Pamela Jean A New Life Coaching

Hello and welcome to this week's episode of Tuesday Talk. Thank you so much for joining me today. Every week I have a roadmap of how I think these talks are going to go, but pretty much every week I change it. I, for some reason have something special speak to me differently or I see something that I think I want to change what I'm talking about. And today, of course, was no exception. We just had Father's Day on Sunday and I hope everyone had an amazing day. I hope you were able to celebrate in such a beautiful fashion and make an awesome memory. But it really got me thinking. This morning I was at my workout. I do a 5:30am workout. I know that seems crazy to a lot of people, but it is the perfect time for me. I love early morning. And part of our workout today, we were outside. We did part inside, part outside. And as I was outside during my workout, I'm watching the sunrise and there's just nothing more beautiful than watching the world wake up. And the sun started coming up as I'm working out. And it got me thinking about Father's Day and about my dad and whose picture is hanging right behind me there. But it got me thinking about my dad. He loved mornings. Morning was his very favorite time of the day. I could remember as a kid waking up at six o' clock in the morning or quarter to six in the morning and dad was already having his coffee and on pot number two by the time anyone else was awake. But he loved early mornings and pretty sure that's where I got it from. But why I wanted to change this week's talk to talking a little bit about my father was because my dad passed away at 58 years old. That's been about almost 13 years ago that since my dad had passed away. So 58, that's so young. That's crazy, crazy young. And I turned 50 last year. I'll be turning 51 in August of this year. And as I was working out and watching the sun come up, I just got to thinking that if my dad knew when he was 50, the same age that I am now, that he had eight years left to live, what would those eight years really look like for him? Would he have lived them differently? Would he have changed things about his life? And I really started asking myself that, that question, and I've been thinking about it on and off for most of the day, is if I had eight years left to live, what would I be doing different? How would I live differently? I just got to thinking about, am I doing the most that I am or can and get out of my own life. And I want to ask you that very same question. Are you working at a job that is literally just a job that you go to work, you punch in your time clock and you leave and there's nothing about it other than collecting a paycheck because your work, what you're designed to do with your life, is so much more than just punching a time clock. We all have incredible gifts and beautiful gifts and, and things that were given for us to serve other people and to leave a legacy after we're gone with our lives. So if you're in a position with your work or your job, write a list. Start thinking about things like write a list of one column of what you like about your job, a column of what you don't like, and look at those things and analyze them and see where you can make changes in your life. What dream, what dream do you have that has been on your heart for years and years and years that you have not followed through? Is it starting a business? Is it changing a job? Is it taking a trip to, you know, to Europe? What are you holding back to do because, well, it's just not the right time or I need to wait till the kids are older or what are your excuses? Excuses for not doing and living how you want to live? I also think about relationships. We all are experience good and bad relationships in our lifetime. But are you in a situation, you're in a relationship that is toxic, that's holding you back, that's quashing you, that's keeping you locked up tightly in a little jar, and that could be a family member, that could be friendships, that could be a co worker, it could be parents. It doesn't matter who or what the relationship is. But do you have those relationships in your life? Are there places in your life that you need to clean house? Can you eliminate the negativity, eliminate the toxic people in your world that are sucking the life out of you? Because essentially that's what a toxic person does. I've always heard the saying of Misery Love Company when it comes to dealing with toxic people, that that could not be more true than misery Loves Company. But where are you at in all of this? What are you putting off for whatever reason that if you had eight years left to live or one year left to live, what would you do differently? Would you, you know, splurge on a trip with your family? Would you buy the new car? Would you change the job? Would you volunteer at the clinic or the Children's hospital or the animal shelter, whatever it is, what are you holding back from doing? Because you're waiting for the right time. You know, the time will pass you by, you know, when raising your kids. I know we had a segment on Empty Nester a while back, and it's so true. You know, the years, the days are long sometimes. Wow. When you're in the trenches of being a parent, the days are so long, but the years are short. Then all of a sudden, you've spent years and years and years and you've put so many miles on a vehicle getting your kids to practices and different events and games and all of the things. And then one day you wake up and there isn't anyone in your house to take to practice anymore. And as a parent, that's just a heartbreaking thing. But what are you doing in your life that you're putting off that you're not doing, that you could, should be and want to be doing? Is it fear? What are you afraid of? Are you afraid of failure? Feel fear of failure. That's really a thing. It truly is. But is it the failure itself or is it somebody seeing you fail? Because that's a big difference. It's kind of like if you've ever been walking down the street and you trip and you fall, the first thing you do is look around and see if anybody saw you fall, right? It's not so much that you fell and probably hurt yourself. It's more about, oh, my gosh, who saw that? Who is going, who saw me fall and fall on my face? And you're more worried about who saw you fall than you actually are about the fall itself. Well, I compare that to failure. Failure is really about not the failure itself, but it's who saw you fail? But here's a really, really strong reality on failure is you cannot succeed in life, in business, in anything without failure. You have to have failure to reach success. So embrace the failure. Embrace those times where it doesn't go as you hope it will go or you think it will go. Embrace all of that. It's so important that you do that and appreciate the failure. Thank God for failure. Because if you didn't have failure, you wouldn't have a clear roadmap of where to go next. Because your failure truly, truly is your roadmap. You look at what you did in a business or job or a relationship that didn't work, and you learn and say, okay, I'm not doing that again. I'm going to change things. I'm going to do it differently. So my whole point of today's talk, it's not to be morbid or sad or anything. Granted, I miss my father. And like, you cannot imagine, and being close to his age is a little bit overwhelming in that if. If, gosh, if he were still here, he would be in his 70s, he would be 72 this year. So it's just crazy to think that he's been gone as many years as he has. But one of the last pictures I have of my three of my kids with my dad was at his 56th birthday. And I know it's his 56th birthday because we have the kids decorated a cake for him, which, oh, my gosh, that's so, so much stuff on top. You couldn't even hardly eat it. There were so many sprinkles and stuff on top. But we all. We all powered through a piece of that birthday cake. But we had the five and the six candles on top of his cake. And I look at that and I think, wow, in that picture, my dad had two years left to live. Two years. I know when I look at that picture, I wished I would have done more for and with him in those two years had I known I only had two years left to do things with him. And I have a feeling he would have changed some things, too. You know, our parents are not perfect. My father was far from perfect, but he was perfect for me. He was my. My dad, the only one I had. And, you know, he did everything as. As well as he could with what he knew as far as being a dad and a parent. And I know he loved me dearly, and I loved him dearly. We didn't always have a great relationship, but by the time he left the earth, we had a beautiful relationship, and I'm forever grateful for that. So I just want to leave you with this thought today and really, really think on this deeply, is if you only had eight years left to live, what would you do differently? Today? I want you to take stock of what you're allowing in your life. The good things, the bad things. Look at those bad things and think about it. You know, if I have eight years left to live, would I allow those things to take up space in my mind, to take a place in my heart? How can you eliminate those things? And I just want you to really, really think about living each and every day, each and every year, like it's your last year that you have here. So thank you so much for joining me and for tuning in. This is definitely not meant to be sad and morbid or anything like that because it truly is a celebration and a reflection. And I think about my dad being up in heaven. My father fix absolutely anything. It was amazing to me that I could call him and describe a problem or a project I was working on and he could tell me over the phone exactly how to fix it. That just blew my mind that he had that gift and ability. But I know he is up in heaven. And the streets of gold are shining so brightly because I know he's polishing them daily probably as we speak right now. He's polishing those streets of gold and they are shining the best shine they've ever seen. Ever. So thank you for joining me. Live every day like it's your last day. You won't get this day back, you don't get it again. There's no do overs with every day. You can only move forward and make the best out of the rest of your day and of your tomorrow. So thank you again, Pamela Jean. Wishing you an incredible Tuesday. And thank you so much for joining me.