Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are you guilty of THIS mistake in your relationship? 😏 😒

17 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of her relationship advice video, Sami Wunder introduces the concept of "self-abandonment," describing it as the tendency for women to drop existing commitments—such as plans with friends, family gatherings, or personal fitness routines—to prioritize a date when a man asks them out. She provides concrete examples: canceling a meetup with a friend, skipping family time, or forgoing a workout session to go on a date. Wunder argues that this pattern signals to men that the woman is not prioritizing her own well-being, which can negatively affect how men perceive and engage with her in the dating process. The segment serves to raise awareness of this behavior and its energetic impact on relationships.

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Now, what does it mean to self-abandon? It means that, you know, when a guy asks you out, you drop everything for him. So if you were meeting a friend, you're going to call her and say, sorry, but he asked me for a date. So, you know, we'll have to cancel our plans. Or maybe you're seeing your family on the weekend, but you drop that and you decide to see him instead. Or maybe you were going out gymming and working out, and it's like your swim time or your workout time when he asked you for a date. But you also decided to drop that and make him a priority and go on the date. And this kind of self-abandonment really, again, trickles through energetically to men. They can see that we are not prioritizing our own well-being in the dating process.