One partner does most of the emotional work in the relationship and resents that the other, Meg, makes financial decisions based on vibes instead of budgets. Meg assumes she can retire and take vacations without discussing whether they can afford it.
One of the biggest issues in our relationship is, is that I feel I do more of the emotional labor, and then I feel a little resentful when I feel like Meg just kind of skates through.
And as it relates to money, how does that play out?
Entitlement.
That she feels entitled to retire?
Right.
Does she feel entitled to anything else around money?
She would say something like, I want to go on vacation, I want to do this thing. And then I would say, can we afford it? And then she would say, of course we can. And I'd be like, well, what do you base that on? And she'd say, I don't know, vibes.
