Jean Dubois discusses the suicide crisis among fathers—one every three minutes in North America—and his book Dads Can't Fix Everything. He shares how infinite banking and life insurance helped him build financial stability and emotional resilience over eight years, and urges fathers to ask for help instead of suffering alone.
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How many dads who have committed suicide because they did not seek the help they needed?
Our guest is Jean Dubois. He's a father, a husband, the author of Dads Can't Fix Everything. The past eight years, Jean has also been implementing the infinite banking concept as a framework for stability, for control, for peace of mind, when life is anything but predictable, as we all know.
My thought was, I want to reach out to as many people as possible simply because if they just read a couple of these chapters, that might be enough. You have to understand that you don't have to do it alone. Alone. There's no shame in asking for help. I was thinking about how many people, how many dads out there were in the same boat at some point, and it kind of made me think. And part of my. I. I didn't do like. Like days and days and days of research because it's my story, just more from memory.
Right.
But what I did did do some digging. It was kind of scary. And it was to find out how many dads who have committed suicide because they did not seek the help they needed. One of those guys even include my brother. Right. And my thought was, I want to reach out to as many people as possible simply because if they just read a couple of these chapters, that might be enough. Right. And the stats kind of scared me because it was. When I did. That was about a year and a half ago now when I did that research, and it was this one dad in North America every three minutes that scared the crap out of me. Wow. Yeah. So I. That's who my. I'm not saying I'm trying to reach millions. If I do. Fantastic. But that's. That's kind of who I was writing to. These guys that needed to hear a story similar to theirs, and that might have maybe, you know, shaken them out of whatever they were in just long enough to seek the help they needed. Right.
One thing I really appreciate about the impact that. That that has, John, is just, you know, there's so, so much happening surrounding us at all times. We're bombarded by quite literally everything. We're being marketed to all the time. We're being attacked by, you know, the social medias, the screens that are in our palms, all of these things. It's constantly trying to get our attention, and there's certain elements where we have to provide attention there because of, you know, our business or our life or our work. But we have to recognize that our families need our attention. Our spouses, our children, our grandchildren, and, you know, our extended members of our family, the people that are close to us who are like family. So we're always dealing with some kind of a attention budget. And how are you appropriately focusing that attention budget towards the things that actually matter most to you? And have you even asked yourself about what matters most to you and who are the people around you that matter most to you so that you can apply some of that attention and budget very intentionally towards them? And I think having a book like yours, while that might not be its focal point, it can give people the presence of mind to be able to start asking those really intentional questions. Hey, I like free stuff. I hope you like free stuff. In fact, we got something for free you can download right now. It's a copy of our book, Cash Follows the Leader. This book is all about how you can develop uninterrupted daily growth with high cash value life insurance. We explain a ton in there. We even have some fun images so you can follow along. Go ahead and go to cash follows.com, that's cash follows.com and pick up a copy for yourself today.
Yeah, like for me, my, my immediate focus has always been family, no matter what, from day one. And sometimes I see it in. You see it, I don't know, online even. Like people have regretted neglecting their family for so many years and they've been become distant or estranged even. Like I do whatever it takes to keep my family happy and healthy, everything I can. I mean, even our, our surviving daughter Alida, anything goes on with her and that she needs a hand, we're there no matter what. There's never any excuse, you know, if, if we have to cancel a trip, we'll cancel a trip, whatever. Because a trip can. If you're going somewheres, that place is never going anywhere. Right? So it, to me, it's just, it's just natural for me. But I'm pretty sure for most dads, it's the same thing. Family would come first no matter what. And that's, that's my ideal focus. And then of course you have friends like you. We've dropped everything just to go help out friends. If they're in need, help them out. It's. I mean, it does it, sure, it might take some of your time, but so what? You know, we're all in this together at some point. Like I've needed to help myself and I've had friends come and help me. So we're all in this together. We all help each other out. And that's, that's, that's the way I, I Think about life.
I love that. As Nelson Nash would say, the time was going to go by anyway.
Exactly. Yeah.
And so true. Joe Polish, who founded the Genius Network, said that life gives to the giver and takes from the taker. And you're definitely in the giving category. And John, if. If there's. If a dad is listening to this alone, it's late at night and he's feeling like he failed because he couldn't fix something, what would you say directly to him?
I'd say even though you're. You feel like you're stuck right now, part of that is mindset. You have to understand that you don't have to do it alone. There's always somebody that can help. You can look at something and tag and try to tackle it. Maybe you're not successful. That doesn't mean you're a failure. It just means now you got to find a tool or a person that would help you to fix this problem. Whatever it is there is, there's always hope out there somewheres. Whether it's if you need to fix something around the house, there's somebody that can help you. If maybe you're, you're not feeling well mentally, there's somebody that can help you. There's no shame in asking for help. And you can try to do it on your own, that's fine. But when you get stuck, that's where you don't, don't just stay stuck and don't say it can't be fixed, because it can. That's my message to these dads.
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