Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are you taking this RISK?

5 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, Sami Wunder cautions women against accepting early exclusivity in dating. She argues that men can secure a relationship with minimal effort—typically three dinner dates followed by a request for exclusivity—while women become emotionally attached and invest heavily in building a long‑term future. This creates a mismatch in commitment timelines: women may already be envisioning a lasting partnership, whereas the man may not share that perspective. Sami frames this dynamic as a significant emotional risk for women, urging them to recognize and avoid the trap of premature exclusivity.

Exclusivity is a concept that tells men, you don't have to put in much effort to sleep with me. All you have to do is take me out on 3 dinner dates and ask me to be your girlfriend. I'm going to get all giddy and excited like I won the lottery. I'm going to work hard at building something long-term with you. This is completely the wrong way to go about it. It hurts you because you get attached. You and the guy are on completely different timelines when it comes to long-term commitment. You're thinking about it. He's not thinking about it at all. That is a very big risk you put yourself under as a woman.