Ramit Sethi says couples fight about money because they argue about random charges instead of planning. His fix: schedule regular money meetings on a set day, like Saturday morning, when you're both rested and can actually talk without interruptions.
Guys. It makes perfect sense that so many people don't want to talk about money. You're sitting in bed trying to watch a show on tv, and your partner goes, hey, babe, just a quick question. Have you looked at cell C62 in our spreadsheet? There's something really wrong here. Hey, you have any ideas? Did you spend the money again like I told you not to? Suddenly you're in a fight. By the end of the day, you're tired, you've been working, you've got errands, you've got stress. You're trying to decompress. The last thing you want to do is talk about money, especially some random charge. That is how couples go. 40 years only fighting about money. Do it a different way. Schedule these meetings when you're focused, when you have energy. Could be a Saturday morning with coffee or a Sunday afternoon. Agree on the time ahead of time and then put it on your calendar and make that time sacred.
