One partner earns twice as much as the other, and the lower earner feels ashamed and stuck in survival mode. He wants her to cover more expenses so he can work less, but traditional expectations that men should lead financially make the gap harder to accept.
At this point, he has to work forever. I'm planning on retiring. Am I going to spend all of that time alone?
What do you think the solution is?
That he makes more money.
Oh my God. So if she makes like double that I make, for me, it's not comfortable. That's how I feel. Is it because she makes more and she's a woman? Yeah.
We've been having this conversation for years.
Ah, I feel shame.
He's just been in survival mode. And it definitely would feel more comfortable for me too if he was able to contribute more.
I work so hard. I deserve to have like a better life. I deserve to go to a restaurant. And look at the menu to the left side, not the right side. What if you never make as much as Maria? Okay, she makes more money, but I was supposed to be the one taking the lead. You would like him to make more, but you also mentioned that you want him to be able to not work all the time and take time off.
Yeah. Yeah.
Can you be a leader if she makes more money than you?
