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The Lies Addiction Wants You to Believe #addictionawareness #addictionhelp

18 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, the speaker outlines how addiction employs two main categories of deception to entrap individuals and their loved ones. First, "positive lies" are optimistic, reassuring statements that downplay the severity of the problem and promise control, such as “you can manage this” or “life is better now.” Second, "defensive lies" shift the narrative to victimhood, blaming external forces—partners, parents, teachers, police—for the addiction, thereby deflecting personal responsibility. The speaker illustrates each type with concrete examples, showing how these lies create a self‑reinforcing cycle that obscures the reality of the addiction and isolates the individual from supportive voices.

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There are words addiction uses to lie to its captive, our loved ones. These are positive lies. It's not that bad. You've got this. You can manage this. You're different. You can control this. This time it will be different and you'll control it better. No one really notices. You're doing fine. Life's actually better now. Ignore what you're hearing from your mom and dad or your partner. These are the positive lies. Then there are defensive lies. Okay. Defensive lying is, I wouldn't do this, but— now we're flipping into the victim stage. So you can see how addiction gets all the nastiness that it gets from the initial lying that it has to do to itself to get going. I wouldn't do this, but my wife is nagging me. My partner is trying to control me. All the teachers are against me. My parents are jerks. The cops are trying to fill a quota. I would have gone to school, but my mom ragged me about my grades. Everyone's against me.