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They're mad at your boundary? That's normal!

13 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, Amber Hollingsworth explains that when you enforce a new personal boundary or change an existing arrangement, it is normal for the other party to feel upset or angry. She points out that the upset stems from the loss of a familiar setup that had been working for them, and acknowledges that while the change may be exhausting for you, it can be uncomfortable for them. She also warns that you might feel offended by their reaction, especially if you’ve previously helped them, and encourages you to anticipate and understand this emotional response rather than taking it personally.

Now, even if you handle this beautifully, expect that they're probably going to be upset. Of course they're upset. You're changing the rules. The arrangement they were counting on is going away. And yeah, it may have been exhausting for you, but parts of it were working pretty okay for them. They're probably not going to be excited about losing it. And when that happens, you might feel offended. After everything I've done for you, you have the nerve to be mad at me? I understand that reaction. But now watch what happens.