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He Hid $30K of Debt, Would You Still Marry Him?

29 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this interview excerpt, speaker A recounts discovering that her fiancé, Arham, concealed ₹30,000 in credit‑card debt a month before their wedding and shortly after they signed a lease. She describes the revelation as feeling "like being stabbed," explaining that the hidden debt forced them to consider a less expensive apartment than they had planned, shattering her vision for their future together. Speaker A also shares her lifelong aversion to debt, rooted in her parents' struggles, which amplified the sense of betrayal and emotional pain when she was unexpectedly thrust into a debt situation through no fault of her own.

It was like being stabbed. Arham had told me that he was in debt a month before our wedding and then like a week after we had signed our lease.
How much debt did he tell you he was in the first time?
₹30,000 of credit card debt. If I had known before we had started looking for apartments, we would have gone with a different price point. We could have found a little bit more affordable place. And so I had dreams of where— of what our life would look like. And it felt like It's not the same.
And when you say stabbed, what do you mean?
I have spent my whole life avoiding debt. I know my parents struggled. I know how hard my parents worked to pay it off. And so I had always calculated my life to be debt-free so I wouldn't feel that same burden. And so it felt like I had gone through so much effort to avoid this point, but through no fault of my own, I was still put into debt. Mm-hmm.