A couple faces a power imbalance after one partner loses a $150,000 job. One controls all money decisions and feels exhausted; the other fears making any financial choice after feeling judged. Ramit Sethi helps them see how to share the load and rebuild confidence.
There's this real concern. If I die, he's SOL.
I got laid off, then I kind of fell off, and I'm just like, okay, I don't deserve anything.
I'm the one that's making a lot of the decisions, and that gets really tiring.
Every time I try to get more involved, I just feel like I'm shut down, and I'd just be belittled for it, so I just don't.
It seems like you want him to be involved, but when he tries to get involved, you don't approve of it.
I think that sounds accurate.
You feel the need to control and direct his involvement with money.
I mean, I do like being in control.
Maybe I have a bit of a phobia that I'll make the wrong I feel like I'm making the wrong decision because I feel like my decisions are judged quite frequently.
You have 83% fixed costs. You have no savings, no money for vacation. Your guilt-free spending is getting chipped away. Yeah. And if one of you loses your job again, we got problems. We need a minute.
