A short coaching video by Pamela Jean using a giant 97-color crayon box as a metaphor for emotional complexity in relationships. The speaker argues women typically experience many nuanced emotions (many 'colors') while most men tend to operate with a simpler two-color (black/white) emotional framing; she urges improved communication and expectation management and allowing growth in partners.
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Hi, friends. Thank you for being here today. Did you know that relationships are just like that giant box of 97 color crayons? Do you remember when you were a kid, elementary school, when you went to buy your school supplies and you couldn't wait to see if you were going to get the giant box of crayons? One like this with all of those colors and, and the, the sharpener on the back. Oh, my gosh. When I was a kid, this was my absolute dream, was to have this giant back box of crayons. Well, I'm using this today because this box of crayons is so much like our relationships. Whether you're with your spouse or boyfriend or significant other, have you ever been in that moment where they just don't get you? They have no idea what you're talking about? You feel like they should know. They should just know. It's not rocket science. Well, ladies, especially ladies, here's the thing. Our emotions, how we think and feel represented all of these colors. Every single one of these colors is how we think, how we feel. We feel with all of them, all of the time, right? Most men, husbands, boyfriends, friendships, they have two colors. They have two colors in their box of crayons. We think, feel with all of these. Most men, not all, but most men are going to think with two colors. Things are black and things are white. It's a big misconception, ladies, that we have, that they should just know what we want, just should think the way we think, should feel the way we feel. They're not made that way. They're not meant or made to think and feel exactly the way we do. We were blessed with all the colors in the crayon box. Whereas men are blessed with two color colors. It's black or white. Which is why if even as little boys, they can do into a fight on the playground, they duke it out, they wrestle, they get over it. By the end of the day, they're best friends again. What happens to us, ladies, if we get into a disagreement with someone, someone, even as a child and now as an adult, we hold on to grudges, we have jealousy, we have so many things that create how we feel and how we see things. So I just wanted to give you this quick little reminder and little tip about relationships. If you're struggling, if you feel like you're just not on the same page, that he does not get you, no matter how much you think he should or what your expectations are, I just want you to remember these are your colors. These are all of your emotions. This is what you are capable of. These are his. This is what he's capable of. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It doesn't mean that he doesn't get it or never will get it. But what it does mean is that you will need to work on communication, expectation, and allowing them to grow, and allowing yourself to grow as well, especially in the area of expectation and communication. So, friends, I hope your day is a wonderful day. Take good care and we'll talk soon.
