Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are you hyper focused on him?

24 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, Sami Wunder argues that masculine, empowered men are strongly attracted to women who demonstrate healthy independence—being capable of leading a fulfilling life on their own—while warning against over‑independence. Over‑independence, defined as a woman claiming she never needs a man and can do everything herself, creates a dysfunctional dynamic for single dating women because it leaves no room for a partner in their lives. Conversely, a woman who is independent yet still allows space for a relationship avoids being hyper‑focused on the man, which the speaker says is wildly attractive to men.

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Masculine empowered men feel wildly attracted to independence in a woman. Not over-independence, not never needing a man for anything, not, I can do everything by myself, I don't need a man to come save me and rescue me. That would be over-independence. It creates a new dysfunctional dynamic, especially for single dating women who literally have no space in their lives to bring in a great guy because they can do it all by themselves. When a woman is independent to lead a great life by herself and look after herself, that creates a natural space in the relationship where are not being hyper-focused on him, and men find that wildly attractive.