Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are dating apps working for you

28 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, Sami Wunder frames dating apps as a neutral platform that mirrors the broader dating landscape. She argues that, like real‑world interactions, apps contain a mix of high‑quality and low‑quality men, including many who are unemployed, emotionally unavailable, or seeking casual relationships. Because the apps themselves have no inherent energy, success depends on the user’s own strategy; lacking a good approach leads to frustration rather than fruitful connections.

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Dating apps are just a medium. They are just a way for you to attract quality men. And just like in the real world, there's a lot of crappy people and good people. Dating apps are a representation of our real physical society. So just like you have a lot of emotionally unavailable men in real life, it's the same on dating apps. There's a lot of unemployed, emotionally unavailable, non-serious, looking-for-something-casual kind of men on dating apps as well. You have to understand that dating apps actually a neutral medium. They have no energy of their own. You can use them for good, or you can use them to make yourself miserable. Apps are just an aggregation of real life, and so if you are not having success with the apps, you probably don't have a strategy that works.