In this YouTube video, dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder addresses women who are either newly committed or in long‑term partnerships where the words “I love you” have not been spoken. She outlines three key, non‑verbal signs that a man truly loves his partner: (1) he prioritizes her happiness and well‑being, demonstrating an empowered masculine love language that values her needs; (2) he shows loyalty and frequently talks about a shared future—plans, travel, children, or long‑term commitments—signaling safety and intention; and (3) he embraces her imperfections, offering kindness and forgiveness even when she feels insecure about her body, mood, or appearance. Sami shares a personal anecdote about her husband Chris supporting her during postpartum weight gain to illustrate the third sign. Throughout, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing these behaviors, especially for women who grew up in critical environments and may repeat unhealthy patterns. The video concludes with a call to action to like, subscribe, and consider her 6‑month group coaching program, ELEVATE, which teaches a 6‑step Love Success Framework that has helped over 900 women attract and sustain empowered relationships.
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Even if he hasn't said, I love you. So this video is going to be highly relevant for the women who are in freshly committed partnerships, where, you know, there's a lot of excitement and the words have still not been said. Or it's also relevant for you if you are in a long-term committed partnership and your man is not very openly affectionate, doesn't say those words often, but you still wonder, Does he or does he not love me? So watch the video right till the end, because I'm going to give you the most important sign at the end. I always save the best cookie for the last. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder. By the way, if you are new to my channel, welcome! I am so glad you found me. This is the Wunderworld, where your dating and relationships change for the better, forever. And if you are just coming back to my channel, then welcome back! I love you! In either case, make sure you've hit the subscribe button and you like this video if it helps you. So let's get started with sign number 1 that a man is in love with you, even though he has not said the words, I love you. Now, this sign number 1 is that he prioritizes your happiness. And this simply means, once again, that your well-being, your sense of comfort, your sense of safety, your needs and requirements are important to him. You see, this is how empowered masculine men show their love and affection. And not all men are equally emotionally expressive. Not all men use words of affirmation as their love language. Not all men are emotionally very aware of women's needs of being confirmed with The I love you, the 3 words. However, this does not mean that a man has bad intentions. So often, men, especially the ones who are a little more stoic and guarded, will still express the ultimate form of love by prioritizing you in the relationship. So check in with yourself, you know, when you express a need. I mean, more often than not, this is not about having a puppet as a man at home, right? Sometimes when I tell women, your happiness is important to him, or he prioritizes your needs, We can get these entitled feelings around it, like, then he should do everything that I say, or then he should always prioritize me even above himself. Now, if he would prioritize you even above himself, that wouldn't be very healthy, and it also wouldn't be very sustainable. So of course, when I say he is showing his love to you when he prioritizes your happiness, I mean more or less 75% to 80% of the times. It's an easy dynamic with him. You ask for something, You usually get it. If you ask for a boundary or for something to change, he usually says, okay, sure, I'll keep that in mind. Okay, sure, I hear you. I can do that differently, because he wants to see you happy, right? So that is literally the number one foundational energy of love flowing from an empowered masculine man to his lady love, and that is Your needs matter, always taking care of you, not in a baby kind of way, but in an I'm here for you, what do you want from me kind of way. So check in with yourself. If your man is doing that, that is actually a great sign that even though he may not be verbally very open and saying the words, he loves you. Now, sign number 2 that a man loves you, even though he may not be expressing it verbally, Is when, of course, he is loyal to you. I think this should be a given. It should not be even a conversation. I think when a man truly loves a woman, loyalty is really on top of his mind. It doesn't mean always that, you know, he doesn't find any other woman attractive or that he's wearing blinders, and so if he sees an attractive woman, it will not register. I don't think it works that way. But I do believe that empowered masculine men in committed relationships, where they are in love with their partner, where they honor their partner, where they care about their partner, These men will always, always value loyalty. They will always value respecting your feelings around other women as well. You will see that he's careful around other women. He's not busy flirting with them and not busy making you feel uncomfortable in public around other women. Loyalty, I'm going to treat it as a given. I just spoke a little about it, but I would say loyal with you, to you, and talks about a future with you. This is a great sign that a man is in love with you, because if a man is talking about the future with you and you're already in a committed relationship, which is fresh, then you know he has intentions to take things forward. Or if you're already in a long-term partnership, and he talks about future plans, he talks about traveling, he talks about children, he talks about when the children are out— so it doesn't really matter which phase of the relationship you are in. What matters is that He's loyal, and he's talking about the future, and those are great signs to show that he loves you. Because trust me, men are smart, and they usually don't like to overpromise. So if he's not that into you, he's going to be very guarded about talking about the future. He's going to be very guarded about talking about a proposal, talking about the commitment. And if things are off in the marriage or in the relationship, he's going to be very guarded about saying things like, I'm going to be planning a holiday, or, I look forward to spending time with you in old age. Maybe in a few years, we should buy a yacht or a boat. So if a man is talking about future plans, it's because there is a sense of safety within him that you are the one. You are the one he loves. So that's sign number 2. And let me know in the comments if this is present for you. It's always so good to interact with my community over here. Now, sign number 3, and I told you I'll save the best cookie for the last. This sign that he loves you, even though he's not expressing it verbally, is really a master sign that, you know, he's into you and he loves you. And I'm so glad to share that I have this present in my marriage. So what is the sign, Sami? Tell me! Okay, so here you go. I won't leave you hanging for long. So the sign is that he embraces your imperfections instead of judging them or being critical of them. Now, this is the ultimate sign that a man loves you because So often, when I work with my clients in ELEVATE, whether we are talking about single women or we're talking about women in relationships, the thing that I find across the board is that women tend to be hard on themselves. Maybe it's our body, maybe it's the way our face looks, maybe it's our hair, maybe we are hard on ourselves because we've gained some weight. And it is an incredible sign of love from a man when he can still love you as you are. This is not to say that shouldn't look after our appearance, or we shouldn't look after our bodies. But this is to say that there will be, almost always in any relationship, there will be phases where, you know, you may not be at the ideal body weight. Like, I know for myself, you know, with both my pregnancies, with the first one, I gained so much weight, and my husband was so kind. Chris was so kind and so loving. But by the 6-month mark, you know, where I was like exhausted from breastfeeding— I was doing only breastfeeding 24/7, and I was working as well— and so I was exhausted. And so obviously, You know, the body was gaining weight. And I remember him being so kind to me about it. And one day, I just looked at myself in the mirror and I'm like, oh my God, Chris, I don't recognize myself. You know, how did I get here? And I just burst into tears. And he just looked at me and, you know, he hugged me and he said, honey, you're doing so well. Look at this cute baby you made. You know, like, I think just be gentle with yourself. You're still beautiful. You're still very beautiful to me. And why don't I support you with, you know, coming up with a workout plan and coming up with an exercise plan? And so we can slowly get you back on track. And, you know, that is the day I realized, wow, this man really must love me for him to like me, even when I don't like myself in the moment, if I'm very honest, right? And I don't think it's just about body, it's just about appearance. I think when a man loves you, he also is more forgiving and kind towards your occasional mood tantrum, towards your occasional emotional meltdown, towards, you know, that occasional Emotional trigger, because maybe you judge yourself for having the meltdown or having the trigger. But when he loves you, he is kind to you about it. He is loving to you about it. Now, for those of us who have grown up in more critical home environments, this can be like a complete anomaly, right? This can feel like, what? This is even available? This even exists? And what I see with a lot of my clients who have come from childhoods which are more critical, which are more, you know, very loving, not very supportive, not very gracious, childhoods where when you made a mistake, you were shamed, or you were really scolded, or you were told you were not good enough, we can continue to pick up men who will repeat that pattern in our relationship. A lot of the times, my clients who have those kinds of childhood backgrounds, they still keep picking up men who are critical of them and who are unkind to them. This is where we have to work on changing your blueprint, on changing how you select men and how you choose men, because it's so important to attract a man into your life who is kind to you, who is loving to you, who is embracing of your imperfections, because otherwise life becomes miserable. Just imagine being surrounded by somebody who is even more hard on you than you are on yourself. Imagine being surrounded by somebody who's constantly telling you, you need to lose weight, you look horrible, you need to do something about it. Just imagine, right? So that's not a sign of love. That is a lack of love. And a lack of acceptance. But when a man loves you, and if it's a healthy, empowered man who is in love with you, he's going to embrace all parts of you. He's going to embrace all imperfections in you. And of course, it still remains your responsibility to uplevel and elevate on those imperfections and do your part of the job in upleveling yourself. However, do know that the graciousness and the kindness and the forgiveness will be offered to you when you are in a healthy relationship with a man who is an empowered masculine man and who loves you. If this video was helpful, give me a like. Don't forget to subscribe. And if you would like to work with me and my team to help you attract an amazing empowered man, the number one way to work with me is inside ELEVATE, my 6-month-long live group coaching program, where I show you my unique 6-step Love Success Framework methodology that has helped over 900 women by now attract empowered, partnerships, their dream men, their dream relationships, and helped heal hundreds and hundreds of marriages as well. So if you're interested in finding out more about ELEVATE, just get on the waitlist and we will be in touch with you over email. I love you, and I'm here to help you have the most amazing romantic relationship.
