Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Communicating your feelings in a relationship

28 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment, relationship coach Sami Wunder demonstrates how to practice vulnerable communication with a romantic partner. He emphasizes starting with affirmations of trust—"I trust you," "I trust your character," "I trust your love"—to create a safe foundation. He then shows how to voice personal discomfort without attempting to control the partner’s decisions, using language that signals feelings (“it feels off for me”) while respecting autonomy. A concrete scenario is provided: the speaker expresses unease about the partner’s upcoming solo business trip with a colleague, describing the situation as strange and weird, thereby modeling how to articulate concerns transparently and compassionately.

Vulnerable communication looks like, I trust you. So affirming your partner. I trust you. I trust your character. I trust who you are. I trust in your love for me. And this feels off for me. And I will not control your choices, but I feel like it's important for me that you know that this doesn't feel good to me. This, what's happening right now, the situation we're in with your friend, this business trip you have to go alone on with your beautiful colleague, it feels strange and it feels weird and it feels off to me. I even look