Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Casual sex is NOT female empowerment!

22 Feb 2025 · 2 min

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In this solo YouTube monologue, dating coach Sami Wunder argues that casual, loveless sex does not empower women (or men). She claims that high "body counts" desensitize individuals in relationships and that women should protect their bodies by taking time to become intimate only with partners who are genuinely invested. Wunder warns that early pressure to have sex is a red flag indicating a lack of effort, vulnerability, and emotional connection. She emphasizes that sex should be viewed as a precious gift shared with someone who feels emotionally safe and compatible. The speaker also references her ELEVATE group coaching program, which teaches women to set boundaries, speak up against unwanted pressure, and prioritize emotional intimacy over casual encounters.

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There's absolutely nothing empowering about having casual sex for women or for men. I think having high body counts is desensitizing in relationships, both for men and women, and especially for women. You know, I work with a lot of smart, successful women, and my number one principle that I teach inside my ELEVATE group coaching program to women is that take your time getting intimate with a man. You do not want to give your most precious body and share it with somebody who's not invested in you, who's not made an effort to win your heart, who's probably not even made an effort to get to really know you. So if you're dating somebody who's putting a lot of pressure on you to sleep with them early on in the process, firstly, that's a red flag because this person is avoiding effort, avoiding vulnerability, avoiding emotional connection, avoiding the investment it takes to really get to know somebody. And secondly, it's really important that you're able to speak up and say, sorry, this is not how I date. I believe sex is a huge form of intimacy. It's a gift, and it's a very precious gift that I want to share with somebody that I feel emotionally safe with, I feel emotionally compatible with, and I'm simply not there yet. So there's nothing empowering about loveless sex. There's nothing empowering about one-night stands, girls.