6 Ways You're Showing Up In Your Masculine Energy & Turning Men Off

Hey Divas! In this video, I'm going to be giving you the 6 ways you're turning men off by showing up in your masculine energy. Now, you want to pay attention to all these 6 ways and hopefully not do them when you are showing up on dates or your level of connection with a man is increasing. Now, nobody taught me this information. I had to learn it through trial and error, but it's going to be golden for you when it comes to getting results with men and not turning the good guys off. So let's get started. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and if you're still not subscribed to my channel, make sure you quickly hit the subscribe button, because I am an absolute expert at helping strong, smart, successful women find amazing love. And I want to help you do that, like I've helped hundreds of my clients do by now. So number 1 way you're showing up in dating that is turning men off is when you become the chaser, And the pursuer in the relationship. Now, I've said it time and time again, nobody does this on purpose. But sometimes, let's face it, when you like a man, it is so easy to start becoming the woman who is going to text him first, who's going to call him, who's going to ask him, when are we meeting again? What are you doing this weekend, by the way? I have many clients inside Leap Into Love who, when they find me and start doing the program, they share with me how, you know, they never thought they were chasing a man. They actually thought they were just showing interest. But sometimes, when you show interest by initiating action, which is masculine energy, you are going to turn away empowered masculine men, because they want to be the ones deciding to pursue you and pursue the connection with you, and not the other way around. So I believe this is like the most obvious part of turning men off in this video. So now let's get to a few more Less obvious things. Behavior number 2 that is turning men off when you're showing up in your masculine energy is when you are unable to receive from a man. Feminine energy is all about being able to receive the good stuff from men, whether it be gifts, whether it be compliments, whether it be his attention or his effort. If you are anything like I used to be, more in your masculine, or if you are uncomfortable with being in your Feminine and receiving energy, what's going to happen is that when men will give you compliments, you will deflect those compliments. Let's say, for example, a man says, wow, you look great today! And you go like, oh, but you know, I didn't wash my hair. It's actually quite dirty. I was having a bad hair day. And you think it's vulnerable and you think it's innocent, but actually, it turns a man off because it makes him feel like you can't really receive the goodness he's offering you. Another example would be, When a man says, should I pick you up? Maybe not date 1 or date 2, but maybe date 3, date 4, if there's a connection building and he's offering a favor, he's offering to make effort for you, but you say, no, I got this. I'm fine. I'll just drive, or I'll just take my bike. It's okay. So all of these are ways in which we're not able to receive from men what they're offering us. Some of my clients who are in long-term relationships, they come back to us and they say, I sorted my dating part, Sami, but now I'm struggling with receiving in my relationship, because he wants to give to me in bed all the time, and I'm so used to guys who are just takers. Because if you've been dating in your masculine energy, you've probably attracted more men in their feminine, and so these are the taking men. Whereas if you want to attract a man who gives to you, who is present for you, who makes an effort for you, then you want to be more in your feminine energy. And so being in your feminine is about being able to receive, the good stuff men are offering. And for those of you who are still learning about Feminine and Masculine, my team will be putting the video description to some of my videos on Feminine Energy, either up here or down in the description below. So I absolutely recommend checking out those videos, because this is step number 5 of the Wunder Soulmate Attraction Method, where I help you master the embodiment of Feminine Energy in your dating life, in your relationships with men, And this really changes the game for strong, smart, successful women, because you're so used to being in the doing, masculine, giving energy in your career, maybe when you were being brought up, you know, really self-sufficient, really independent. And now, in order to attract an empowered masculine man, based on the Law of Polarity, which means opposite energies attract, if you're going to show up in your masculine in dating, you're going to push men away. Masculine men away. But if you show up in your Feminine in dating, based on the Law of Polarity, you're going to attract the opposite energy men, which means masculine, action-taking, empowered men will find you more attractive. They'll find you more sexy. They'll find you more appealing, instead of getting turned off by you when you are showing up in your Masculine. I hope all of this makes sense. Make sure to check out the video in the description above or below and educate yourself on Feminine Energy if you are still learning about it. Now, number 3 behavior that turns men off when you're in your masculine energy is when you fix a man's problems and offer unsolicited advice. Now, I remember my client, Sabrina, from Leap Into Love. This was an addiction for her, literally. She has a great heart, she's a great person, and she is a consultant in London, so she does this for a living. She solves people's business challenges all day, all night. And so when she goes on dates and a man opens up to her or shares something vulnerable, Sabrina used to have this autopilot response to men where she would just fix their problems, she would just fix their issues, she would offer solutions, and then she would never hear from the guy again. And this was happening because she was making the man feel like he wasn't capable of solving that problem himself. And all the masculine empowered man wanted to hear was some form of affirmation that she trusts him to figure this out, or some form of, he's got this, because men and women are very different in terms of how we receive support. So we teach women, when we are helping them embody their Feminine Energy inside Leap Into Love, to ask for help, to ask for support. But with a Masculine Empowered man, when you offer that support, especially when it's Unsolicited, especially when he has not asked you for advice or not asked you for a solution, it lands on him as if you're fixing him and as if you don't trust him to solve his problems. And this is one of the biggest turn-offs for empowered masculine men. And I cannot tell you how many amazing women do this, myself included. So a quick story from my Delhi University days, when I was pursuing my honors in economics in Delhi University. I was dating this amazing guy, And he took me to his restaurant, and he was an entrepreneur, and he just wanted to feel proud and get compliments about you know what he is he had achieved. And then he vulnerably shared with me over dinner, you know that the restaurant is not doing that well, but like he's really like looking to push things up and you know make it a huge success. And then you won't believe it. I am so embarrassed to share this story. I actually wrote him a long letter of recommendations of how he could do better in his restaurant and how he could generate more revenue just the next. Because I thought I was just being a good person, right? And I thought I was just being thoughtful, and he's going to really appreciate that the woman he likes and finds desirable is helping him. But it was just the opposite. I never heard from him again. And it was such a painful experience for me because he was awesome and he really liked me. But I think I completely turned him off and completely emasculated him. And I was so unaware. But the good news is, you don't have to do this. You can learn from me. You can learn from these experiences. And that's why those of you who are diving in into Leap Into Love, this is the power of education, Divas. Without education, you could be doing all these innocent behaviors and getting zero success with men, especially the kind of man you do want to attract, the empowered masculine man. Whereas when you are allowing yourself to invest in education, and you actually sit down and learn, what is it that works with men? What is it that doesn't work with men? You are so much more more powerful in the way you show up in your dating life. Behavior number 4, where you are turning men off by being in your masculine energy, is by momming a man. Now, how many of us have mommied men? Sometimes I still have that tendency. I'm a mom to 2 small kids, and I'll check on Aaron and check if he's taking his vitamins, and check on Aditya, check if he's taking his vitamins. And then I will turn with this focus on my husband, and I want to say, have you taken your vitamins? But he doesn't want me to play that role. He wants me— he wants to feel like I'm his woman, I'm his wife, I'm that sexy, irresistible woman that he wants to make love to, and I don't want to remind him of his mother. So if you're doing this, watch out, because this is really one of the biggest turn-offs in dating for empowered, masculine men. And I can tell you for sure, my husband has given me feedback, please do not do that thing for me. I know you love me, but please don't do it. So counterintuitive, right? Because that's how our moms loved our fathers, and that's what so many of us grow up believing. So there is a video on my channel about mothering a man, so you totally want to check it out if this has caught your attention, or if you find that you are showing up in this way in dating and in your love life. You know, basically being the good girl, being the mama, and then wondering, why did he disappear? Why did he ghost? Did he not find me attractive? And the funny thing is, you can wear the most sexy dress and look like a million bucks, but men are always going to be responding to your energy. Looks are awesome, but it's your energy that holds a man and keeps his interest alive. And so by behaving in these ways, we are literally killing that interest. We're nipping it in the bud. And this is when he will fizzle out. This is when he will ghost. So for those of you who are getting value, I would love to hear from you in the comments section. It really nurtures me. makes me feel happy and loved when I know that this content is landing for you, and it inspires me to make more of this kind of content. So if this is helping you, do not forget to give me a like, make sure to subscribe to the video, and leave me a comment. I really want to get to know you. I really want to get to know if you're struggling with this so that I can keep giving you content that helps you attract a great man. Now, sign number 5, they're That you're doing that is turning masculine men off and pushing them away when you're showing up in your masculine energy is basically your struggle with being vulnerable around men. So, so many women keep dating, right? Forever. On dating apps, number of conversations with men, go on many first, second, third dates, and then nothing works out. And the reason why nothing works out is, as Leap Into Love will show you, for those of you diving in, because there is no emotional connection happening there. An emotional connection can only happen for a man When a woman is able to be vulnerable around him. Now, I know for me, vulnerability was a huge challenge, and I know that for a lot of the smart, successful women I work with— by the way, when I say smart, successful, I really believe every woman is smart and successful. So please do not think that because you don't consider yourself successful, this is not for you. Of course, each of us are successful in our own ways, and each of us is special and unique in our own ways. I have found that smart, successful women actually really struggle with vulnerability. And this is why I pay so much attention to this inside Leap Into Love. I show you how to be vulnerable. I don't just tell you, go be vulnerable with men. I show you how to do vulnerability in a high-value way. I show you how to bring your emotions to a man in a way he can actually hear and feel inspired to engage further with you. And it's phenomenal, like, the detail into which we go to help women embody their vulnerability. So if this is one of your struggles, you really want to do something about it, Because it doesn't come naturally, right? And sometimes what we do is we either don't do it at all because it feels unsafe to be vulnerable around men, or we overdo it. So, you know, if we're sharing our trauma on date 1 or 2, or, you know, speaking about why our relationships collapsed on date 1 and 2, then again, we're overdoing vulnerability. So I'm going to show you in the program, you know, how you can do it in a high-value way. And this is going to be so Powerful a shift in the way you're showing up in your Feminine in dating. Last but not the least, and this is going to be a surprising one, criticizing your appearance or criticizing yourself in front of a man is an absolute turn-off. And again, I am surprised by how many women accidentally do it. We think it's being real, we think it's being humble, but telling a man that you hate the way your leg looks, or you hate the fact that you have thin hair, or you don't like your teeth, or you don't like your skin, it's such a huge turn-off. Because at the end of the day, every man that you're interacting with wants the best woman for himself. He wants the best mate. He wants the best mother for his children. And if you yourself throw the impression that you are not into you, you yourself throw the impression that you don't like yourself enough, You know, I think it's too ambitious to expect a stranger to do that for you. So really, I think in Module 2, Step #2 of the Wunder Soulmate Attraction Method, we help you strengthen your relationship with yourself and help you strengthen the love with yourself. And I think this also deeply connects with that. Not only is it very masculine to show up in this way, you know, in this self-critical way, because you're literally having that nasty voice in your head and you're saying it out loud, but it's also just so unattractive, like a major turn-off for empowered masculine men. So don't do this, Divas! These were the 6 ways you could still be showing up in your masculine energy and turning men off. As I've already said, embodying your feminine energy in dating is really going to be a game-changer for all you lovely Divas, especially those of you who are struggling to attract men who would make effort for them, to attract men who would give to them and please them. If you're attracting a lot of lazy, passive, men, you are most likely still showing up in your Masculine. And this is why, go check out Leap Into Love, my advanced Soulmate Attraction program. 40 hours plus of content, a total deep dive, giving you energetics and strategics of succeeding at dating from single to adored in record time. So go check it out. If you have any questions about the program, if it's calling you, if you've really felt supported and nourished In this education, and you want to ask me something or a question about the program, you can email us at support@samiwunder.com. But have no hesitation. Leap Into Love has over 1,000 students by now. Hundreds of success stories have already emerged from it, and I know hundreds more will emerge. So, this is a tried and tested program with amazing proven results and a proven unique process that literally every woman can go through in order to experience a rise in her confidence, a rise in clarity, and a rise in the results she's seeing with men and in her dating life. So go check it out, and lots of love!