Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Attract the right kind of man

1 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains that women should present an authentic, vulnerable side from the very start of a romantic connection. She argues that showing feelings, sensitivity, and emotional openness—delivered in a soft, feminine, and inviting manner—helps attract a partner who wants to be a supportive hero rather than a critic. Wunder contrasts the effective approach (gentle, non‑dramatic communication) with ineffective tactics (dramatic, blaming, or critical expressions). She emphasizes that the initial dynamic set with a man will persist throughout the relationship, so establishing vulnerability early is crucial for attracting a committed life partner quickly.

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Create a more authentic experience for the man right from the beginning. And this will actually help you attract the right kind of man, because he's not just seeing your cool sides. He's not just seeing your fun sides. He's also seeing that you are vulnerable sometimes. He's also seeing that you have feelings. He's also seeing you're sensitive. He's also seeing you're emotional sometimes. Communicate your vulnerability and how to communicate your feelings in a way that a man can hear them. The wrong way to do this is to be dramatic, blaming, critical. And the right way to do this is to be soft, feminine, inviting, vulnerable, so that he actually feels Inspired to be your hero versus be the person who is letting you down. And vulnerability is not something we do suddenly in the middle when something goes drastically wrong. This is why, if you want to attract your husband, your life partner fast, you have to follow this right from the beginning, because whatever dynamic you set with a man right from the beginning is the dynamic that's going to continue in the relationship throughout.