Why You Don't Get to Ascend Without Your Twin Soul

Hey there, sovereigns! Monica Grace from cardreadingqueen.com here, and today's content is about why you don't get to ascend without your twin soul. So this was a lesson for me, and it was a follow-up of an energy healing I did a couple weeks ago. And there are a couple different lessons that I learned from that, so the next probably a couple episodes, and also some of the recent episodes have been about this healing and all the insights I had. And so this energy healing has really been shifting things for me. I think I'm getting to the tail end of it, and I wanted to make sure I captured it all and shared it with all of you, uh, in order to just help you on your own twin soul journey. So, uh, yeah, that's, that's kind of the background on that. So what was going on for me, I think I said in a recent episode, uh, probably, I don't know, 10 to 15 episodes back maybe at this point, but I was saying how I, um, I I had spent a number of months, and really over a year, not really— I was doing my healing work when it came up, but I wasn't actively pursuing my healing work at the level I am at the moment. You know, I wasn't doing energy healings, I wasn't doing tarot readings, I wasn't like doing, uh, work specifically to break through my blocks. And the reason why is because my husband and I had healed something really huge, uh, a number of blocks that we had in our relationship. Like, we had it— we had a big healing, um, kind of towards the middle to end of 2018. And then we, you know, once we did our healing work around that, we basically got pregnant right away. And then most of 2019 I spent, you know, nurturing that pregnancy into reality, um, in the sense that I was caring for myself. I also, you know, basically took a break from working as well, and I was really just focused on our child. And so going into this year, you know, this year has been a little bit crazy, but I've been transitioning back into my regular work habits. Of course, I have a kid now, so that has shifted as well. Uh, and it's only been, you know, the last couple months that I've really been feeling like, okay, it's time for my husband and I to address more of the things that we were still struggling with, um, as of 2018, but we've kind of put them on hold because we were really just enjoying the, enjoying the fruits of our labor that we had, like enjoying the level that we had already attained. And it was, you know, it was like a new, a huge new level of peace for us. And we also wanted to enjoy the birth of our child and ground into that as a new family. And so I wasn't in a place of wanting to really shake things up or have a ton of difficult conversations or anything like that. I was just in a place of like, I want to enjoy my life and, uh, feel a lot of peace around this because there's other— there's other things that are more important to me than this at the moment. And so again, I was still doing my healing. I still handled everything that came up for me, but I wasn't going after it aggressively the way I'm doing a little bit more now. So as I've stepped into doing some more healing work, it has caused more tension with my husband and I, and, um, it's fine. It's, it's totally fine. We're working through things and everything, everything is still good basically. Uh, but one of the things that I was upset about through all of this was that I wasn't seeing my my husband, reflecting my core choices. And so some of my core choices, one example was that I was trying to, and still am, um, trying to get physically more healthy. So trying to have better eating habits, uh, trying to lose weight, which I have been losing weight, and also just desiring to incorporate working out into my life a bit more. And so all of those things I have been doing. I also, uh, wanted, you know, I also wanted us to partner in business, and this has always been a dream of mine. Now recently I found out that this was, um, it was a desire, but I was coming at it from a very codependent place. So I have to clear that before, you know, it's, it it's not going to happen until I clear that. Uh, and it— I, I don't know if I truly desired or not. I haven't quite figured that out, but still working through that. But that was something else that was a challenge for me. And then there were, you know, I wanted to really— I've been trying to manifest a new home for us, which is a big undertaking, and it's going to be a multi-year project for us. But in, you know, part of that was I was really trying to get our current house in better order and to a level that I was proud of and excited about. And that includes our yard, which has been a mess historically. We haven't really put a lot of attention on our yard. The previous owners, they had to move fairly suddenly, so they had redone the entire inside of the house, and the house was a total mess before, um, when they purchased it. And they, they put tons of money into redoing the house, and so we got to just inherit the house, um, very nicely done. Like, there are a couple bigger projects, like we want to add a bathroom to the third floor, but other than that, the house was pretty much done when we got it. And we wouldn't We— it's like wasn't very livable before. So the, the thing with that, though, is that the previous owners did not have time to redo the yard and then we didn't do anything with the yard. And so the yard just got worse and worse and like it's literally just a field of weeds and a chain-link fence right now. It's in pretty bad shape. So beginning of spring and summer, I was doing the little bit that I could to start weeding it and start getting rid of plants and that sort of thing. So in, um, you know, in all of this, I wasn't feeling like my husband was making the same choice as me, and he— I didn't feel like he was reflecting those choices back to me. Now that I've kind of looked into that more, I see that he was. Um, so one example is that Like, shortly after I made that video, um, where I was talking about this originally, my husband, you know, he came to me and he said that he wanted me to consult on a project for one of his companies. And, you know, I, I frequently talk to him about his company anyway, so I'm, I'm all up to date, but I've never officially done anything for his company because I just, I don't work for them. Like I did, I don't work for them. So, and we talked about like maybe I should be working for them and that sort of thing. And it's always, it's never really gone anywhere, the conversation. And a big part of that is like, I don't want to work for them. And they, like my husband doesn't want to hire me. Like we just don't, we don't really want to work together on that at the core. So we've had those conversations because they could use somebody with marketing expertise and I have it, but it, it's like it just isn't the right fit for really either of us. And so he asked me if I could consult them on a project, and I, you know, I, I think in the past I would have been pretty um, what's the word? I didn't— I don't really know what word I'm looking for, but, um, maybe hostile toward this idea. Um, hostile is a— hostile is too strong of a word, but I would have been not super interested. And the biggest reason why is because I come from a world where if you want to hire me, you have to pay me. Um, and that, that's always been a big thing for me. It's like if Like, even if you're gonna hire me for an hour, you have to pay me. Like, I'm going to invoice you and I'm not gonna be cheap on my rates. Like, and so that's just kind of leftover from me working in freelancing for so long. I just, I don't work for people for free in any way, basically. So of course I work on my own projects for free. I'm creating this content for free. But that's, that's like my own project, so I'm not going to work for a company for free. And this has always been a place where these conversations have devolved for us because I'm like, well, of course you have to pay me, and he's always like, eh, like, okay. Um, and it's not that he— it's not that he doesn't want to pay me or that it's even an issue. It's more that he, uh, you know, it's probably like more administrative, like he doesn't want to have to set me up as the employee, or not an employee, but like a contractor. He doesn't want to— like, there's a lot of annoyance and paperwork around paying somebody, you know. I don't know that he had— then he has to like adjust the budget, he has to like get approval from people, and he just doesn't want to do that. He just— he's like, I just need like 30 minutes of your time, so can you get on a call with, you know, this team member or whatever. And so he's always wanted it to be much more casual. And I think he also, uh, another thing is he wants to kind of try it out before and see if it's valuable before he would really even commit to it in any big way. So that was— so he— so normally I would not be open to the idea, but because I had— because this was happening right after I made that video I was kind of like, you know what, why don't I just do it? It's not that much of my time, so why don't I just do it and not make a fuss about the money? Because I know that if I do that, then it like shuts the conversation down. And so I tried it and it was really fun and we did enjoy it and it did work out and I didn't, you know, I didn't ask for compensation. It wasn't a huge deal.. And he, you know, he recently asked me to do it, do more consulting with them. Um, and so I was kind of like, you know what, this is, this is not the ideal way for me to partner with him. Like, this isn't my ideal partnership, business partnership with him, but at least it shows us that we can work together on something. Um, so it was like, it was almost like a In law of attraction, there's, um, two terms. One is the alpha reflection, and then the second is the beta reflection. And so it was very similar to like an alpha reflection or beta reflection. And it's basically like right after you put an intention out into the world, um, something small comes back to you. Um, so like if you were like, I want to make more money, and that was your intention, you might find a dollar bill on the ground. And so it's like, it's not your full it's not your full order. Like, you, you probably want to manifest more money than a dollar, but it's in— it's just a reflection to say like, okay, universe has your order. Um, we, you know, we got your order in and we're working on that for you, and here's, here's something, here's a small, um, response or like message back to show you that, uh, we understand. Or sometimes the universe will send a message back to you that it's not, it's not exactly what you want, so that it forces you to get more specific about what you do want. And so this was very similar to that. Um, so that's an example where we actually were really in sync on that. But I will say that I was feeling very frustrated with this, and basically everything I just mentioned has— I have seen those alpha and beta reflections at this point. So like with the yard is another example. I was frustrated for like a month or two that, you know, my husband wasn't out there like weeding with me or like watching our kid while I did it. Or, you know, I was feeling frustrated over that and recently he kind of got it together and order— you know, I don't know if ordered is the right word, but, um, worked with the company that's doing our fence, and so we're getting on their books to get our new fence. So he did eventually get on board, but there was that period of time where I was feeling very frustrated and kind of seething inside and, you know, building resentment inside myself and not, you know, not expressing it um, over that. And so I was definitely feeling like— I, I, I was feeling like, okay, he's not on board with this, so I'm just gonna go make these changes on my own. Um, and, and it was this energy of like, you know what, if we can't partner on this, then I will just do it by myself. Like, I will manifest everything I want by myself and not— like, I will do all the work for it and I'm not even gonna worry about him or involve him. And so more recently, God, my higher power— so it could be the universe for you, or whoever, um, Source, Spirit, your Creator, whatever you want to call it, um— God for me was telling me— it was pretty funny— he was like, yeah, you don't get to decide by yourself. Like, newsflash, you you were on the twin soul journey because you wanted an ascension partner, and you wanted to unite with your ascension partner so the two of you could ascend together in life. And he was just saying, like, you're attracted to this because you want that partner, and you don't get to ascend by yourself now. Like, you don't get to choose a, like, shamanic ascension path or, you know, something, something else, because you have— you chose this already. And so, uh, this frustration with my husband, it really came to a head recently. And basically what was happening is I was feeling very exhausted, which is hard for me to feel. I'm a pretty energetic person. I was feeling very exhausted in part because I couldn't sleep at night, so I was only getting like, like 3 or 4 hours of sleep, uh, as my child transitioned to like another sleep schedule. Like, like basically a kid just— it's like whenever you figure out what works for them, they just change, um, and then they, they want something else. And so he was shifting to another sleep schedule, so then for like weeks and weeks I was getting like 3 or 4 hours of sleep every night. So that was happening and then we had this Father's Day celebration. It was— and it was just our family members because recording this in the middle of a global pandemic called COVID or coronavirus, some people call it. So we had this get-together at our house and it was only family members who we see on a regular basis anyway. So we weren't increasing our exposure.. But the Father's Day celebration, there were 2 birthdays included and we had a 4-day celebration that really was a lot and we had to get like our whole entire house ready. Um, and this is not a small house. Uh, it, you know, it's over 4,000 square feet. I clean it mostly by myself. I, I keep, I do the upkeep mostly by myself. Um, and it's not perfect. Our house is not like super clean or anything, but it is like a livable clean, and I do have to clean regularly to keep it that way. Um, so yeah, I was, I was like very, very tired, uh, more tired than I think I've ever been in my life, um, aside from pregnancy, which was also very tiring. But I was very, very tired, and I really needed a break from caregiving our child, who I also— I'm also the main caregiver for, though my husband's around a lot, but I'm also the main caregiver for. Um, and my husband— I was telling him how tired I was for like weeks. Um, my husband was trying to help me out, but he would— it was like these 10-minute breaks. So he'd come down and like he's making his coffee and he'd pick up our child and, um, you know, he'd be like, "Yeah, like take a couple minutes to do whatever you want." So this was happening a lot and he, you know, and so I was, I was still exhausted. No, no real surprise there. Um, and he was, you know, he was like, "Yeah, I'm trying to do everything I can to help you with your exhaustion." And so eventually this came to a head. I was like, this— I was like, that what you're doing is not working. It's not helpful. It's not what I asked for. And then I was— I'm a little dramatic and like, like I like to say things, um, very metaphorically sometimes. So it's like, you're offering me a penny when I've asked for $1,000, was the metaphor that I used. Um, and then I also was telling him— I was very, very honest— it was like, you're giving me only what you're willing to offer, and it's not for me, it's for you to assuage your guilt over how tired I am and how, um, exhausted like this family is making me. And then I told him that he— if he wants to know what I actually need, he would have to, um, first of all, he'd have to listen to me and find out what I needed. And what would actually be helpful to me, and then he'd have to give it to me, and it would be much harder than the little pittance that he was giving me of breaks, you know, because, um, and, and it, you know, there was a side of this that I had too. Um, so I, as I was saying all of this to him, um, very frustrated with him, what he was actually doing, it was giving me a lot of clarity because I realized I had to ask myself, well, what would actually be very helpful? And I realized what would be helpful is if he watched our child in the morning. And so he would have to get up a little bit earlier, like an hour earlier, which he's usually up anyway. But if he would watch our child in the morning and then I could have some like true peace in the morning and kind of start my day off better because before I was with my child from like 6:30 to about 9:30, and then again from 10 to 6. So it was really like a 12-hour day with my kid, um, mostly by myself aside from like a 10-minute break. So that was the situation. And, uh, what I realized— so once I finally got clear that I was not partnering with my husband. Because I felt, you know, I think when these things happen, it's like you feel like— you feel very resentful. And I felt very resentful toward my husband because I was, um, it was very much like, why, why can't he just like support me more? And I realized though that I wasn't seeing partnership back from him because I wasn't truly choosing to partner with him. Because partnering with somebody is you have to communicate with them first of all what you need from them, and you have to be very clear about that. And then they can say like yes or no, but you don't get to be angry at them for things that you haven't— you like, if you don't have a solution, you don't get to be angry at the person for not having a solution either. Um, And it really showed me— it really showed me all the ways in which I struggle to partner with people. And, you know, I work by myself. I make all of my own decisions. I'm a pretty independent person when it comes to work, and I've never had a business partner really, and, um, and certainly not someone who was 50/50 with me. So I've had people working for me, but I've never had somebody that I was like partnering with, uh, and this experience was just showing me all of that, showing me all the places where I was not, um, partnering with my twin soul and why it was reflecting back to me very poorly. It was not showing me what I wanted. So your twin soul is going to be your partner in ascension, and it's very important to understand that even just being called to the twin soul journey, um, you know, everybody has a twin soul and partner in ascension, but the fact that you're called to the twin soul journey specifically means that you are meant to spend your life and, and like this is what you're meant to be working toward next, but you're meant to be spending your life with your twin soul and partnering with them as you go through life and as you continue on your ascension journey. So this is kind of like a pit stop, and you can try to get off this journey and ascend on your own, but it doesn't really work because what you actually desire is to ascend with your twin soul. And that's what you being on this journey shows you. Like, it's, it's a desire in your heart. That's why you're watching this video or listening to this podcast, because you want to go through the ascension journey with your twin soul in the physical. You want to be physically and actively partnering with them on your healing work. So, you know, taking the ascension path through the twin through the twin soul journey is going to bring you your twin soul. And in truth, taking any ascension path would eventually bring you your twin soul as well. So what's happening though is that in terms of ascension, you are, you know, you're healing, you're healing, um, you're healing things little by little, I guess. And some people, you know, if you have 5 things, 5 major things that you have to heal, um, in order to be ascended, and some people are going to heal them like 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Some people heal them 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Some people will heal them 3, 4, 5, 1, 2, and so on. And there's lots of different combinations. And so what, like, the only thing this is showing you is that out of let's say there's 5 things on ascension, and I'm not saying, I'm not saying there are, I'm just saying for this example, like your twin soul, uniting with your twin soul would be, um, one of the first things you're healing, especially if twin souls and the concept of twin souls is what brought you to the ascension journey to begin with. So it's like you're probably going to be healing your twin soul stuff first, um, you may be healing like life purpose stuff after that, and like And it kind of just keeps going from there. Poverty, you might be healing that. Um, you might, you know, you might be healing building a family, whatever it is, but you're going to heal these things in a certain order, basically. So any ascension path is eventually going to bring you your twin soul. So if you're stuck with your twin soul, you can just focus on ascension in general. Or, you know, one of the things that a lot of people do is focus on like a life purpose or or divine purpose in the meantime. Now, your creator wants you to unite with your twin soul because they are that piece of your ascension. So you're going to ascend much faster when you have your twin soul with you, because it's the same as like if you were starting a business by yourself versus starting a business with a partner that you are in deep harmony with, you know, the business with the partner is going to move forward very quickly. And the business by yourself is going to move forward, move you guys forward faster, if you— if your relationship is in a deep disharmony. So that's, you know, that's kind of why people are not united with their twin soul, because it's not— it's not going to be helpful to you. It's not going to be— it's not like compassionate to unite with your twin soul and then have a ton of disharmony. It's just going to like push you guys apart again. But, um, you know, basically your higher power, uh, does want you to unite with your twin soul because it'll help you ascend faster and, um, is always providing that supportive energy to make it happen. So you can do your healing work on your own, and you are meant to be doing your healing work on your own during this process of physical separation from your twin soul. And even afterwards, uh, you, you have to master doing your work on your own because you're mastering, um, you're mastering like healing codependency basically. So then once you can heal that codependency then the two of you can unite. And from there, you'll still be healing on your own, um, and you'll have mastered not needing them to like heal with you. So it's, it's really going to be a, you know, you're still kind of just on your own, but you're with your twin soul at that point. Um, so that's it. That was basically the lesson that I was seeing is, uh, all the areas in which I was not partnering with myself in many ways. And a lot of it was around communication, uh, and not— like, a lot of it was around not really knowing what I wanted and having that codependency on someone else that they were going to provide what I wanted when I hadn't communicated it to them. And then the other piece was like communicating what I need, so figuring out what I needed on my own, communicating that and then I was able to see that partnership returning to me. So the last thing I'll say about this is you do desire your twin soul for ascension. You are meant to ascend with your twin soul, and you do have to heal that wounding around partnership in order to be with your twin soul. That's one of the things that you will have to heal because the partnership is important. And sometimes people will say, you know, I'm doing really well on my own, especially in later stages of this journey. I'm doing really well on my own, so why do I even— I like, I don't even need to be with my twin soul anymore because I'm already doing well. And the answer is that yes, you are to heal everything that is needy around partnering with your twin soul. But, um, that doesn't— you're not meant to heal your desire to partner with your twin soul. So you heal all the needs, and then you can say like, oh well, it's better to just be on my own. But, um, in truth, you still desire to be with your twin soul. And so the reason you want to be with your twin soul is because it's your desire. So you want, you want to manifest your desire. And then the, you know, if there's any conflict and chaos between you, it's actually that, um, the two of you are ascending faster. So you're growing faster together, and that's what the chaos comes from. So the last thing is that if you are experiencing this dynamic with anybody, twin soul or not, then you do— it would be very easy to quit on them and say like, well, this isn't my twin soul, so I don't have to deal with this. Let me just put up a hard boundary. And that doesn't work. Um, you have to reach— when, when something is coming into your reality to heal, you need to heal it. Um, then, or you're just gonna— if you put up a ton of blocks for healing it, you're just gonna manifest it again. So you have to reach the end of the line with every situation, um, in order to, uh, in order to release that. So even, even if it's a false twin, um, and that's the biggest— that's the other biggest thing I see is like, oh, you know, maybe this person is a false twin, or maybe I'm better off without this person, you know, maybe I don't need this person and I can just be happy on my own. And of course, all that's true, and of course this person could be a false twin, but until you get to the end of the line with that false twin— or really, it doesn't even have to be a false twin, it can be any situation, um, any situation that calls for healing— until you get to the end of that, you don't get to pass go or collect your $200. And Guy was saying like, that's still healing partnership. That's still healing that belief that you can do your, your twin soul journey on your own. So, um, two examples of the last one for me recently is, um, and I talked about the, the ex that I was trying to heal with who like he wouldn't respond to me. And like, um, and I think I'll— I think I have another, video about that at some point that goes into more detail on that and what I learned from it. But it was— it's that one. Um, and you know, the gist of that was that I did have to get to the end of that. And I understand it took me a really long time as well because I kind of kept reaching out to try to get the situation resolved. And I could see in the physical that the situation wasn't— it was already resolved on his end, but energetically I felt like it wasn't resolved. And so until I got to the point where energetically I felt like it was resolved, I couldn't move past it. Um, so it was like very easy to see that like, you know, he didn't want to talk about it or he didn't want to communicate about it, but for me It's like I had to get to the end of that, um, that situation energetically. And so I had gotten to the end of it logically, but the energetic part was not done. And so he's not really a false twin or anything, but that would be an example of the false twin situation. And then another situation was, um, I had a Facebook troll, which I talked about a couple episodes of ago as well, that he is like, he kept trolling me. And so I had to get to the end of that energetically and reach a state of peace there as well. And once I reached that state of peace, and I knew this was gonna happen, once I reached that state of peace, I was like, he's gonna stop commenting on my post. And he has. Like, he doesn't, he doesn't comment on anything I post anymore because there is that energetic peace between us that I've chosen over and over again. And so he is responding to that as well and choosing that peace as well. And so that has been, that has been great, like, and, and it's really cool to see that work where I kind of just manifested his, um, his trolling away, basically., through my own inner healing. So that was cool. All right, so that— hopefully that all made sense. That is everything I have to say about why you don't get to ascend without your twin soul, and I hope it was helpful to you. Thank you so much for watching and listening. You guys know I appreciate you so much. Have a beautiful and blessed day.

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