Richard CanfieldPodcast Host and IBC Advisor, Ascendant Financial · Authorized Infinite Banking Practitioner | Author of 4 Books

Can This 'Loser' Provide? How I Fought to Prove Myself

27 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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A personal first-person narrative about financial struggle leading into marriage: the speaker describes heavy debt they created, their spouse contributing an inheritance (~$20k) which was used to pay down debt, and the speaker working manual labor (carpentry) for several years to fully repay remaining debts and prove themselves. The excerpt emphasizes guilt, responsibility, and the spouse's supportive role.

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I had just gotten engaged and was supposed to get married. And so my future brothers in law and I found this out later are looking at my wife and saying, can this loser provide for you? And so we ended up did get married, which is amazing because my wife is the lion's share of God's grace in my life since I met her. And she got an inheritance of like, I don't know, a little over 20 grand. And we just, like, threw it into the debt hole, you know, that I had created this crater of debt, you know, shutting things down mostly that. That concrete division with the, you know, cokehead alcoholic that was entirely my responsibility for employing. And so I think I ended up just paying off the 10 grand that was left in debt just by, you know, hustling and working myself, swinging a hammer, you know, still had enough work just to keep myself busy. And then that continued for the first three years of my marriage, where it's just me and a hammer, maybe a helper or two here and there temporarily, and just hating it. I just hated it.