Ask For Help

You're tuned into Made for Mondays with Justin Lester. Justin Lester is an average guy who refuses to let Mondays control him. Justin is a husband, dad, pastor, student and Jesus follower. He's done a lot, he's learned a lot, and he wants to see you at your best. Let's win Mondays. Hey, Justin, what's up today?

Well, hey everyone. Welcome to Made for Mondays. I hope you guys are having an amazing start to your week. Well, if not, this is the point today. Hopefully we can assist you in beginning your week well and engaging in your week. Well, here's the principles I want to grab a hold and give to you today and in today, instead of some points of purpose, really engaging with some questions that I hope will help you to center yourselves as you go into this week. So let's jump into Made for Mondays Today. I want to mention and engage holistically with this thought in our minds about asking for help, what it means to ask for help. I think too often we hold back and holding back isn't humility, holding back is lying. It's lying and saying that I am too good for this space. But I'm going to hold back and say that what I have inside of me, I'm going to question what I have inside of me. I'm not going to bring it to the forefront. And really the next level of performance that you want to run to is depending on the level of truth you want to engage in. And the first truth is really truth about yourself. Not lying about your ambitions, not minimizing yourself and not feeling, not thinking that others are threatened by your drive. Because the reason you are at tables and the reasons you're in the places you're in is because who you are and what you bring to the table is important. But here's what I want you to do. I want you to hear me ask for help. There are people that are around you and talking to a number of you who probably may be functioning with high functioning anxiety are brilliant and bright people, people who are able to do so much. But the challenge I want to give you is the humility in asking for help, allowing somebody else to be there for you, allowing somebody else to push you beyond your limits, allowing somebody else to be the one who can engage holistically with you and listen to you and engage with you, knowing that there's people that are around you that can help you extend beyond the boundaries you've created. The thing about boundaries themselves is boundaries are the realization there's something I want to cross. Where is it that you're trying to cross over, that somebody else can push you beyond the places you want to cross over. So I see this too many times. I see too many individuals who are so unbelievably gifted and keep themselves silent. Let me tell you, the next level of success you're trying to get to depends on you speaking up, depends on you asking for help, depends on you being humble enough to allow someone else to assist you, to push you to be all that God is calling you to be. A successful person fails to achieve the next level of success because they choose to strive in silence. They don't want to share, they don't want to speak up. They're trying to be appropriate, trying to be realistic, trying to be level headed. And they're trying to make others happy or others comfortable. And so you have these brilliant ideas and you refuse to share them. You have these brilliant dreams and you refuse to bring them up. The most lethal mistake you do in all of that is you refuse to ask for help. Can you imagine if you walked into a room and you didn't bring your arms with you? Like, I know it sounds funny, but imagine you walk into a room, you don't bring your arms with you. It sounds stupid. Whenever we show up into spaces and we sit in silence, we show up into spaces and we don't ask for help. It's as if we left a piece of ourselves at home, left a piece of ourselves in our car. This same thing goes beyond our businesses, but it also goes to our home lives. Imagine if you walked into your marriage or walked among your children and didn't bring your, I don't know, your arms, your feet, your legs. Because the bits and pieces of you don't come there. I want to challenge us to get beyond the devils of competition. It's so sad when I see husbands and wives competing instead of working in collaboration. It's so sad when I see co workers competing instead of working in collaboration. We work at the same company, we live in the same house, two became one, we parent the same children, we are going for the same goals and yet we're competing with one another. I want to challenge you, ask for help. Because if you don't ask for help, the right people, the right insight, the right wisdom, the right opportunities, the right individuals cannot come into your life. God has a very particular way of orchestrating things around us. God has a very particular way of orchestrating life, to become all that life needs to be. But it's going to start and end when we're humble enough to be willing to say, I can't figure something out. And here's what asking for help does at the end of all of that, it gives someone else the opportunity to use their gift to my leaders on here. Who are the people that you work with that this week they can let their gifts shine even brighter and be affirmed by your presence because they're following you, by you simply asking them to help you? Who are the individuals you lead? Who are the individuals you work with? What about your spouse? What about your loved ones, your children, if you are willing enough to ask them for. For help? My son, as young as he is, he's only three years old, decided that he was going to go to the store one day with my wife, and my wife and my son were at the store. My son decided to get this small little lawnmower. It doesn't cut anything. It's a piece of plastic. And he came home and in this quest to be like me, to emulate me, to imitate me, my son simply wanted something that he could do to help me cut all of our grass. So I didn't want to have him out there. I was so worried about everything getting all caught and he got so frustrated with himself. He got frustrated because he wanted to do everything you possibly could just to be present with me. Who are the people that simply want coffee with you, want to be present with you, want to be around you that you can go up to this week and ask them to help you, ask them to help you read something, to proofread something, to engage with something to go someplace to help drive you someplace? Who are the people that simply want to help you ask for help? It's amazing what you can do alone, but it's even more amazing what you can do together with someone else. So here's my questions for you. Here's our points of purpose as simple questions. Number one, who are the individuals this week that you are going to be humble enough to ask to help you? I want you to write their names down. If you're in your phone listening to this podcast, I want you to write this double tap over, write this in your notes. Who are the individuals this week whose untapped potential depends on you tapping into the potential to bring it into the world that you can go to and ask for help? Who are the people that have demonstrated some levels of trust in your life that this is a week for you to go up to them and trust them by asking them for help? What is it inside of you that you don't want others to see. It's a weakness, trauma. Some fear that you don't want others to see. And that's the reason why you haven't asked anyone to help you change that this week. You are so unbelievably gifted and unbelievably talented. Maybe this season of your life is depending on a season of collaboration and not a season of isolation. Be great. This week you are absolutely amazing. Everything is still possible. Yes, there's someone else out there who is capable as well. Let's build it together and if the spirit of competition gets in the way, kill the spirit of competition with the spirit of collaboration. You've got this. Let's say our affirmation together as we go into this week. Repeat after me. Say I am me. I can be me. No one will stop me from being me. Have a wonderful, wonderful week. Have an even better day. Have a great, great Monday. You're made for this. God bless.

This has been Made for Mondays with Justin Lester. Be sure to follow Justin online at MrJlester and online at www.jlester.com. see you next week. Go win. You were made for.