Raele AltanoWell With raele · Founder | 2x Certified Communication Coach | Content Creator

What to Say When: They’re Playing Devil’s Advocate #wellwithraele #communicationcoach #boundaries

22 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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This content was created by Raele Altano. This content was uploaded by Raele Altano. This is a YouTube video titled "What to Say When: They’re Playing Devil’s Advocate #wellwithraele #communicationcoach #boundaries" (created 2025-01-22T18:52:04Z). The excerpt is a short coaching monologue by Raele Altano, a communication coach, offering three phrases and guidance to use when someone repeatedly plays devil's advocate — focusing on setting boundaries, asking for listening rather than debate, and clarifying the other person's intent. The tone is instructional and supportive, aimed at helping viewers communicate needs and preserve emotional safety.

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What to say when someone is constantly playing devil's advocate. This habit can come with good intentions, but can feel a little deflating when it happens over and over again. When you're just looking for support, here are three things you can say. I get that there are multiple sides to every story, but I'm not looking to hear the other sides right now. I would love if you could just hear mine, even if you don't necessarily agree. I appreciate you sharing another perspective, but sometimes it can feel more hurtful rather than helpful. Can you hold off on advocating for the other side right away? And finally, one that I really love, what's your goal in bringing this up now? If if they say, well, to help you see another perspective, you can say I hear you, but I'm honestly not looking for perspective right now. I'm looking to vent to someone that I can trust. Key things to underscore are that you're aware your side isn't the only side and you don't need them to blindly agree with you, but they can take the time to hear you and support you without rushing to vouch for the other side or the other perspective. I'm well with Rael, your communication coach, and as always, I hope these were helpful.