Guest: Brian Hendricks - Leading and Transition Part 1

Well, hey, everybody. My name is Justin Lester and you're tuned into Made for Mondays. You guys have been kicking it with your boy for all year and I've been happy to do these different series with all of you. Thank you all so very much for being a part of the Made for Monday crew where you guys are leaders and change agents that are going to where you are bringing all of yourself there and making the decision to live for you. Hey, this is another day, another great day and a day you will conquer because you were Made for Monday. We're beginning a brand new series today of people and innovators and thinkers that I believe will bless your heart. Bless you. Where you are individuals who are continuing to do amazing work in their communities in light of everything going on in the world. And as we transition back into the world, I believe these individuals will assist you to be all that, you know, you definitely can be. Today, I'm so excited to welcome one of my best friends. His name is Brian Hendricks. Brian and I have been friends since, well, Marquette University. As a matter of fact, this is Dwyane Wade signed jersey. Both of us have Dwyane Wade signed jerseys. Well, and the way we got them. Well, thank you, D. Wade, because that's the secret him and I are gonna take to our grave. How we got these signatures. Today, Brian and I were managers for Marquette women's basketball team. And as we grew together and grown, Brian is a dad. Brian is a leader. Brian is doing amazing things coaching one of the best women's basketball programs in the state of Wisconsin. And I believe when Brian talked about education and sports and coaching, you were going to be immensely blessed by pouring in from brother Brian Hendricks. So take a moment, get ready for this. Situate yourself. If you're Dr. Open your mind up. Make sure you got your tag button so you can tag some quotes because Brian's going to levy so much knowledge onto all of us to ensure that we are Made for Mondays. Now, this was a pre recorded conversation on Zoom, so you know what that means. The audio quality isn't perfect, but it's perfect for you. Let's jump into this. Brian, take it away. We are made for this. Now tell us why.

Well, hey everyone, it's Justin here. Welcome to Made for Mondays. I'm so happy to have all you guys with us this morning. Please be sure that as you guys jump into this podcast that you like, you share, you post it, you put it online, whatever it is, especially if it's blessing you. A takeaway as we get to even Our points of purpose and affirmation at the end as well. Today I'm starting a new series with some amazing, amazing people from across this country that I just think are really doing amazing work in the fields they're in. But also, as we transition from this season of Corona, I called it Covid and Cops. Just like everything that's been going on from our world, our thinking, our homes and quarantines, I thought the best ways to do it was to help all of us navigate the spaces you're working in. I believe once again, you guys hear me say this all the time. This is not the season of following. It's a season of leading. And for some of you who are leaders, this is great. For you, those of you who are followers, this will then hopefully cultivate the skill sets that when you do get positioned in leadership positions, you've gone in there, you're running into it and not hoping and hopping and skipping when you get into it. So today I have one of my best friends and just someone that we've grown. It was amazing when we first met until we got to. We graduated from school six years later with multiple degrees and just. We've done a lot of things. We laugh, we've cried together. We've been in high moments and low moments and just amazing things. And it's amazing how friendship went all the way from 2006, and now we're sitting in 20. 20. 20. Yeah. 2020 seems like it's not year that never ends, but sitting in 2020 and just an amazing man, an awesome person, and just. He'll be able to tell you more about him. But you guys helped me. Welcome to Made for Mondays Today. Brian Ryan Hendricks.

Justin, man, Totally. We've known each other since 2006, when we were like little freshmen in college trying to make it as radio hosts.

Dude, listen.

For 15 years now, we're actually on a podcast together.

Oh, my God, I forgot about radio, dude. It's just I've been reflecting on this. I've been hit up about something in Marquette because my sister graduated from there. And, like, I was sitting there joking. I'm like, jesus, man. That was like Dominic James.

Like, that was the big three originally, like they said.

And the thing that made me feel so old was when they said, how many years Wesley Matthews been out of school? And I was like, don't. Don't do that.

No, don't bring that up. No. Oh, my gosh, man.

Brian, tell us a little bit about you. Like, who are you? What do you do all of that, like, so we can get a picture of who Brian Hendricks is. Yeah.

So I like to say I'm a guy that doesn't like to be bored. I do a lot of different things and it just keeps me motivated. So I guess my main job, my main title is I'm the director of college counseling at an all girls high school, Divine Savior Holy Angels in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. So that is kind of like my normal job, if you will. On top of that, I am also the varsity basketball coach here, going on year three as the coach here. But I've been coaching long time. Even before you and I were managers and gas with the women's basketball team at Marquette, I'd be coaching aau. So, yeah, this is my third year at DSHA as a head basketball coach. On top of that, in the summers, I am a leadership and training consultant for a company called Dynamic Developments, which is owned, operated, and created by my father. So always nice to have a dad that, you know, does something I like to do. So I train, do training for him in the summers. What else? Those are kind of like the big three. I'm in the process of creating my own podcast, digital web series, Media Future media conglomerate, if you will, with a good buddy of ours, Tim Paul.

That's awesome.

Yeah, man, I'm all over the place. But the main things I do, I coach, I'm a counselor, and like I said, a leadership communication consultant over the summer. That's kind of what takes up most of my time when I'm not being a dad and husband.

I was about to say, man, I was like, where's the day job at? Who's the real boss here?

Oh, the real boss is my wonderful wife, Jackie. Next week will be year six of marriage.

Congratulations, man.

Thank you. Yeah, we've been together since 2008, so six years of marriage, 12 years together, two wonderful kids, including a two and a half year old and an eight month old. So a little girl, Reese is two and a half. And Brooks has just turned eight months. Yesterday, actually.

Jeez, man, that's awesome, man. That's a blessing. I know. Parenting is a blessing. And to hear just all the things on your plate, man. So with all the things on your plate, and you mentioned leadership consulting, you mentioned college counseling, you mentioned varsity basketball. I want to get to emotions with that in a second. But just like professionally, how have you navigated this time from like March to now in terms of just keeping who you are and knowing eventually you'd have to do it again, but, like, not just adapting in Covid. But how have you professionally navigated this time of. COVID Yeah.

So from a professional standpoint, it's just literally trying to take it one day at a time and finding out what's next. So, you know, a great example is, you know, in the college counseling world, so much of what I do and what the students do is meeting face to face with either myself or with other admissions counselors, you know, trying to represent the universities. So we're doing a lot of. We can't meet face to face, you know, with admissions counselor. So how can we meet? So a lot of it has been, you know, virtual meetings. What does that look like? How do we put on a virtual college fair? I'm doing a lot of research on, you know, instead of trying to reinvent the wheel, you know, who's doing it well right now and how can I steal from them? You know, that's. That's my philosophy on coaching too. You know, don't. You're not. I'm not gonna. I'm not smart enough to create something new. Okay. I'm gonna steal from people that do it better than me and then perfect it for what my students need. So doing a lot of that, we're really using Zoom and Microsoft Teams a lot to meet one on one with students. Part of the way I really have done counseling in the past is just really large group counseling. So you always have your one on one meetings. But, you know, especially in a high school setting, I get most of my contact with the girls when 10, 15, 20 of them just show up in my office in passing period, or if I'm just walking down the hallways. Mr. Hunter's got a question. Mr. Hendrick's got a question. You're just addressing as you go. We can't do that now. So it is. How else can I reach all these students? So social media has been a big trend that I've gotten into recently. You know, Facebook and Instagram, trying to just get big messages out to girls. The biggest one is TikTok. So I know you love that. Have a TikTok account for the DSHA College Center. And our very first video has over 100,000 views.

Wow.

I know, which is cool. Now the rest of them, when I'm actually trying to teach the girl something, you know, drops steadily. But, you know, so far this year, I've had girls say, hey, how do I do this? Oh, wait, that was on a TikTok. And so I'm reaching girls I would never have reached before, even just pasting periods, just by Kind of switching the way I'm thinking and seeing what other. Like I said, seeing what other people are doing and doing it that way. That's been the biggest piece, I think, professionally. And you could say the same thing with coaching virtual webinars. The Wisconsin Basketball Coaches Clinic is coming up next week, I believe it is. And it's. I have my whole calendar already set for which coaches I want to hear, you know, and when it comes to, like, the leadership consulting, one of the biggest things we've, you know, for years, the consulting world has been based on interactions in person, teaching. So as soon as Covid hit, you know, I was talking to my dad about what he was doing. He's like, I don't know, all my classes being canceled. I don't know what to do. And I said, well, let's make it virtual. Like, let's take you with your presentation, the best of it, and combine it with what works virtually. So we actually took his two main classes and digital. Digitalized them or made them virtual this year. And the company we did it for loves it so much. Like, you know what? This might be how we want to do it forever now, instead of spending this money to fly me to Maine or to fly me out to LA every year, hey, you can reach a larger number of people by doing it virtually. And we just reworked it so we're still getting the interpersonal connection. It's just a different interpersonal connection.

Wow.

So that's the biggest thing I would say is you just. It's not the same, but you got to figure out how to still make it work.

Yeah, that's real, man. I guess with that, too. And this. I didn't put this in the original list, but I'm curious because of the spaces you're navigating in emotionally. So how. So that's professional here. Navigating it. But I'm thinking about high school girls that prayerfully won't get robbed of their basketball season, you know, and you guys had a lot of success, man, the last couple years, man.

You can't be robbed. So we were last March, right before Wisconsin canceled all the state tournaments for high school. We were actually in Green Bay the night before, playing in the state semifinal.

Wow.

So we were ready to play. We were all. We were literally in the hotel, and we had to wake the girls up and tell them that we're not playing in the final. Season's over.

Wow. So I guess that's. So that for me, I'm thinking about. Because you're talking about the major Times for high school. So 17, 18 year olds or 16 year olds going into, like, the major moments of their lives, and you're working with them as a coach and then also getting them even to, like, understand things about school, how are you navigating even their emotions, you know, in a very emotional moment about college and, you know, not having sports or hopefully this year having it.

Right? A lot of it. And it just starts with validating. Validating that it's okay to be angry, to be upset. I'll use the basketball example. So as soon as we found out, all my assistants and I were like, how do we tell the girls? And at this point, it's all over social media, so they know. Like, how do we tell them that? Everything we've worked for this entire season, you know, even dating back to last year, when was my first or two years ago, my first year, everything was built towards this tournament. And now it's gone. And it was. What's nice for us is, you know, you know me really well.

I'm.

I'm really rooted into my faith. So being at a Catholic school, I can openly speak about that. And that's one of the first things we said was ladies tournaments. This sucks. That plain and simple. Like, I'm angry. Whether I agree or disagree doesn't matter. I'm angry, I'm sad, I'm disappointed. You know, how are you feeling? We got out the that. How are you doing? How are you feeling? And then okay to me is not an answer. I want to dig deeper. I want to know what's going on. And then we came with that. The idea that we don't understand why the tournament got canceled. We don't understand why Covid is happening. We don't understand, you know, the race issues that are happening. You know, some people don't understand that. But if you're a Christian, your belief is, it's not what I want or what I understand, it's what God wants or what God's will is. And with that being said, my biggest message to girls, whether it's coaching or whether it's, you know, navigating the fact that they can't go visit colleges and that everything is so unsure, is that you have every right to be angry and upset and sad with God's plan. You do. That's human nature. But what sets us apart as Christians and as believers is that even though you're angry, you're sad, you're mad, you don't understand, you're annoyed with what God's plan is, you know, his plan, eventually, if you put your faith in it, is going to lead to what you should be doing to better things for you. And I think that's the hardest conversation that I've had, not just with the girls, but internally, you know, I prayed that God your will be done, your will be done. And as things keep coming, I'm like, I don't like what your will is right now. This is not good for me. This is not fun for me. But you just have to keep that focus that eventually putting your faith in him is going to bring about the right thing. That's how our conversations have gone is a lot of validation and a lot of how does your faith support you in this even when you don't understand it?

That's so much wisdom, and I hope you guys are hearing this. That's so much wisdom that you mentioned. Okay. Is not an answer invalidating your feelings. Right? Like, we were, we had a conversation with a therapist way back in March and they said the first thing everybody has to do is grieve. And the issue that we're not doing is grieving that we've lost an entire situation. And until we grieve it, you know, and validate, like you said, these emotions that we'll never be able to really own this season. And then we'll try to use it as a productivity contest and not just sit in the season like, I'm grieving. I lost my March, my April, my May, my June, July. You know, like we were planning to go to Napa for anniversary. And so like Auntie Rona showed up. You know what I mean? It took away everything.

And I think from a, a leadership perspective, something that hit me hard over the summer was that piece of internalizing it. Like, I had to be so happy and so positive and so good for all the seniors and the, you know, the rising seniors this summer or for all the basketball players or for all the people, you know, I'm teaching over the summer. And you have to fake it almost. And I never took that time to say, wow, this sucks. And you know, it got to the summer, there were times where I was just miserable because I wasn't able to confront it or face it, or I got away from my meditation because I didn't have time, so I was too busy. Help. So that, that self care piece, I think on top of it, which has within the last month for me personally, I've gotten back into it changes everything. Because when I'm healthy and I'm good and I'm in a good mindset I'm no longer just faking it to everybody else. I'm actually living it. And they can difference.

Wow. That was the question I was going to get to, but you kind of already explained in terms of what you learned about yourself. So with that together, man, like, as you transition to the workplace, how are you going to lead them differently as you've learned that about yourself in terms of meditation, self care, being one, confronting things head on early and then also at the same time knowing where their emotions and heads might be as you transition to the workplace and the people that are looking up to you, how. How have you evolved as a leader as you transition back into the workplace?

Yeah, the biggest thing I can say is I got to walk the walk. I. I've been on a very like, spiritual wellness journey, I would say over the last, just over a year now. And it's been listening to podcasts, reading articles, just everything. Health, spiritual wellness is trying to get better. And a lot of it was when I first started, it was easy. You know, I listened to it, I preached it, and I did it. And then when things got hard, it wasn't easy anymore. I didn't. I would preach it, but I wouldn't. I stopped listening to podcasts about it. I stopped getting my faith, I stopped living it, but the words were still coming out. And there's a difference between me just saying it and me practicing. And other people can see that. So I think that's the biggest piece for me, you know, getting back into the school year, you know, where just a month in now with having girls in the building, you know, hybrid model basketball, open gyms just started last week. And for me, without having like true proof of me, you know, eating healthy or, you know, getting into my devotional or meditating every day, there's a difference between when I just speak it and tell the girls, hey, this is what you should do, because it's helped me versus I can actually show you this. And it just comes with a whole new level of energy when you practice it yourself.

You're showing us what made people hate Jesus. He didn't just talk about it, he lived it. He did just talk about healing the sick. He touched them, right? And that's an amazing, amazing thing. What suggestion, man, then would you give? And we have a couple of, like, in our church, we have some high school athletes. I think I just organically attracted them. But like, as you talk to high school students, as you talk to people even in school, right? So freshmen, sophomores in college with a number of College students. What suggestions would you give to people who are not in the leadership positions that we might be in, but are in those second, third, fourth seats? They're learning more. And while right now, and you know this too, there's podcast after podcast, movie after movie, lead, lead, lead, lead, lead, be in the first seat. What suggestions would you give to these high school kids and students and future leaders, but and followers right now about transitioning? Well, listen, like you talk like as you're talking about how you're showing up, bringing your full self, what would you tell them to do in this season as they cultivate being good followers to eventually be good leaders? Because the reason, and this last thing I'll say to the reason we're in the seats we're in right now is we sat under some decent leaders, but.

We followed them, and we didn't try.

To be the head coach. We just. We followed them and then became leaders.

Yeah, absolutely. The best thing I can give anybody who isn't, like, in that true leadership position, well, it's gonna be twofold is one. Most importantly is that even if you don't have the title, you're still a leader. That is a huge piece of just humanity in general, I think, is that, you know, I'm blessed to say I'm a director at work, I'm a leadership consultant. I'm a head coach. I have leadership. I mean, you can even look at personal life. I'm a father, I'm a husband, have mother, husband, wife, father in your title. That's innately a leadership role. Just because I have that, doesn't mean I'm the only one who's supposed to lead. I look at my basketball team, and you have captains who are leadership in name and in action. But I expect every single one of my players, whether you start or whether you're 14th and you're leading the bench mob, you need to lead by example. So I think that's the first piece, is you got to change your mindset where just because I don't have the title doesn't mean I'm not a leader. You can still be a leader without the title. And the second piece of that, and I think this is where you and I, we had some great mentors. And I think what we did that helped us get to where we are is we listened and we learned. We didn't pretend that we knew everything. And there were probably times when we did, especially back in college, we would say, why are we doing this? What's going on with that? But then we Would ask questions. I remember having conversations with a ton of the basketball coaches at Marquette of like, hey, we did this against this team. Why did we do that? And then learning from them and asking those questions and realizing that we don't know everything. I mean, even to this day, like I said, I can't wait to go to this coaching conference next week. It's all virtual, but just to listen and learn to. I mean, Shaka Smart's gonna be there, Gino's gonna be there. Like these coaches that have done it longer and better than I ever have, and I just wanna listen and learn, listen and learn. And the more people can do that, especially in this time, like nowadays, there's so much that you can go out and see and learn and listen from. Like you mentioned, there's podcasts, there's books. One of the things I love to do, and I probably should get back to this, is just reach out to former mentors of mine and just say, hey, what's going on? You know, what are you doing now? How are you doing this? How are you reacting? And then again, taking what people that are mentors to me or have been leaders in title longer than I have, see what they're doing, and then start living that in my life every day. But that's the two pieces that, you know, I try and preach to anyone that I'm in contact with is that, you know, even without the title, you are a leader and listen and learn. Because the more you listen and learn, all of a sudden you're going to know how to. How to react to a situation when you are in that leadership role.

Wow, that's so good. I really hope you guys hear this, because that, that is. Those are essential things that great leaders learn early, right? And you have to learn that early. Especially, like, no matter what season of time we're in, but especially in this moment when, like you said, so much information is available that we have to be able to take it and learn it. And, and really. And as you mentioned earlier, and it just stuck out to me personally when you talked about preaching things. And the thing for me, even in preaching, I would. I had. I was preaching to people, and then, like, they all got taken away. And so it's like I would learn something. And it's like, nobody's like, affirming like, this is good. I'm like, am I preaching good stuff? Right? And it was just like, it was so difficult. But like you mentioned, I had to get to a place as well where I didn't name it. The Way you named this. I love the way you named it. Where? No, it was. I had to first make sure. How was my personal life? How's my personal meditation life? Where am I personally grounding myself on a day in, day out basis so that I don't require that affirmation, but that it's literally meant I can just live life and ensure that we're communicating things very well. The other thing I would ask you, so other people like you that are on the journey, the last question I have for you is as they're navigating this space, as they're transitioning into work, to other people in positions similar to yours, as you're doing very well. I mean, like you mentioned before, the success you're having, basketball, the success you're having with the piece you're doing with your father in terms of leadership, success you're having, even dsha. I mean, those of you who don't know about dsha, it's an amazing school. Like DSHA is an amazing school. And the success you're having, man. What suggestions would you give then to leaders? Like people who are just getting the director title, the leader title, the supervisor title, that before the title goes through their head, what suggestions would you give to them so they stay level headed the way that you are staying in? Like, when you could really say, like, I'm the head coach at dsha, those of you know dsha, Brian can go around with a T shirt saying, I'm the head coach at dsha, Like I'm telling y', all, it's that type of school. What could you say to leaders so that before the title goes to their head, when they get it, that they can be great leaders with their title?

How much time do you have? Because I can say no, the first piece is actually being thankful. Like being thankful for first and foremost the people in your life. There's no way I could do as much as I'm doing right now if it wasn't for my wife, Jackie. I mean, to me, and most husbands should think this way, but I think she is the most patient, supportive person in the world. Because, you know, the life of a, you know, counselor and high school basketball coach is you have time. But then once November hits, November through March, I'm barely home. And this is, you know, high school. And like you said, we're a very competitive high school. So, you know, more is assumed to me when it comes to scouting and film reporting and practice planning and all that. Not to mention, you know, during that time period, she's at home with two kids. She was pregnant last year with a kid. And trying to navigate that more or less as a single mom, it seemed like. So just first and foremost, say thank you and be appreciative for those people at home or those friends that support you and really have your back when things get nutty and crazy. Because when you're in a leadership position, things are going to get nutty. Things are going to stress you out. You're going to feel like you're juggling 10 different things at once. You're not going to know how to do it. Know that, though. Figure out who those people are. And I hear you say this all the time. You know, you are the sum of the five people you meet the most, you spend the most time with. Find out who those five people are. Say thank you in advance for, I know you're going to be here for me, so thank you. So that automatically humbles you. The second piece of it is the same advice I'd give someone who's not in that leadership yet is listen and learn. Listen and learn. You know, just because you have that title again doesn't mean you know everything. You have to be able and willing to learn from everybody, and that is people who've done it longer than you, that is. Maybe you learn something from one of your players. You know, maybe you have a great point guard who says, coach, this zone offense hasn't worked for last three weeks. Can we try something different? And then you have to get out of your own head, get out of the idea that, well, this is my zone offense. This is what I've run for years. Maybe it's not working anymore. So don't be afraid to take. It's not even criticism, but feedback from people who maybe aren't in that leadership role right now, but maybe one day will be. I think those are the two biggest ones. And again, I can go on for hours about what. It's not things that I do, it's things that I know I should do. And I'm still working on it, too. The two biggest things I'll say, just appreciation and thankfulness is huge. Listen and learn again. And then one other thing I'm just gonna throw in there is you have to get organized. From a very practical standpoint, you have to be organized as a leader. Most leaders, when you're given that director role, that coach role, whatever position it is, it doesn't just mean, hey, you just show up for practice. No, it means you show up for practice. It means you're dividing up between your coaches, who's watching film, which game films you need to get, who's got the scout this week, who's planning practice, what schemes are you trying to like? And that's just one thing. You know, most leaders have five, six, seven, eight things they're juggling and if you're not organized, it's never going to work. So something I heard from this mental performance coach named Brian Cain, you know, he shares his calendar and it is the most detail oriented calendar I've ever seen in my life. It's every hour from 4am when he wakes up to 8pm when he goes to bed is booked. I am not nearly that organized, but what I know is if I have something I need to put in my calendar because if it's not in there, I'm going to forget about it. If there's something I need to do, it goes into my to do list. So whatever way as a leader you can, you know, your own organizational style, get organized and if you don't have organizational style, try do something. If it doesn't work, try something else. If it doesn't work, try something else. Because until you're fully organized, you're not going to be able to give your best to every single thing that you need to do.

I really hope you guys are grabbing a hold of this. And Brian, when you say organization, I look back, I remember and the reason that's so important, y', all and one of my own failures is when I first got to my church, I thought I could do it all. I thought I literally could just do it all. And then like we got, I told the story on Sunday, like we got, we hit over 200 in attendance. Things were going crazy. I had to start hiring people. Literally the first hire I made, I had to pay good money for a secretary to control my calendar because I literally, I missed a meeting with people that I knew don't miss meetings with and I just missed it. I just literally was like I was sitting in my office and I'm getting messages from their admins like, where are you? So from a failure of mine. And please take heed to the advice that Brian has. I, if you don't do that very thing, you got to pay good money. Like I, to get somebody to come in, run my calendar, send me, she sends me emails at 6am like, this is what you're doing today. These are the emails you need to send. Because if not, and that's also me staffing my weaknesses. But it's a necessary thing because as Brian said You if you're going to get into this position of a leader. So that's where going back to followers start now. Like organize where you're going to eat lunch and organize your emails for the day. Even if it's you. This a assume your boss is going to text you or email. You assume early because as Brian says, that organization is what's going to separate you from good to great. Because people are going to trust you and trust you and trust you and then all of a sudden you look up and then now other people are really going to be trusting you and the income is tied to it. So, Brian, this is amazing, man. This is.

Can I add one more thing in?

Because you.

Sorry, it sparked something when you said you're hiring someone to run your calendar, that office or that complemented what you do well.

Right.

That's, that's the thing that I don't think leaders understand.

Wow.

You need to hire people that do well what you don't and surround yourself with great people. Like, and I use my coaching staff because if you ask me, I have the best coaching staff in the entire state of Wisconsin. And you know me really well. I am very big picture thinking. You know, I'm looking big picture when it comes to basketball especially. So if you look at who my two main assistants are, they are extremely detail oriented. And that's not just. It happened that way. No, as a leader, I know my weakness is getting the little details of practice down and all this. And that's why I rely heavily on them. So as a leader, like you said, you can't do it yourself. So get good people around you to make your life easier.

That's it. That's it, man. And that's so, that's so real. It's a lesson I didn't learn till too late. And now, I mean, things are getting better now. But man, that is, I'm telling you all now, those of you who are listening to this, that is. And be humble enough, as Brian has said, be humble enough to admit how you think and then who you need to surround yourself with. Because at the end of the day, and I joke at my church about all this, like we can have all the 25 people working. My name is on the side, right? So when the article comes out, you got the interview. And so it's just like, you know, our name, your name is on it, good and bad. It's a positive thing and negative thing. And so Brian, man, thank you. I saw something light up on that last question and I just. Your eyes lit up and I was like, oh, my gosh. That was so Brian.

I got this one.

If somebody wanted to contact you, get in contact with you, if there's a young coach out there, man, that just really wanted to see what you're doing or follow alongside or even get connected with you with some of the work that you are doing, how can someone. This is just all for you to plug that to our audience. How can someone get in contact with you?

Yeah, absolutely. So email is probably going to be really simple. That's how most people reach out is just my name. Brian Hendricks. Mail.com Everyone thinks two, three is for Michael Jordan. It's not. It's for Ryan Sandberg, another Chicago grade. So, BrianHendrics23mail.com's email. I'm also big on social media, so if you want to see what's going on with the basketball team, you know my random thinkings. Some people like that, some people don't. And if you want to see my adorable kids, Twitter and Instagram. I'm really big on Instagram especially, but both those handles are behendo h. So, yeah, Twitter, Instagram, and then email. Those are the three easiest and best ways to kind of reach out to me or kind of follow along to see what's going on in the life that is 10 does.

Awesome, man. Thank you so much for your time. This is great.

Thank you for having me. It was a blast.

Oh, definitely, man. No, you guys, please give it up for Brian and please let us know if you have any questions or comments or anything in our comment section. We'd love to hear from you guys as we continue to do this. And please make sure if this piques your interest, if this is for you, please reach out to Brian. I know he's a wealth of information doing amazing work in Wisconsin, and you'll be able to follow along those beautiful kids of his and the dad musings. There's something about being a dad. I'm gonna throw this in for free. There's this picture that I think Maggie took of us at a Marquette game, right? Yeah. And so it's funny, and I say this because my birthday was a couple weeks ago and just having a chance to reflect on life. And I remember we sat down and we were talking one day like, man, what are we going to do in the. We both wanted to be dads. And you were like, man, I'm gonna coach a girls basketball team. We're gonna be great. And I was like, I'm gonna pastor church. And it's Gonna be great. And it was amazing the day that, like, it was like, it wasn't like, what is it? 2015-2017 was, like, the greatest. But then it's like, once things hit, it was just like, dude, like, this is really happening, right?

We had the conversation of, this is what we're going to do.

That's it.

And now we're doing it. That's it, man. That's it. Karma or not, but I think there's something to speaking out what you want to do, and then don't make excuses. Just find a way to do it. That's it.

And being held. And the thing, too, with that is accountability. So it's like, man, no, this. This doesn't line up with what you said you're going to be, man. Why are you pursuing this? Because that doesn't line up. And it's just amazing to look back on it and to know, like, one day we were just randomly sitting there.

At a basketball game.

I think Marquette was, like, destroying some crap team. I was like, dude, yeah, like, this is what I'm gonna do. This is what I'm gonna do, too. All right, man, we'll see what happens. And then, like, yeah, here we are in 2020.

And I think if you look at both of our journeys, whenever I got a coaching job or you got a new degree or a pastor's, there was that text. I mean, we could go months without conversing at all. And then you see, I get a coaching job, I get that text. Hey, congrats on this. Hey, you finished another, you know, degree, or you get that church, hey, congrats. Just having that person that, you know, 10 years ago, we have this conversation, and we know that about each other. So when it happens, you have that celebratory person, it just makes you want to keep going.

And the beautiful thing for me, too, man, that makes it different is it was never a competition. And I think that's the thing about healthy relationships. It was never okay, no, Brian bought a house. I got to do it next week. Or Brian had a kid. I got to get working. Or, like, oh, man, Brian did this. I got to do this. It was always like, I'm going to celebrate those who celebrate. I'm going to mourn with those who mourn, because I know, like, if we would have lost someone that was close to us or lost something to, it'd been right there, too. And that's the beautiful thing about healthy relationships where it's just, no, man, we're both. And I'm Celebrating the fact that it's like Brian won't tell y', all, but DSHA is a freaking amazing school. Like, he won't say it and that he's the head coach. Like, the girl who's what, the rookie of the year? Yeah. Brian didn't coach her, but doggone it, like, that's the person she could use, he could use as recruiting. Right. Or whatever it is. For what? He's Vietnam. Like, DSHA is an amazing school. And like, that was a school we played at Brooks, we played. We were in Yalls in Wisconsin Metro and in Brookfield Central. And so I remember, like, whenever our girls would play dsha, that was a huge game at Brook Central and the same thing playing Marquette. Men. So Brian said, and that's the thing. You're not. You're. You're at an amazing school. So I'll toot your horn for you.

Thank you.

It's just an amazing school, Brian will say, but that. That's humility and leadership. But that's a freaking amazing school. So anyway, Brian, thank you, Made for Monday Crew. Thank you guys so much. Where you guys are, some of the amazing Monday members make the decision to live. Choose to live, because you're. You were made for this. Mondays don't own you. You own Mondays. Now go have an amazing day. I'm going to end the recording.

Well, thank you so much for joining us today for Made for Mondays. I pray today blessed you to be all that God has called you to be. All that you know you can be. I mentioned this a couple of weeks ago, and I want to mention again, first of all, if you the month of November, I want to dedicate to you, the listener. If there are questions that you have about leadership, about life, about anything at all, do me a favor. Here's all you have to do. Go to www.jrlester.com and click on Made for Mondays. And on Made for Mondays is a contact form. And simply submit your question for me. What you're able to do is let me know.

Hey.

Hey, Justin. This is what I'm curious about. This is what I want to know. This is what I want to learn. And my responsibility on Made for Mondays is to ensure that you are the best leader you possibly can be be. So go ahead, go to jrlester. Com, click that link, let your boy know. I'll holler back at you. Now, let's say our affirmation and go on about our week. Repeat after me. If you will say, I am me, I can be me. No one will stop me from being me. You were made for this. Now go win your Mondays. Mondays won't beat you.

God bless you.