Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Are your needs met?

10 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of the YouTube video “Are your needs met?” Sami Wunder explains that approaching dating or a relationship from a place of unmet personal needs leads to idealising a partner, treating them as the sole source of fulfillment, and falling into a chase‑and‑pursue dynamic. She argues that by tapping into one’s own masculine energy and meeting one’s own needs first, a person can show up in relationships from a whole, balanced, and happy place. This mindset makes the connection with a partner a bonus rather than a necessity for personal joy, reducing dependency on the other for happiness.

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Every time we come at dating or in a relationship from this unmet needs place, we are going to pedestal the guy, think that he is the source of meeting our needs, and get in the chasing and pursuing trap. If you can start using your own masculine energy to meet your own needs as much as you can, then you can show up in dating or relationship from a more objective and met space, from a whole and happy space. Like, it's going to be really nice if the connection with him works out, but if it doesn't, it's not like he holds the key to your joy, to your happiness, to some silent need within you that you not met yourself.