A couple reenacts a pattern where one partner asks for input on finances, then dismisses it. Speaker B proposes investing in stocks and gets shut down with "the worst thing you can do." Speaker A identifies the trap: the partner wants involvement but rejects every idea, leaving the other feeling inadequate and unheard.
I end up feeling kind of dumb to people.
Like, I'll bring up something like, maybe we should like start investing in stock. But that's the absolute worst thing you can do. And I'll be like, okay.
I don't think I phrased it like that.
You pretty much said that. Let's recreate this conversation. So when did this happen? I like this. I was thinking about putting some money aside just to start investing in stocks on my own.
I mean, I don't know if that's a great idea, honestly, because I can't.
I suspect that you think it's gonna look bad If you actually say what you said.
I probably did say that's probably one of the worst ways that you could invest. And I don't like hearing that coming out of my mouth now.
Every time I try to get more involved, I just feel like I'm shut down and I'd just be belittled for it. So I just don't.
It seems like you want him to be involved, but when he tries to get involved, you don't approve of it.
I think that sounds accurate.
