A woman doing everything—working, raising her daughter, managing finances, handling housework—feels exhausted and unappreciated. Ramit asks what she gets from it: "kind of good." Her partner has checked out, feeling his contributions don't matter when she controls everything.
I'm tired all the time, and I'm exhausted.
What do you get out of being a martyr?
It's not satisfaction, but a sense of contribution, a sense of like I'm putting everything out there.
Because I'm working, I'm, I'm taking care of our daughter, I'm doing the finances right now. I'm the breadwinner because he doesn't have a job. I'm even cleaning the kitchen counter the right way. Does it feel good?
I don't think it's— no.
I think it feels kind of good in a way.
There's probably some truth to that, yeah, because I'm, I'm very accustomed to Always being on top of things and always being productive and always, always, always, always moving.
What about your partner?
I think getting to a point where he feels like his input isn't valued and his decisions aren't valued.
So therefore he shuts down.
