Why 30-Year-Olds are Burning Out (It's Not the Workload)

What is the impact you'd like your life to have? What kind of human do you really want to be?

We're joined by Rick Torrison, an international speaker, bestselling author, and performance coach. He helps leaders and entrepreneurs crush their limiting beliefs and step into their true potential.

This generation is actually thinking more about impact and influence of their lives. They're bombarded every day with everyone's opinion about life, and then they're in a world that feels like it's on fire and chaos. The trajectory that I'm watching the world go on doesn't have a good ending. Does that make sense? Is that— that makes perfect sense. That's supposed to be in alignment. What I've found is, you know, and I think this is a book I haven't written but I've thought through, as we talk about books, this idea is I think in different decades of our lives we have different questions that are important to us, different things that have value to us, that we look at the world through a certain lens in our 20s and our 30s and our 40s and our 50s, right? As we get older. And I think as we get older, we start feeling the weight of of age and time, right? The gravity of time, of the end of time for us. And we don't start asking those questions or thinking about those things typically until we get into our mid-50s, late 50s, and we start asking legacy questions. What, where, when am I— what does this look like, and what's it all been for, and Right? And so, that's that significance conversation that we start having where we start realizing, man, did it all mean anything? Does it all matter? It's an interesting thing too. And I'll say, because what I'm learning, I've really reshifted a lot of my energy and focus this last year. I'm changing some of my attention towards the 25 to 35 generation, because I think they're an interesting generation that's actually asking that. They're getting burned out in life right now, but not the burnout that you and I would know. Like they're working 100 hours a week. Their burnout is actually about meaning and value and purpose that they feel they're working in a space they're not being seen or heard. And what they're doing isn't tying into purpose that gives them meaning or value or, you know, the motivation. And so, they're being burned out in jobs and chasing jobs because these jobs don't feel like they're speaking to identity, value, and worth, right? And so, this generation is actually thinking more about impact and influence of their lives and the purpose of their lives and having meaning than, say, maybe 35-year-olds to 50-year-olds who grew up differently and are thinking things differently. And so, I think I would say to anybody, and I think the younger that you're able to have this conversation, The more power, like you guys, the younger you can get them to have these conversations when they think, I'm not making enough money, I'm making minimum wage, I, I can't even pay my bills. But if you can get them to say, listen, yes and no, let's think about 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 30, and the little change you make now that when you get to that place, the fruit of that, right? But it's so hard because it's not as tangible. It's like, oh, but I need that dollar. I can't put a dollar away a day, a week, you know, and wait 50 years. I'm like, oh, if you just understand this multiplication process. So I think the question— again, a lot of discussion there around what you asked. Um, I think the question is getting people to be willing to ask and dream and start looking to their future. What, what is the purpose? What is the impact you'd like your life to have? What kind of human do you really want to be? What is, what is it that you hope? And there's a point where we're not willing to ask that question because it's just, it's like, ah, I don't care about that right now. My son's 30, my daughter's 27. They're both in different places. They're thinking about that question, but it's really like, hey dad, that's really not, I'll worry about that later. And no matter what I say, they're just— there's immediacies in their lives that are more pressing.

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Right. But if we appreciate, Rick, is that you went through a couple of different questions that they're all— they all pivot back to the same core focus or topic, but it's different ways or angles of coming at it. Like, what kind of human do I want to be? Yeah. What, you know, what, what do I want my life to look like? Or what's something I want to strive for? So those are all purpose-driven questions, but they're framed in a different way because they're gonna activate for a person in a different way. So I really appreciate how you kind of asked a few different versions because they're, they're different questions, but they all direct people to the, to the direction of thinking that you're looking to. Because if they can identify, maybe they can't identify the idea of purpose cuz it's a, it's a nebulous thing. It doesn't have, it doesn't have form yet that they can determine what that looks like. But these ancillary questions that are around it can start to crystallize a picture of something, a picture of themselves, a picture of what a future could be if they continued being that type of a human. And what will— well, if you actually lived the result of that type of a human that you said you want to be, well, what would that create in your life? And then what kind of people would enter your life? Well, what kind of things do you think— what kind of opportunities would be created for you if you did that on a regular basis? So like there's this whole cascade of things that get created that can circle someone back to like, oh, I think I have, I mean, I don't have a clear picture, but I went from no picture to like, I can see form and shape now.

Yeah. So good, man. Richard, I love how you take this stuff and you synthesize it and you make it really clear. Like you bring it, I mean, I, I appreciate that. Cause I think you're right. And that's why for me, everything comes back to no matter how old, and who I'm coaching, the language might change, but the ultimate goal that I'm after is getting them to determine what's important to them. What do they value? What is important to them now in their lives? And what kind of human, what kind of person do they want to be? Not what kind of person is everyone else. And that's another thing. This generation, this 2030 generation, is really asking some powerful questions about that because they're bombarded every day with everyone's opinion about life. And then they're in a world that feels like it's on fire and chaos and relationship, and it's, it's all this anger and rage. And, and there's a generation, it's like, this is chaos, it needs to stop, I don't feel good, I don't like it, right? And they're asking, this can't be what life is all about. Yeah, you know, this can't be what this is going to be like. The trajectory that I'm watching the world go on doesn't have a good ending. And I'm a faith person, so I, you know, I'll put a faith spin on it and go, you know, you're right. Ultimately, there's some things that aren't going to end very well, but ultimately it's going to end really well, right? It's like, it's this tension that we feel in the now and the not yet. But I think that's just a really good, you know, it's like asking the question, Rich, I mean, it's kind of like in the financial world, like, what do you value today? If you really lived your financial life, your material life, around what you valued and what was important to you, what would your life look like? How would your life be different 12 months from now? Right.

So if they said empty beer bottles in your garage to take in, or would you, you know, have some well-designed entrepreneurial books instead on your shelf as a difference? Maybe.

Yeah, 100%. And what would your friend group look like? Like this thing you're saying you aspire to, right? Or the things that you value today. Are what's going to then manifest in your behaviors and actions that will produce the fruit and the outcomes of your life, right? So, what is it that's driving you? What is it that you're like? And if this is what you're saying, then what would the fruit of that look like 12 months from now, 6 months from now? What might your life be like if what you just told me is what you really believed?

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