In this YouTube video, dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder addresses women who identify as high‑achieving, "A‑type" personalities—intelligent, career‑focused, and often operating from a masculine, mind‑dominated perspective. She argues that such women may struggle to embody feminine energy, which she defines as a body‑based, present, and emotionally receptive state that enhances dating and relationships. Wunder outlines five concrete practices to shift toward this energy: (1) Slow down—reduce the rapid mental chatter and give the body space to feel; (2) Move more—engage in physical activity (dance, walking, swimming, yoga, etc.) to activate bodily awareness; (3) Feel your feelings—allow emotions to surface instead of suppressing them, recognizing that societal expectations label feelings as weakness; (4) Offer more acceptance—practice self‑compassion and reduce judgment toward oneself and others, fostering empathy and grace; (5) Be present—stay fully attentive in interactions, putting away phones and mental distractions. Throughout, she interweaves personal anecdotes (e.g., her own graduate‑school stress) and observations about cultural pressures that push women toward masculine achievement at the expense of relational intimacy. The video concludes with a call to action: viewers are encouraged to subscribe, share, and consider joining her live coaching program, Elevate, for deeper support. The overall message is that by integrating these practices, women can balance masculine and feminine energies, improve their love lives, and feel more fulfilled.
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Hey, Divas! This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and in this video, I'm giving you the 5 ways you can increase your Feminine Energy. In this video, I believe it's going to be really helpful for you to learn if you are somebody like me or most of my clients. You are somebody who's more an A-type woman. You're strong, you're smart, you are very intelligent, you give a lot of importance to your work life and your achievements, and a lot of your identity comes from all The success you've had, all the impact you've made, and of course, which would also mean that sometimes you struggle implementing my work because you find that you just are so much naturally inclined to be in your masculine versus your feminine. Okay, so let's not waste time. Let's give you the 5 ways you can start increasing your feminine energy, and it is going to be so powerful if you just do this. So remember, don't just listen to this video, make sure you do it. do this. The first thing you can do to start increasing your Feminine Energy is to start slowing down. You see, when we are in our minds, and our minds are masculine— so M for mind, M for masculine— the more intelligent we are, the smarter we are, the more intellectual we are, the more we will rely on our minds to inform our life, to make decisions, to make our choices. Yet, M for mind, M for masculine. So you find yourself operating really fast in life because the mind and the speed at which your thoughts move is really fast, right? In order to increase your Feminine Energy, you want to slow down, because when you slow down, you, number one, slow down the speed of thoughts in your mind, and number two, it gives you the chance to connect with your Now, Feminine Energy is all about being in touch with your body and how you are feeling in your body. I'm going to talk about this a little more when we come to point number 3 of how to increase your Feminine Energy. But long story short, slow down. If you find yourself talking fast, walking fast, doing everything fast, always being in a rush, one way powerfully to increase your Feminine Energy is to slow down in the moment and say, there is time. There is enough time for me to do what I want to do. And even if, you know, I'm gonna be 5 minutes late, it's okay. I'm not gonna rush through this. I'm gonna, you know, not allow my body to get all stressed up and worked up about this. I'm gonna take it slow. So start taking things Slow, and notice the difference it makes in your life experience. Because when you start taking it slow, you're going to be able to enjoy your life more. You're going to be able to be more present with your family, with your kids. So start slowing down. The second way you can increase your Feminine Energy is by starting to move more. I don't know about you, but if you go on TikTok and Instagram, it's full of Reels about how being in your Feminine Energy is all about hugging the trees, and dancing and meditating. And to be honest, there is some truth to that, even though I don't completely subscribe to that explanation of Feminine Energy. Also because for my clients and for somebody like me, it just feels too vague and too intangible. Like, how do I implement hugging a tree in my love life, if you know what I mean? But I do believe that moving more, especially when we have dense emotions going on or we feel stressed, is such a great way to increase your Feminine Energy. If you look at your life, so many of us are working on laptops and sitting all day, and then our heads get really dense with a lot of thoughts. And this is where you really want to get up and move, do a dance, take a pole dance class, go swimming. On days where you've had a rough work day, I think one of the best things you can do is really move more. Go for a walk, dance, swim, exercise, work out, whatever, whichever form of movement, yoga, whatever helps you move your body, because when you move your body, you're embodying the feminine, and you're really getting in touch with your body and how your body feels, which is what Feminine Energy is. Sometimes, even in our group coaching programs, I will find that the women are really in dense energy, and they're trying to do Feminine Energy, but they're trying to do it from a strategic headspace versus a body-feeling space. There is really no other way around increasing your Feminine Energy apart from learning to be in touch with your body. And to be in touch with your body, you have to activate your body. And to activate your body, you have to move. So if you're finding that your head is heavy, your thoughts are really dense, you feel really serious about everything, and everything feels really like life and death when it comes to interacting with men or your partner, move more. It's going to move that emotion and move those feelings in your body, and you are going to feel better after it, I promise. Now, the third way you can increase your feminine energy, and literally any woman can do it, is by getting more in touch with your feelings. Now, if you are like my clients, they tend to avoid feeling. Feelings are weak. Feelings are bad. Feelings make you cry. Feelings make you miserable, and you're just supposed to stifle them, put them away, never cry, move on, put on a brave face. Now, if you resonate with this, let me know in the comments, because that's who I used to be, and that's why I do not judge any woman who comes to my world, who finds my work, who works with us, because I speak not just from a place of a decade of experience as a love expert with amazing results for my clients, I also speak from the place of being a woman who has thought in the same way that you probably think right now, you know, about emotions being weak. You know, I remember when I was doing my master's, there was a lot of stress towards the end of the cohort when we had to submit our dissertation, master's thesis. And, you know, there were all these boys, you know, around me wanting to help me, offering support. They could see I was struggling, like they could see how dense my body was, how serious I had started to look, and how stressed I was feeling in my body. Like, heaven forbid, I couldn't take help, and I couldn't accept their help. And then I remember going home and feeling so ashamed of, you know, how stressed I was feeling, how insecure I was feeling, how exhausted I was feeling, but I couldn't ask for help because I felt so ashamed of, you know, letting them see my true feelings, and I thought it would be a sign of weakness to let them see that I was struggling. And so I would only cry silently to my mother and my sister. And so if you are somebody who judges your feelings or feels ashamed of them, don't blame yourself. Just remember, I was also there, and you can heal this. And the truth is that this is the masculine paradigm we're living in, where there's so much emphasis on achievement and success and money. And women are being pushed to the other end of the spectrum, where so many women are now out-earning men, so many women are now so good at their careers, but now they're starting to suffer on the home front. They're starting to not have time for love. They're starting to be in competitive energy with men versus in partnership and complementary energy with men. A lot of the married clients and relationship clients we help, they are talking about how difficult it is for them to make time for love because they are so career-oriented, no feelings, be strong, push through life. And so, If you find yourself in this space right now where you can resonate with this, I don't want you to judge yourself. I want you to be kind to yourself and understand that we are living in a society where this is celebrated, and so it's not your fault. However, because you are smart and because you understand the value of— I would like what I like to call using both hands, not just one hand in life. So using both your energies, not just masculine energy, but also your feminine energy. You understand the importance of possibly using your mind more at work, but then when you come home, when you go on a date, when you're with a man, you know, learning to be more in your feminine, and that is by accessing your emotions. Accessing your emotions is truly the most fundamental thing you can do when it comes to dating or being in a relationship. And being in your Feminine, and of course, increasing your capacity to be in your Feminine and embody your Feminine. So feel your feelings more. And if you want deeper support with this, these are exactly the kind of things we help our clients with in our live coaching programs, where you can work with me and my team. And my live coaching program is called ELEVATE, and you can find the link to it in the description below. It's only by application. So you can get yourself on the waitlist and hear from us when the doors open. Now, the 4th way you can increase your Feminine Energy is by offering more acceptance. What does this mean? Offering more acceptance to yourself for who you are. You're not perfect, neither am I, but neither is that guy, and neither is your partner. So Feminine Energy, if you want to increase it, is all about offering acceptance to ourselves and others, And letting ourselves be who we are, loving and liking ourselves for who we are and what we have to bring to the world, and offering that same love to others. In other words, when you embody your Feminine Energy more and more, and when you're looking to increase your Feminine Energy more and more, you want to reduce your judgments. Because your judgments of yourself, all the ways in which you're hard on yourself, or all the ways you're self-critical, Your judgments of yourself are all stemming from the mind, and so you want to reduce the judgments of yourself and others, and you want to increase your capacity to offer love, acceptance, and empathy, and grace and kindness to yourself for your mistakes, for your imperfections, for everything that's not perfect about you, and to men and your partner, and to the men you're dating. Now, this life-changing, literally. Because again, when we look at the coaching world, when we look at all the superficial strategies that people are being taught about how to be in their Feminine, as an expert who does this for a living, with very, very good results for her clients, like real-life results where women get married and have kids and are adored by the men they are seeing or in partnerships with, What I have found is that so many times, we will do the superficial Feminine Energy work, we will try to not call a man, not text a man, but we're still a lot in our heads, and we're judging the world, and we're judging ourselves, and we're hard on ourselves, and we don't like ourselves, and we don't like men. All of this frustration, and all of this restlessness and anxiety that we feel in dating and in our relationships, is so often coming because we're living so much in the mind, and we're judging so much. And so if you can start tuning more into acceptance of self and of others, you are massively going to uplevel and increase your feminine energy. Now, the 5th way on how you can increase your feminine energy is by being more present in the moment. This is another golden tip. Sounds simple, But it's hard to implement. So what does it mean to be present in the moment? To be present in the moment is to not be up in your head thinking thoughts, but just really being where you are. So if you're on a date, you don't have the phone up and you're not checking your emails. You're actually just paying attention to the man in front of you. Or if you're sitting with your partner or playing with your children, you're not, again, checking your phone or thinking about everything that's happened at work. But you're really enjoying your child's smile. You're really enjoying your partner's touch. You're really present in the moment. Now, this is one of the massive ways you can increase your Feminine Energy, because Feminine Energy is so much about gifting our presence, gifting our company to the person around us. And again, when you work in the world of energetics and energy, men Men can feel this. Men can feel if we are really present in the moment with them, or we are up in our heads, worried about something, thinking about something, being there present physically, but being mentally or emotionally preoccupied and somewhere else. So if you want to increase your Feminine Energy, see how you can start being more present in your life. When you're taking breaks from work, when you're going on a date, when you're spending time with people you love, really discipline yourself to put your phone away, I do that myself. Put your phone away, stop thinking about work. Notice when your mind tries to pull you away from the moment and makes you worry about something. Bring it back to the beauty of the moment. Say, I want to be here, I want to enjoy this. And this is where life and relationships, and especially our interactions with men, start to get really juicy. And I would love to keep supporting you on your journey with becoming an embodied feminine woman. And attracting an amazing man or healing the relationship with your partner. So if you would like to keep hearing from me, make sure you like this video, you subscribe to my channel. There's no way out, you gotta subscribe. Hit subscribe, hit the bell icon so that every time I give new content, you get a notification on YouTube. It's a helpful reminder because we lead busy lives. And bring your girlfriends to the Sami Wunder channel. I love you. It is a joy and an honor to serve you. And Thank you for being here and being part of my YouTube family.
