Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Bring back the spark in your relationship

12 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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In this short excerpt, relationship coach Sami Wunder explains how couples can revive attraction and playfulness by intentionally slowing down and becoming more attuned to their emotions. She advises partners to speak from their feelings, but warns against indiscriminately sharing every negative emotion. A balanced approach—mixing positive, happy feelings with occasional negative ones—prevents emotional overload while still fostering genuine connection. Wunder frames emotional openness as a “gift” that many masculine partners value and cherish, positioning feeling‑based communication as a tool for deepening intimacy.

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If you want to bring back the juice, the spark, the attraction, the play in your relationship, it is going to serve you so well to start slowing down, connecting more with your feelings, and start speaking from your feelings more in your relationship. Do not use this tip as a blanket rule to share every bad feeling. Sometimes women overdo sharing feelings. And so it's important to understand that there has to be that fine balance between sharing your happy feelings, your positive feelings, and your negative feelings. We don't want to overload our relationship with negative feelings in the name of trying to speak from feelings, but speaking from feelings, being in touch with your emotions, these are beautiful gifts and masculine men really cherish that.