When you get rejected or criticized, feel the hurt for a bit, then build a concrete plan to move forward. The speaker suggests 90 seconds of processing, then action like contacting a hiring manager directly to show your real skills.
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I always say, feel the feels and then make a plan. I don't, you know, like when you hear someone diminish your skills or diminish the vision you have for yourself and they're like, yeah, I don't think you could do it. I used to call them dream squashers, right? Like they just come in and with a very pleasant tone would tell you you're not capable of the thing that you think you can do. And I'm just like, no, what? So there's a moment that that's painful. And I, tell people, I'm like, feel the feels, like be upset about it. You can even spend the day in bed. I try to limit feel the feels part to like 90 seconds. That's my goal. But some of these disasters and rejections are much bigger than others. So you take the time you need, but then know that the very next step is to make a plan to figure out what you're going to do anyway. And so in my case, my plan was I'm just going to go talk to the hiring manager, let them know the reality of the situation, what my actual skill set is. And it turned out they needed