7 Feminine Energy Shifts That Make Him Pursue You

If you want your man to be romantic with you again, to care for you, to plan quality dates, and to come after you in the bedroom hot with desire, then feminine energy is the key to activating his masculine romantic instincts inside your relationship. Now, in this video, I'm going to give you the top 7 ways you can reactivate your feminine energy, increase your feminine energy, and have your guy coming back for you Hungry for you, thirsting for you. I seriously mean it when you use these 7 ways. Now, feminine energy has been a game-changing concept in my own life personally. You know, back when I found out about feminine-masculine energy and understood that as a successful professional woman, I was using way too much masculine energy in my love life. And then I learned these 7 ways to embody my femininity around men, attracted my amazing husband, and And it's also the secret behind our thriving 12-year marriage. Even though I get sometimes tired as a mother, as a CEO of a 7-figure love coaching company, the truth is I always go back to feminine energy and these 7 ways in order to feel like a woman in my relationship again and have my husband coming back for me. So let's get started. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and for the last decade, I've been helping high-achieving, strong, successful women attract and create incredible romantic relationships. Now, the number one way you can activate your feminine energy inside your relationship is by stopping and looking after yourself a little more. Self-care is never outdated. And the kind of professional, successful women I work with, it is very natural that you have a lot going on in your life, whether it be your kids, whether it be looking after your family, whether it be your demanding career. But it is impossible to get into your feminine energy if a woman is not looking after herself. The very definition of feminine energy is being energy, and if we're not looking after us state of being, then it's impossible to invite our man's masculine energy to us. So today, ask yourself, how can you stop and look after yourself a little bit more? Now, self-care will look different for different women on different days. So for some of you, it might actually look like having a facial, having a massage. But for some others, it might look like just making sure you go to bed on time or picking up your journal and writing out your thoughts and reframing your negative thoughts into more positive, self-loving thoughts. The idea of self-care is super specific to the individual, and it's incredibly important that you find out what is that self-care activity you need every single day, whether it's just 10 minutes or 30 minutes of self-love time. But that Self-care is definitely going to activate your feminine energy, and he's gonna notice it. Now, tip number 2 on how to come back into your feminine energy is by starting to do less in your relationship and be more. Now, what do I mean? So those of you who've been following my work, I talk about the importance of creating polarity inside of your romantic relationship. If you want your man to move more towards you, to give you more gifts, romance, plan dates, plan time, then essentially you have to create the polarity gap in your connection. This means that you have to go back into more being in your relationship versus doing. So again, a lot of the high-achieving women I work with inside Elevate, what I find is that they do a lot in their relationships. So just take a moment right now while watching this video and pick up a journal if you have one, maybe even pause the video and write down what are all All the things you are doing and planning and giving inside your relationship. Because if my guess is right, you are taking a lot of the giving burden in your relationship. You might be planning the holidays for the two of you. You might be the one in charge of all the social activities. We're going out on Saturday, by the way. This and this is coming, and I'm going to prepare the dinner. So when a woman is in her giving mode a lot, She's not in her feminine, she's in her masculine. And what happens is, in order for the polarity to adjust, the man is going to get lazier, he's going to get more laid back, he's going to be more in his feminine, because there's only one masculine and one feminine presence that is possible inside a romantic connection. Otherwise, there's going to be a lot of friction and power struggle. So naturally, when a woman is doing more, the man is going to do less. So if you want to Turn this around. You have to start asking yourself, how can I give less and be more in this relationship? Because that is going to inspire his masculine energy to rise up for you. Now, the 3rd way you can enhance your feminine energy inside your relationship and have your guy coming for you is really by starting to ask for more help. Not from a needy space, not from a helpless space, but from a space of, you know, You're important to me. I need my man in my life. And what happens with a lot of high-achieving professional women is that we're so competent, we're so capable, we pick on way too much in the relationship, and then we get angry and resentful with our guy for not seeing how much we're doing. We get upset and resentful around how much load we carry. But the simple solution to all of this is literally just asking for more help, because If he loves you and he's in a relationship with you, he wants to help you. He wants to make your burdens lighter. But it is on you being in your feminine energy and being open to receive that help and asking for it actively instead of treating it as weakness. Now, tip number 4, and this is a juicy one. I'm going to save the best one for the last, so keep watching. But this is also a really juicy one. Is to start activating more independence in your relationship. Now let's face it, whether you are in a 3-year-long relationship or a 7-year-long relationship or even more than that, there is a certain dependency and routine behavior that starts to show up in long-term relationships. So if you're looking to bring back his devotion, if you're looking to bring back the attraction, if you want him to hunger and thirst for you more, you have to activate that feminine independence that you once had when you first met him. Now, this independence doesn't have to look like going out and starting dating. Not at all. I would never ask you to do such a weird thing. But it does mean going back to your own hobbies, having your own circle of friends, looking good, and going out with your girlfriends and enjoying a nice evening out, having a laugh, having a flirt. And activating that independence and, you know, being that woman that he first fell in love with is a Very powerful concept. You know, for me as an expert, it sounds basic, but when I look at the vast experience I've had, you know, I've served over 19,000 clients by now in the last decade to improve their love lives and relationships. This is actually a very common phenomenon. It's shocking to me sometimes even how much a woman will completely start to depend on the guy for everything and forget that she's a whole individual by herself. So when you activate that independence, you know, You activate your man's hunter instincts again. He's like, wait a minute, she didn't tell me where she's going. Wait a minute, like, what's going on? There's something different about her energy. And that might feel a bit scary depending on the level of complacency that has arrived in your relationship, but it is chef's kiss. He is going to notice you and he's going to come for you. Now, the next one is appreciation. So if you want to activate his masculine instincts more in the relationship, trust me, appreciate him more. The thing about long-term relationships is that we start to depend on our partner's validation. They are literally our only source of validation and attention inside a monogamous straight relationship. And so if you forget to appreciate him for the things he does, He's probably gonna go outside and want that validation. But as a smart woman, as a Sami Wunder diva, if you remember to appreciate your guy for the sweet things he does, for the little gestures he makes— and sometimes those gestures are grand, in which case amazing, but sometimes they're smaller gestures like he took the garbage out or he remembered to bring you your coffee in the morning— and just being able to melt a bit and appreciate that and be able to say something like, oh, this makes me feel so special. That you always bring me my coffee in the morning. Aren't you the sweetest? This is going to melt him. It's going to make him notice. It's going to give him that boost of masculine recognition that all men, even all women, want to experience inside their partnerships. Now, if you're loving this, make sure to give me a quick like before we move on to the next tip. And don't forget to subscribe to my channel. I give amazing tips on this channel about love empowerment for high-achieving women, and I think it's going to do you so much good. to hit the subscribe button now. All right, let's move on to tip number 6, speaking from feelings. Now, if you're anything like my Elevate clients, you are professional, you are career-oriented, and your communication has become very logical and fact-based. But if you want to bring back the juice, the spark, the attraction, the play in your relationship, it is going to serve you so well to start slowing down, connecting more with your feelings and start speaking from your feelings more in your relationship. Now, the one important tip I do want to add here on top of this is that do not use this tip as a blanket rule to share every bad feeling. Sometimes women overdo sharing feelings, and so it's important to understand that there has to be a fine balance between sharing your happy feelings, your positive feelings, and your negative feelings. We don't want to overload our relationship with negative feelings. In the name of trying to speak from feelings. But speaking from feelings, being in touch with your emotions, these are beautiful gifts, and masculine men really cherish that. Again, when a guy goes out in the world, in his boy world, nobody talks from feelings. He also has feelings as a man, but he's learned to not talk about them because in the man's world, everyone is tough and strong, and emotion is weakness. So you, as a girl in his life, you as the woman in his life, you're the only source of softness in his life. And you access your softness by accessing your feelings. And last but not the least, as I said, I saved the best cookie for the last. So well done for making it to the end. If you want to activate more feminine energy, more desire, more polarity in your relationship, let's play with activating more mystery. This is again crucial for long-term relationships because what tends to happen is we tend to share all our details with our guys. We tend to let them know everything we're doing, everywhere we're going, every person we're meeting. And it's almost like when I notice my clients in Elevate, we feel bad if we're not oversharing. But the truth is, it is okay to step out once in a while and let him text you to ask you, where are you? It is okay once in a while to meet a girlfriend and then have a spontaneous evening where you said you'd return at 7, but it got so fun that you came back home at 9. It is going to activate positive tension in your relationship, and that positive tension, it's trademarked because it's a very powerful concept I teach inside Elevate. But that positive tension is gonna spark his desire. It's gonna spark and fire his sexual tension, and that's what you want because at At the end of the day, you're not living with your roommate, you're living with a husband and a boyfriend, and you want him to desire you, not just emotionally but also physically. So if you like this video, make sure to hit like, subscribe to this channel. And if you would love my feminine energy checklist with extremely practical ways on how you can take this work deeper and show up more embodied in your feminine energy inside your relationship, comment feminine below and my team will give you the link. I can't wait to see you on the next video. Thank you for joining. Bye.