Day 3: 7 Days To Healthy & Happy Relationship
In this live session, dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder leads Day 3 of her "7 Days to Healthy & Happy Relationships" marathon. She focuses on the limiting belief that a woman must be more beautiful, lose weight, or be sexier to attract and retain a partner. Sami shares her personal background—growing up as a book‑worm who never saw herself in the "beauty race"—and recounts a recent conversation with her husband that illustrates how love persists beyond physical changes. She argues that external appearance is a minor factor, citing examples of beautiful women and celebrities who still experience relationship failures. The core message is that sustainable attraction comes from inner work: confidence, communication skills, healthy boundaries, and embodied feminine energy. Sami then promotes her premium coaching program, Elevate, describing its CPD recognition, personalized support, community, pricing, and limited‑time discount, and provides multiple contact channels for interested women. The session ends with a strong call to action, urging viewers to invest in themselves through Elevate.
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Yay! Hey, Wunder Divas, we are live. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder, and today is day 3 of the 7 Days to Happy, Healthy Relationships marathon. And today the challenge is that Sami is going to speak for 10 minutes, so Let's talk about the belief that we are becoming aware of today and that we are getting ready to release because it does not serve us. It does not serve our success in our love life or in our marriage or in our relationship. So everyone who's joined me, whether you're watching this live or on replay, say hi in the comments. Let me know where you're joining from. And the limiting belief we are talking about today is, I need to be more beautiful, or I need to lose more weight, or I need to be more sexy in order for me to attract a great man in my life. Or if you are in a partnership or marriage, in order for your person, your partner, to like you more, to love you more, and to feel more attracted to you and to want more intimacy with you, whether that be emotional intimacy or it be physical intimacy. So let's get honest, Divas. Who here feels like this? If you feel like this, say yes in the comments and let me know. Say yes in the comments and let me know. Who here feels like this? Who here is having the belief that it's her weight or the shape of her body that needs to be fixed in order for her to attract a great person? Now, I'm going to be honest with you. I have never really personally struggled with this. limiting belief, and for different reasons. Not because you may think that, oh, so Sami really likes her body and Sami really likes the way she looks. Um, but honestly, that's not the reason. The reason why I've never personally struggled with this belief or limiting belief is because I literally never thought growing up that I was even in the race. Okay, so I grew up a bookworm, and I grew up a total nerd with glasses on. And you know, my mom, even when I was a teenager, my mom never, you know, cultivated the habit of, you know, getting your eyebrows done or your upper lip done. And so I was never the girl who was even considered in the race, so to speak. You know, I had made peace with the fact that, you know, looks is not the way I can win. I can only win with my brains. So this is why this limiting belief was never even existing for me before, you know, I met Chris and attracted Chris, because at some level I just, you know, knew that, you know, with the supermodels' looks that we see on social media and those most perfect bodies and those most Perfect body shapes, you know, like I can never have that or I can never be that. And so why should I focus so much on that? Now, who here thinks like this? Who can resonate? Who grew up feeling this way? You just make me feel normal about myself. So that was me. Okay. Now, of course, this did not mean that when I grew up and when I started dating, especially in Germany, you know, that I did not take care of my appearance. Of course, I did my best. But somewhere deep down, I knew that what would really attract my soulmate to me is who I am as a person on the inside. Okay, who am who I am as a person on the inside? And I did right. Just I think a few months ago, I looked at my husband. I was getting. A lot of pimples on my face, and you know something was going on hormonally. And I have two little children, and I said to him like with a puppy face, "Oh honey, so now that I'm getting pimples and you know I have this weight on post baby weight on, are you gonna leave me? Are you not gonna feel attracted to me?" Like just said it in a puppy voice, not in a you know heavy energy. And he looked at me and he said, "Oh, but you had these pimples and you had this weight on even when I you know proposed." to you and got to know you. So no, don't worry, you know, I'm not going anywhere, girl. I love you. I love you for who you are, and I love you for your soul. So here's my invitation for every woman who is carrying this limiting belief. Now, as a dating and relationship expert, of course I work with women day in and day out who are struggling to attract a great man, and/or maybe they're in a relationship and, you know, the intimacy is going down and they are trying so hard to attract a man, an empowered man, by, you know, fixing what's on the outside, fixing their looks, fixing their eyebrows, fixing their teeth, fixing, um, their wrinkles with Botox, using fillers. Um, many get plastic surgery. And while I don't judge anything that makes you feel good, I really believe that I wish every woman on this planet would recognize that that is not what will sustain a man. So do anything that feels good to you, of course. But I can tell you from experience, because I work with very— I work with a lot of women who you would call objectively very beautiful, very gorgeous, and yet they are struggling with men and in their relationships. And this is why my invitation today for all of you is to understand that What really sustains a man, what really attracts and keeps a man's soul and keeps him interested in you, is not really how you look. Now, of course, men are visual creatures, and that's why I said, you know, like, um, you— it doesn't mean you don't take care of your appearance. It doesn't mean you don't do your best. You know, we all have different features. We all have different body sizes. What is important is that you just do your best given what Mother Nature and God has given you. But beyond that, you remember that this is not what is going to make him stay. This is not the defining factor. Because if it was the defining factor, why would beautiful women get dumped? And why would hot celebrities have so many issues in their relationships? Because they are objectively good looking and they are objectively what you would call Great figures and great bodies. So no, that's not what sustains a man. That's not what survives. That's not what sustains a marriage. What really sustains a man's interest if you're single, and what really sustains a marriage and builds on intimacy and attraction in the marriage or in a relationship, is when is what is inside of you. And so many of us pay attention to what is outside of us. We pay attention, we invest thousands, right? We invest in Botox, fillers, handbags, shoes, dresses. But we say when it comes to investing in ourselves, when it comes to investing in our confidence around men, when it comes to investing in emotional communication, when it comes to investing in, you know, developing healthy boundaries, when it comes to investing in how to communicate To men so that you can actually get your needs met, we say it is too expensive, which is like totally it. Like to me, as somebody who constantly invests in herself and on the inside, it's just I I don't get it because I think I am who I am today, whether it be the love and success in my marriage. or it be the amazing company I'm running, a multi-seven-figure company per year that I'm running, which is of course the revenues of the company are just a direct reflection of the impact we make in the lives of our clients because that's what this is about. When our clients get results, they invest in us and they invest in themselves and they do the work. And so I can say that none of that— is as a result of how I look. I still till today don't look like a supermodel. I still have, you know, some postpartum weight still on. You know, my son is— my second son is going to be 3 years old very soon, and it's still there. And it's okay. I love my body because I love— you know, I have shown up on YouTube and I have shown up on livestreams in literally every phase of my life. When I was pregnant with my first son, when I was breastfeeding afterwards, and, you know, had a lot of postpartum weight on. And then I showed up, um, after Aditya was born. And sometimes when I go back and look at those pictures and YouTube videos, you know, I have so much love for myself, you know, because if anything, I modeled what it looks like to not seek perfection even when you are, um, you know, in front of so many people and being so like visible. And of course there were people who said hurtful things, and there were people who said, you know, like, get your teeth fixed, or, you know, lose some weight, you're ugly. And somehow none of that mattered because I've done so much work on the inside. I have done so much inner work. I've spent thousands and thousands, you know, multi-six figures over the last 8 years, you know, worked with, you know, done constant professional development that, you know, my inside is really solid. And when your inside is really solid and when you know who you are, um, when you know what value you bring to the world, and when you know that, you know, this is just a body, it's just external, and this will one day or the other fade away, and what will be left is, you know, who you are on the inside. When you really know that, you know, none of that can touch you. And so I'm really proud, you know, even when I go back and look and I go like, wow, Sami, you showed up like that. Like, wow, your face looks really swollen. Or, you know, wow, like, you look really tired. And honestly, that was me back then, you know. And I would still continue to commit to showing up that way because I think it's so important that I embody for you that you don't have to look perfect or look like a supermodel or, you know, lose that or be sexier according to the books in order to have a great relationship and have great passion. But what you do need is self-confidence, and what you do need is skills in communication, in boundaries, in, um, you know, um, in understanding men and, you know, how they operate, and in being able to, uh, you know, be in your embodied feminine energy, which is what, you know, attracts men to you like You know, bees to honey. So what if you, you know, decided today that you were going to release the belief that your body or your looks is in any way standing in the way of the grand love story that you desire? And instead, you decided that, you know, the person who's going to really hold that man or hold that relationship is who you are on the inside— your dignity, your confidence, your femininity, your boundaries. And what if you decided that that was the place you were going to invest in? And what if you— that investment was worth millions? Because when you shine and when you feel good and when you feel better, you know, everything in your life reflects that. So long story short, the belief that we're releasing is that our looks define what man comes into our life and how we can sustain his interest. Instead, we just decide today that we understand once and for all that looks is a very small part of the equation, and what really counts is how you show up, how you're being, how you're communicating, how you're giving, you know, value perception, how you're drawing your boundaries, and how you feel on the inside. And on that note, for those of you who are looking to invest on the inside, I don't believe there can be any better investment than Elevate. So Elevate is one of the most established, long-standing love coaching programs in the love coaching industry today, and it is going to be globally recognized by the CPD for its ethical coaching standards, for its high coaching standards. So my team and myself are really proud of it. And inside it, we help single women attract their dream man by doing this inner work, this focus on self versus on the outside. And we help women in relationships and married ladies attract, um, the passion back in their relationship and, you know, the intimacy, the communication, you know, elevating Just the way you feel with your partner, and Elevate has terrific results. This is why this program is such a success. The love success framework we teach you inside Elevate is you know has helped hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of women by now to attract their dream relationships, get married, heal their marriages, take their marriages from you know feeling meh and bad to like. Really exciting. So Elevate is really powerful, and what makes us different from the other programs that are out there in the love coaching industry is that we're really intimate and we're really personalized. So inside Elevate, you know, you're not just a number, um, in a group, but we actually follow your story. We ask you questions, we follow your progress. And so like, this is why, because the coaching is so bespoke to you, um, this is why our results are amazing because we don't just leave you hanging after answering your questions on the calls. You also get your Facebook group support in the middle, in between those calls, where you, you know, if anything comes up or you have a clarification or, you know, something's happening in your relationship or in dating, you know, what do I say, what do I do, you know, we keep a track of all of that, um, in between the live calls as well. And I think the number one reason why you should trust Inside in Elevate, you should put your trust in Elevate is because we get results. Like really, that's what you're looking for. You're looking for results. You're not looking to just, you know, cram information and come out with nothing. What you're looking for is some kind of sustainable change in your love life, whether it be attracting a great guy in record time or it be healing your marriage. And so Elevate is very results-oriented, and we really believe that if you do the work and you're coachable and you can really, you know, follow the advice we are giving you. You know, some people don't follow advice. Some people don't— they, they spend thousands but they don't listen to what is being said. Um, but if you're the kind of person who will listen and can take advice, then you, you can almost, you know, know that you're going to succeed inside the container. You're going to be able to, you know, have the results you desire. So we're, we're really good. We have a proven track record. You're not entering a TikTok dancing new coach container. This is a very established program, and this is the safe option. So if it resonates, if it calls you, we're closing doors very, very soon, in 4 days' time. So there's not a lot of time left. Elevate links are everywhere. If you're on our email list, we're emailing you. If you are on social media, you know, we're sharing about Elevate. We're sharing so many success stories and testimonials. Your age doesn't matter. Your dress size doesn't matter. Your body size doesn't matter in order to succeed inside Elevate because we have a process that works. All that matters is your ability to step up and do the work, right? So that is what we're looking for. You're the right candidate if you're ready to do the work. And the investment is standard investment is €8,888. But right now, when you join before Uh, Friday you come in at $6,999. Yeah, so $6,999. And on Friday the price will go back up to $8,888. So here's 2 things you can do. One is, if you know Elevate is for you, sign up. Sign up because there is just no reason to wait till Friday and do this in a hurry. You can sign up now, you can start doing the questionnaire, you can get ready, you can, you know, put all the live coaching calls in your calendar and sort of prepare yourself already for, you know, my live call on 1st of April with, um, both the singles group and the relationships group. Or if you feel like you still have questions, you can email us at support@samiwunder.com. You can send me a direct message on Instagram or on Facebook, um, or you can also book a call with us, um, at samiwunder.com/contact. So my team will be very happy to leave all these links also in the chat or in the comments on social media. But really, there is no more time to delay. So if this has been calling you, you deserve it. That's all I'm gonna say. You deserve it. Don't stop yourself. Don't tell yourself that, you know, your family, your children, everybody is more important than you. In my world, you are the most important person in your own world, and you deserve this. Because when you shift and how— when you shift the way you feel and when you shift the way you show up, everybody in your life who you love and who loves you benefits from that. So Elevate is not a cost, it's an investment in yourself, and it's going to give you skills that are going to last with, with you for the rest of your life. Like, you cannot— you know, like how you cannot go back to being 10 years old, you cannot go back after you've done the work inside Elevate. You cannot go back to being who you are right now. You will be a different woman in 6 months' time. So For everybody who is ready to dive in, waste no more time. You deserve this. Come join us. I am very excited to hold the space for you together with my team to elevate and to be the woman that I know deep inside rests in you, and that you are ready to now unleash in this phase of your life and create your grand love story. I love you all. Bye.
