In this YouTube video, dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder outlines seven subconscious cues that men notice in women, which most women are unaware of. She frames the discussion from an evolutionary perspective, explaining that while men consciously notice overt appearance, their subconscious mind evaluates deeper signals that indicate a high‑value, healthy mate. The seven signs are: (1) a genuine smile that conveys authentic energy; (2) how a woman treats other people, especially service staff and peers; (3) the condition of her skin, reflecting health and self‑care; (4) body language that signals openness, confidence, and relaxation; (5) small appearance details such as manicured nails, pleasant scent, and subtle jewelry; (6) overall energy and vibe, including positivity and emotional tone; and (7) the art of listening and effective communication, which makes a man feel heard and draws him out. For each sign, Sami provides practical tips—pre‑date mindset, skincare routines, posture cues, fragrance application, daily energy checks, and listening practices. Throughout, she encourages women to be authentic, educate themselves, and view these cues as tools for personal growth rather than judgment. The video concludes with calls to action: subscribe, like, comment, and consider her 6‑month “ELEVATE” group coaching program, which uses a six‑step Love Success Framework to help women attract empowered partners.
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Of course, men notice your appearance, your dressing style. They notice your breasts, they notice your figure, and this is how evolution has designed men. But there are 7 other signs that men first notice in you as a woman that most women have no idea about. In today's video, I want to give you these 7 signs that men are looking out for in women. I would say say these signs are more subconscious than conscious, which means that no man is going and checking out these signs on purpose. But when he's around you, his subconscious mind is noticing these signs in you. And if you possess them, of course, you get brownie points from an evolutionary perspective, in terms of being an embodied feminine woman who is attractive to men. So let's get started. If you're new here, welcome to my channel. This is Dating and Relationship Coach Sami Wunder, and for the last decade, I've been helping smart, strong, successful women find and keep amazing romantic love. Make sure to hit the subscribe button. I send new content on this channel every Saturday at 5 PM Berlin time, and it's gold. So in terms of sign number 1 that a man is noticing within a woman that is subconscious, and that he doesn't himself know that he's doing this, Is her smile. Yes, it's your smile. I think we've heard this so often, that your smile as a woman is important, and men are really receptive to your smiles. And I think men can also notice the difference between a fake smile and a genuine smile. I literally tell my ELEVATE clients that if you know you're going to go on a date, don't wait to smile till you see the guy. Think about something that makes you smile, so that when you enter the restaurant, Or when you first see him, you are already in that genuine, uplifted, energetic state with your smile. And trust me, they get so many compliments. They're told all the time, you have such a beautiful smile, you have such a beautiful smile. And that's because men really try to feel your aura and your energy through your smile. So keep it genuine. Don't make it fake. Don't force it. Don't push it. If you've had a genuinely bad day, then— it's possible that you're not going to give your best and most upbeat smile, in which cases I just tell my clients, be honest about what's been going on for you that day, without oversharing. Now, sign number 2 that men notice in women subconsciously is how you treat others. So a woman who's very nice to an empowered, ambitious, successful man, but is snappy or bitchy with the waiter, or is critical of her girlfriend, or gossiping about other women, you're going to get minus points. And I'm talking about evolved men, of course, because not only does a man subconsciously judge how you treat him, but let's just say if he's a special man, and if he represents the qualities that you are looking for in a masculine man, then he knows that you're going to give him a bit of a special treatment. He knows that you're going to put your best foot forward. And what he is looking at is, Is she just like this with me, or is she also a warm and genuine person with the other people around her? You want to be mindful of how you're coming across, not just in terms of how you're treating him, but also how you are treating those around you. Now, the 3rd thing men subconsciously notice in a woman is her skin. So a lot of the times, women will spend a lot of money on fashion, dress, shoes, shoes, handbags, and of course, that's all fun. I look at fashion as a way of self-expression, and I encourage all my clients to do the same. However, sometimes your skin might be suffering due to the high levels of stress that you might be going through at work or in life, or maybe you've just not educated yourself enough on how to keep good skin, and so maybe you don't use sunscreen, maybe you've started to get hyperpigmentation and dark spots. Now, this is not to make feel bad or make you feel ashamed of yourself. Please don't judge yourself. Think of all this knowledge and all this learning as a means to uplevel in your life, as a means to go to the next level, attract the next-level man, attract the next-level outcomes by being your next-level self. And that happens through education. And this is why I'm so huge on romantic skills education, because nobody taught me this stuff, not at school, not at university. I didn't see a very very happy marriage between my parents. And so the amazing relationship that I have with my husband today, and how I've helped 1,100+ of my clients to have healthy, loving relationships, is because I believe in the power of education. So educate yourself and don't take it as a way to beat yourself up or feel low about yourself. So men do notice women's skin. You know, a clear skin, a clear complexion— it doesn't matter what color your skin is. Every woman of every color is attractive to a lot of men out there. There's always somebody who finds you attractive just the way you are. But what's important is doing your best, right? Like having a skincare routine, understanding that, at the end of the day, attraction is about evolution, and we are all trying to get the best mate. And the health of your skin, the plumpness of your skin, all of that contributes to signaling that you are a high-value mate. And that you are a healthy mate for mating, for offspring production. I know this sounds so cliché and so— but this is the truth. And the more we can face it, the faster we can use it in our own favor and capitalize it for success in our love lives. Now, number 4, what men notice is your body language. Is it closed off? Is it open? Are you confident? Are you nervous? Are you fidgety? Again, these are not things that people are consciously checking you on or evaluating you with a checklist. Most men do not come with a checklist. But let's say the subconscious mind is always aware. Is her body language open? Is she welcoming? Is she relaxed? Is she confident in who she is? Or is she nervous, moving a lot, fidgety, can't hold eye contact? Looks away instead of looking in the eye, constantly must touch her purse, must touch the table, move her legs. Of course, most of you are not doing this. I'm giving extreme examples here, but you get the point. Your body language has to be firm, open, warm, relaxed, and that is more than enough to communicate confidence. Now, the next sign that men notice in women that women are not very aware of are the little details in your appearance. You know, details matter. They really do. Men do notice manicured nails. If your nails are clean, groomed, manicured. Men do notice that you smell good. Men notice that. They notice that you've sprayed a really nice perfume. Oh my God, this could be a bullet by itself, but I just combined it with the little details about you. But honestly, men notice. Your scent is powerful to men. It's attractive, and that's why I always recommend my clients to, when going on dates, to use a really nice perfume. I don't recommend using perfumes on your skin because they can contain a lot of chemicals which are not good for you, but spray it on your clothes, spray it a little bit on your wrist here. It really stays long. the little details. Men notice your little details. They notice the little pieces of jewelry you wear, the little earrings you have, the little chain you have. They notice those things. So don't think that those feminine details are not important, because they are. Now, number 6 is your energy and vibe. This is huge, and it's literally impossible to talk about feminine energy, attraction, magnetism, Without talking about energy and vibe, because you know the power of energy and vibe. You know that you have been around women or men where you just go like, oh my God, that person is such an energy vampire. I do not want to be around them. And I can't explain what it is. It's just the way they are. It's just when I'm next to them, I feel like all my life force is drained out of me. And then you know the power of being around people where you go like, oh my God, she's so lovely. He's so wonderful. You know, whenever I'm next to them, I just feel like positive and I feel so good and I want more of that. So I always tell my Elevate clients, check your energy and vibe on a daily basis, especially if you have stress or high-pressure work environment. Check and ask yourself every day, how's my energy? Would I like to date myself in my current state? Would somebody like to date me in my current state? That's a really simple but powerful question to ask yourself in order to ensure you're not just all up in your head and your vibe is really dense and negative and stressed out and serious. So check in with yourself multiple times a day and ask yourself, would I like to date myself? And if I wouldn't like to date myself, what do I need to shift in order to have a more positive and upbeat attitude towards life? Now, don't use this message to beat yourself up. If you're going through a hard time or a hard phase. It's not about always being positive and upbeat with men, not at all. I have so many videos on this channel where I talk about speaking your boundaries, speaking your truth. If something feels bad, share it with a guy. But let's just say, there is an overall attitude towards life, love, men, relationships, ourselves, that we all carry. And if we are optimistic, if we are positive, if we are looking forward to what is to come versus being afraid of what is to come, that is the key to having an uplifted, reasonably uplifted energy and vibe. And men do notice that. And the more good they feel around you, the more they want to be around you. Now, last but not the least, before I give you the 7th sign that men notice in women that women don't know, make sure you hit the subscribe button, hit the like button. I'd love to hear from you if there are other signs that you think that I have not mentioned so far that men notice in women that women don't know about. Onto the last sign that men notice in women that women don't necessarily know. It's the art of listening. Of course, the art of listening is not just by itself. It's also, you can say, the broader art of communication, the broader art of how good you are with being able to have a conversation. But I don't necessarily mean the conversation where you are leading, being witty, being smart, being humorous. I'm talking more about your feminine embodiment in communication, and that is primarily being a good listener. Because all successful smart women I work with can go and talk about themselves endlessly. That is not a challenge. You are so well-trained to do that in the boardroom. You're so well-trained to do that at work. But what can be sometimes challenging is just being a good listener to men. And empowered masculine men, they really notice that. They really appreciate that. So of course, it's the overall art of communication, but I would also say it's more specifically the art of being a good listener. Because when a woman is a good listener, she draws a man out, and the man is talking more in her presence than she's talking in his presence. And she stays a bit of a mystery and enigma, whereas he finds himself opening up more and more, sharing more and more. And when he does that, he bonds with her. So 10 on 10 to women who have practiced the art of becoming good listeners. Because it's going to keep you in good stead with masculine men. Those were our 7 signs today for what men notice in women that women may not know about. Remember, if you like this video, give me a like, leave me a comment. 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