you've placed on yourself to figure out, well, which one, which one do I really embody? My second tip is to look at your twin soul. Now, your twin soul is going to be, it's going to be a little bit easier to to tell because it's not you and it's not based on your own personal, you know, esteem issues about yourself. So it's not based on like, oh, you know, in the past I did this or I had this behavior or whatever it was. So it's much easier to look at another person. So if you look at your twin soul, you can probably tell— and again, we're just— I I'm just going off of intuition. So you're just going to go off of like, what do you truly feel inside you? And like, when you connect to your source, like, what does that person radiate to you? What kind of— what energy do they seem to sink into more naturally? And so you can look at your twin soul and you can do the same thing and say like, you know, is this person the masculine or are they the feminine?— and that will help you because you're really never going to have two masculines in a relationship and you're never going to have two feminines. So it's basically you are one or the other. That can be another kind of easy way to tell pretty immediately because if you know that that person is definitely the feminine or the masculine, then you can, you can say like, okay, well, I'm probably the other one. So my next tip is to look at some of the masculine and feminine traits and figure out which ones resonate most with you. This one's a little bit trickier because the truth is we have both masculine and feminine inside us. The other thing is sometimes we have been told or have been conditioned to act a certain way or that we are a certain way, and so sometimes we can be in our own wounding around some of these traits. So for example, one trait of the masculine is— of the divine masculine specifically— is that they take on a lot of responsibility. So there are probably lots of feminines who feel like, yeah, I take on responsibility, you know, I'm a responsible person. And that's all true, but this is specifically responsibility within the union And that, I think, is a little bit— it's harder to explain. It's really this idea that the masculine is the more active twin in terms of the physical reality. And so they're gonna, they're gonna be the ones stepping up to the plate, that they're trying to make things happen. Lots of feminines, unfortunately, can get into that mode, and they get into it on a very distorted side, unfortunately. So they may be taking responsibility for something when it's really the masculine who should be taking the responsibility, and they should be kind of stepping back and just magnetizing or receiving. So this way is a little bit more complicated, and I'm sharing it not because I want to confuse anyone, but because I want to just provide a more, you know, more detailed— a more detailed way to figure this out. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to read the traits of the divine feminine, and then I'll read traits of the divine masculine. And again, what I really want you to do is to look at which one resonates most with you. So let go of who you think you are and let go of your past, because that is not going to be helpful to you right now. This is all about your inner knowing and like which one which one would you rather be, basically? Or which one, which one sounds, uh, delicious to you? Which one sounds sweet to you? And choose that one, um, because that's the one, that's the one that you're— that's the one that you're most likely designed for, um, and the one that your higher source, or that God, or the universe, whoever has designed you for, and it's probably the design of your part within your twin soul union as well. All right, so here's the divine feminine traits: faithful, magnetizing, expressive, flowing, self-assured, manifesting, intuitive, developing or educating, centered or balanced, receiving, nurturing, connective, collaborative, truthful, and seeking and creating beauty. So that's the divine feminine. Now go to the divine masculine: steadfast, responsible, vulnerable, adventurous, courageous, solutions-oriented, logical, protective, grounded, present, giving, providing, action-oriented, leading, setting boundaries, and pursuant of life. So hopefully as I was reading those, you felt these two different energies when I was reading that. Um, think, think about that and think, which one, which one resonates with me more? Which one sounds just juicier to me? Like, which one would I love to sink into and like really embody for myself? Now, whichever one that is, that's probably the one— it's probably the feminine or masculine piece that you are. So that, that should give you some information about that. And then the fourth and last way that I would help— that I would personally try to determine which one I am is through looking at the distorted feminine and the distorted masculine. And by the way, before I get into that, I wanted to let you know that these are part of my inner union framework. So if you're interested in going deeper into any of these traits, so for example, if you wanted, you know, if you decide like, yes, I am the divine masculine, and you're like, I want to learn how to step into and embody that divine masculine energy, and that's something you want to work on, then definitely check out my Inner Union framework. You can go to cardreadingqueen.com/freebies. This is a— first of all, it's a huge body of work, so I just want to warn you, this is not a— this is not something that you're gonna learn about in a day. It's a huge body of work. I'm currently writing a book on it to help explain it to people. I'm also working on a course for the inner union framework. For now, I just have a cheat sheet on my website, cardreanqueen.com/freebies. You can go look for it. This, this work is very deep, uh, and there's, there's so much interesting stuff to it regarding the feminine and the masculine. So definitely check that out if you're interested. So these two lists, um, in, you know, similarly to the first two lists, these two lists come from that inner union framework. And so this is the distorted masculine and the distorted feminine. And so what I want you to do with these two lists is, in this case, you can look at your past and see which one did I embody the most in my past, um, from these lists. Now there's one caveat, which is what I mentioned earlier, which is that lots of, uh, both women and feminines. So don't, don't take it to mean gender or anything, but feminines, which many of them also happen to be women in this lifetime, lots of feminines have been taught to enter the distorted masculine in order to achieve success in our patriarchal society. So I just want to put that out there because You may resonate with both of the lists. So you may be like, yes, I have some distorted feminine and I also have some distorted masculine. If that's the case, you are probably the feminine. If you're— if you are more of the person who says, I resonate with the distorted masculine and the distorted feminine is like not who I— not who I am at all in my past. Then you're probably the masculine. So I will read the list now, and again, I encourage you to just go into your inner knowing and tap into your intuition and just see like which one resonates more for you from your past experiences and your past behaviors. So for those who are feminine: neurotic, seductive, manipulative, hypersensitive, hyperemotional, nagging, validation-seeking, disempowered, helpless, fantasizing, vengeful, comparing, codependent, chasing, submissive, conflict-avoidant, superficial. If that— if any of that resonated with you, you may be the feminine. We'll do the distorted masculine now. Um, hostile, controlling, unavailable, flaky, looking at the world in terms of winners and losers or feeling like a loser, power-hungry, calculated, looking at the world in terms of weakness and strength or feeling weak in the past, hierarchical, hierarchical, which means basically that you rank things things. So it's kind of a hard word to pronounce, so sorry about that. Separated, withdrawing, isolating yourself, hermiting, dominating, ordering. And by ordering, I mean like putting, putting things in order or, or creating order from chaos. Ruling. So with this one, I think of, you know, like a king or like a duke or whatever, but basically trying to exert your rule or your control over others. And possessive. So that's the distorted masculine and the distorted feminine. Again, two very different energies. One's certainly much more active and like trying to exert control over things. The other is more passive and what may be considered, you know, either feeling very weak or working through manipulation or comparison or the superficiality. So it's kind of the one associated more with, you know, like petty drama, I guess would be like kind of the best word. Are the best, like, phrase to describe it. So if one of those resonates with you more, that can also give you an indication of whether you are more on the feminine side or the masculine side. Now I want to say again that we do have both masculine and feminine within us. Knowing whether you're the masculine or feminine, that is valuable because it helps you, um, it helps you just work within your soul design, basically. So if you are the feminine, you are going to see much more success in everything, not just in your twin soul union, but in everything in your life when you switch to the feminine mode of doing things most of the time. It doesn't mean you'll never have to use your masculine, but it does mean working within your feminine energies. When you do that, that allows your masculine to work within his masculine energies. And then of course, ideally, you are going to be shifting from some of those distorted masculine and feminine traits that I mentioned, shifting to the divine masculine and feminine traits. And so that's like a whole other process. So you can know that you're the feminine, but if you are operating in more of a distorted feminine method or energies, then that is gonna cause trouble in your union still. So the ideal is to get to not only the one that is right for you, and that is your soul design, so your, your counterpart can be in the one that is their soul design, but it's also for both you and your counterpart to move to those more divine traits. Um, you know, obviously you don't have to be perfect, but Most of the time you want to be working from those divine energies rather than from those distorted ones. So I hope this was helpful to you in figuring out whether you're the masculine or the feminine in your twin soul union. I have found this very useful for myself, and I— once I figured out that I was a feminine, which was a really challenging thing for me to accept at first because I did grow up in a patriarchal society, and I did want to achieve success, and I did see quite a bit of success using some of the distorted masculine. So I was able, you know, doing that was, um, doing that was actually really helpful to me. Unfortunately, what happened is that I was achieving a lot of outer success without achieving inner success. And the reason is because, like, it just makes so much sense because I'm not built to be the masculine in this twin soul union. So of course I was, I was achieving things that looked good on paper, but it just wasn't resonating with me. It was actually making me really miserable and depressed. Once I switched to that feminine mode, and once I really accepted that I was the feminine because the feminine is much more flowy and like not as ordered and not as, you know, not necessarily the one who's driving the hard results and the hard successes. They're still contributing greatly to the success, but they're not necessarily getting results in a what I'll call a distorted masculine or patriarchal way. And that can be a little challenging for the feminines to accept and for the feminines to really move out of that place of control and trying to create structure and so on. So, but once I found that once I moved out of that energy of the masculine that I was able to really achieve both the inner success and the outer success. So I was achieving the outer success, and it was in areas that I really cared about and that made me feel really, really good. Um, and I'll just give you an example. So some of the things I accomplished when I was in the other— when when I was in kind of my distorted masculinity, I was able to get into one of the top MBA schools in the country at age 22. So that was a big one. I was able to buy a condo at age 23, a condo in Chicago at age 23, uh, based off of my earnings as an entry-level, uh, software engineer. And then I was able to switch careers and work my way up to a 6-figure job in marketing at tech startups. So that was, that, that was a lot of external success for me at a very young age. But when I finally let a lot of that go, and when I finally stepped into my feminine, I was able to see that like none of that actually matter to me. And the things that do matter to me, uh, certainly creating beauty and being an artist. So I'm definitely just much more of an artist. I also just really love to help people, so I still use some of my, some of my, um, skill sets from before, uh, but I'm using them to reach more people. I also found that I was more of an educator and I really care about like nurturing, nurturing people and like helping them through challenging issues. I also really care about my friendships and just really just trying to share love with people. That, that type of stuff is very important to me. And I've seen myself able to achieve success and it doesn't, it doesn't look the same on the outside, but I'm actually achieving much more success. By just being true to myself. So I just wanted to share that, um, and that's my personal experience, but it could resonate with some of you who are trying to figure this out, which one you are. If you're interested in the Inner Union framework, definitely check out cardreadingqueen.com/freebies, and then also just be, uh, be alert to this channel and get on my email list, that sort of thing, so that you know when the book and the course come out. Thank you so much for watching. Have a beautiful and blessed day.