Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are you emotionally unavailable?

27 May 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Sami Wunder warns that a misaligned "love compass" can cause women to over‑invest in men who are not present or reciprocating in a healthy way. She explains that believing more effort—more messages, displays of love—will change a partner’s attitude often leads to a painful cycle of obsession, despair, and sadness. Wunder suggests that if a woman finds herself obsessively pursuing a man who isn’t that into her, it may be a sign that she herself is emotionally unavailable at some level.

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If your love compass is off, even when a man is not present in your life in a healthy way, there is a part of you that feels like if only you worked harder, sent him more messages, showed him how much you love him, this person will convert and change their attitude towards you. This spells disaster for women in their romantic relationship. It sets you up for a path of pain, despair, and sadness. You are literally pouring all of your attention and energy into somebody who's not that into you. If you find yourself getting obsessed with a guy who's not that into you, it is quite likely that you are also emotionally unavailable yourself at some level.