A short YouTube transcript excerpt of Ramit Sethi reflecting on how many men frame their life goals around making their spouse (wife) happy rather than naming their own desires. He questions societal conditioning that leads men to subsume personal aspirations and expresses alarm at the prospect of losing one’s own aims by midlife.
At what age does the life get beaten out of you? And when I ask you the question, what do you want for yourself? The answer invariably becomes, I just want my wife to be happy. If I could have money in the bank, Melody could see it. That is for me. What the fuck happens to almost every man to make him answer my question this way? I love that you love your wife, but I'm asking about you. I didn't even mention your wife. I'm a little alarmed, because when I see lots of guys doing something, I'm humble enough to know that I might end up doing this too. God, if someone interviews me when I'm 65 and they ask what I want with my life, and my answer is, I just want my wife to be happy, that should be the end of me.
