Day 5: 7 Days To Healthy & Happy Relationships

Woohoo! Welcome to day number 5 of the Happy Healthy Romantic Relationships Marathon. This is dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder. I am a leading international expert for high-achieving women, female leaders, and career-oriented professional women like you who want to have it all. You don't just want to get promotions in your work life, you also want uplevels and promotions in your love life. And with my proven and unique 6-step framework that I teach you inside ELEVATE, which is my acclaimed 6-month-long group coaching program, I give you the nuts, bolts, skills, and strategies to attract an amazing empowered masculine man, feel freaking confident in your power as a woman, and I also help partnered women and women relationships elevate the joy, bliss, connection, and intimacy they are experiencing with their partners. So this is what I do, and I am very excited today to talk about helping you release another limiting belief that I see a lot with my clients inside ELEVATE. So if you are a hardworking professional woman, I'm sure this thought has occurred in your mind, that all this feminine energy thing sounds really nice, but I have worked so hard using my brain, my mind, my intelligence, my work ethics to get ahead in my life, and now I'm supposed to dumb down, play small, talk sweet, not challenge a man's ego so that I can have love in my life? Well, no thank you, because I would rather just be who I am, and if a man likes this, it's enough, and if not, then too bad. I would rather be alone. So who here has thought like this and felt like this? Say yes in the chat box, say yes in the comments. And I'm gonna be 100% open. When I first came across this work in Feminine Energy Embodiment, because I've been a high-achieving, hard- working woman all my life, and I have greatly relied on my master's education. And, you know, I was a scholarship holder in India's top college for commerce and econ. So you can imagine I took a lot of pride in my intellect and my mind. And so even I had this perception about, I don't want to play small or dumb down to have a great man in my life. I'm just going to be who I am, and he must like me for it. Till I started to see that there were examples of women, whether you look at, you know, J.Lo or you look at Beyoncé, you know, that there were examples of women around me who were having a lot of success in their careers, but they were also having a lot of success in their love lives. And I also saw this, um, in my cohort, um, during my bachelor's studies in Delhi, where I was surrounded by India's best brains, right? And then there were women who were like me, who were just, you know, nerdy and books-oriented, and, you know, my brains is everything, and a man must like my brains in order to love me, and I'm all about my brains and what I achieve. And then there were women in the same cohort who were very good at their education, who were very good at getting really amazing grades, but they were also showing up differently around men. And they were having all these guys ask them out, and they were having all these guys, like, turning head over heels in order to take them out on dates or do favors for them. And I remember back in Delhi, I just couldn't understand what's going on here. Like, oh, I also want that. Like, I want men to ask me out. I want quality men to take me out. I want quality men to fall head over heels and, you know, offer me favors. But it wasn't happening for me. And then, when I went to my master's cohort in Germany on a full scholarship for my master's in public policy, I again noticed the same thing, which is, I was all about, like, here's my brains and like me as I am, and if you don't like me as I am, then you're intimidated by my success and my brains. And I don't want to change myself to get a guy or keep a guy in my life. And We had women who were again very brilliant in their education, but again they were energetically showing up differently in the cohort. And these were the women who were getting all the attention. And some of them were not even, you know, on an average scale, I wouldn't say they were outstandingly special or good-looking. You know, I, without sounding like, you know, um, I was Okay, maybe I should say, you know, sometimes I felt like I was smarter than them and I was presenting myself more nicely than they were. So why were they getting all this male attention and I wasn't? So here's what I learned. What I learned is that this whole idea, or this belief, that smart, strong, successful women carry— that feminine energy is all about being, oh, you know, weak damsel in distress and, you know, falling apart so that a man can come and save you, or dumping down and playing small, you know, this is a really toxic belief. And yes, I can agree that there have been authors before us and coaches before us who have talked about being a submissive woman and who have talked about, you know, um, being the woman who, uh, you know, is more quiet and more docile and will not express her opinion. But I think in the current generation that we live, of the modern woman who's really going for what she wants and who's really, you know, able to use her empowered masculine energy to get ahead in her career. You know, this woman of today, she doesn't have to buy into the archaic ideas of feminine energy. And when you really understand the power of feminine energy, you understand it's not about dumbing down or playing small or playing less than in order to have a great man in your life. But it is about understanding that you are not loved for your brain, for your intellect, and for your achievements. Okay, so this is like the big belief you have to shift, because if you are a career-oriented woman, the chances are very high that you identify a lot of who you are with that part of you. Like, oh, I'm so successful, or oh, I make so much money, or oh, I'm so good at what I do, I'm an expert. And this is awesome, but you need to release your over-identification with this Work side to yourself, because what a man will truly love you for is who you are on the inside, as a person, as a human being. And this is where real emotional intimacy and connection builds for men. And so the whole idea that you have to dumb down or play small to have a man and keep a man is archaic, is stupid. I'll just call it out like this. But there is merit In embracing your feminine, because your feminine helps you relax, come back into your body, come back into your worthiness, come back into feeling whole and safe, and not feeling like you have to prove yourself in order to be loved and in order to be worthy of a man's effort and grand love. And this is where Embracing feminine energy became a game changer for me because I'm still a very successful and hardworking woman who can use her empowered masculine energy to, you know, manage a team, hold the space for, you know, my company, my growing company, and hundreds of our clients that we serve. But at the same time, I have learned how to come back into my body, come back into my vulnerability, come back into my ability to receive from from my man and, um, from, you know, masculine energy around me. And therefore, being able to embrace your feminine energy is going to unleash and open the floodgates to new levels of joy, connection, and bliss that you can experience in your love life, whether you're dating or you're in a partnership. And it's never about dumbing down or playing small. It's actually about leveling up even more. Because think of it this way, earlier I was just really operating in my masculine, and so I was out of balance. And now I get to operate both in my masculine and my feminine, and so I am a more balanced human being, a more balanced individual. And I can give, but I can also receive. And I can think but I can also feel, and I can be structured in my masculine, but I can also go with the flow in my feminine. And so instead of rejecting feminine energy as an idea that you have to dumb down or play small in order to embody it, you have to think of it as an uplevel, like a total opening of floodgates of new levels of joy, connection, bliss, intimacy, acts of service that the masculine will offer you. And if your feminine is open, It can receive all those goodies. So on that note, 2 days left for Elevate to close its doors tightly, and then we will be focusing on the 111 women who have joined us. So this is the total size of the cohort, um, that has joined us. Of course, I think in the relationships group we have around 30 women or 40 women and Um, the singles group is slightly bigger. But if Elevate is calling you, uh, there is literally no more time to waste. It's time to take action. I want to make 100% sure that you are aware that we have a brand new payment plan that is available for you. It's €649 or USD— we're also offering payments in USD— €649 over 12 months. So we've made it very accessible for those of you who are, you know, willing to get out of your comfort zone and do this for yourself. And I will only remind you that the best high achievers, the top performers in the world, the people who really have goals and are hitting their goals, always have coaches, always hire support, because you just get to succeed so much faster with support than without it. And I truly believe that if you need the support and you're struggling, whether it's dating and, you know, you're not getting results with men, or if it's in your relationship or marriage and you're not, you know, feeling that, that joy, that bliss, that connection, that excitement, and you know that support is available for you inside Elevate, but you're denying yourself permission from doing this for yourself, then I actually believe it's an act of lack of self-love. Because if you really love yourself And you're struggling, the support is available. And all you need is to say yes to yourself, is to remind yourself that you're worthy of it, right? That you are worthy of it. You deserve this. And yes, you do, my love. And the interesting thing is that what we found is that our new clients in Elevate, you know, they have so much, often a lot of resistance in first signing up for the program. Oh, it's such a big investment. Oh, you know, will I get results? Oh, like, it works for other women, it will not work for me, and all of that mind chatter. But once you dive in, we have a 55 to 70% client retention rate. So just think about this for a moment. Once women sign up, they love what they experience inside so much, and the results that they get are so amazing it becomes a no-brainer for them to keep investing in themselves. So that must really be a top quality service, right? Otherwise people are not stupid and foolish to keep investing in something that doesn't work. So we take a lot of pride in the intimate bespoke coaching we provide inside Elevate. It is a group coaching program, but we follow your story. We are invested in every woman who is invested in doing the work and in getting the results she desires. So as long as you're somebody who's coachable, who can take advice, implement it, Elevate is going to work for you. And Elevate is literally the safest bet in the love coaching space with hundreds and hundreds of success stories. So we have a proven and unique framework that works, as you can see in our results. And it's also the safest bet because It's been running for over 12 editions now. We constantly upgrade the program. We make it better every round. We take client feedback and we are engaged and we are intimate inside Elevate and we care about every single woman who joins the program because our company is results-led. And so you succeeding is us succeeding and us succeeding is you succeeding. So Elevate is also going to be soon recognized globally by the CPD as a love coaching program that meets the highest standards of quality and ethical standards when it comes to business practices and quality of services and coaching provided. So we're very proud of it. It's not been an easy journey getting here, but we are invested and devoted to making ELEVATE the number one choice for professional, smart, successful women to have amazing romantic relationships. So ELEVATE is closing doors. What are you waiting for? You deserve this. Come join us today. If you have questions, you can email me at support@samiwunder.com. You can send me a DM on Instagram. You can send me a DM on Facebook, a direct message, or you can just shoot us an email and we will get back to you. But there is literally no more time to delay. We start 1st April. As soon as you join, you can do the questionnaire, you can download the live coaching calls. The live coaching calls are always happening on the weekends because we work with professional women and we understand you're busy during the week. So the live coaching calls happen on the weekends, a Saturday or a Sunday. Usually my calls with the singles group are 3 PM Berlin time. So 9 AM New York. And my calls with the relationships group are 4:30 PM Berlin time, so 10:30 AM New York. So majority of our clients are able to show up on these calls live, but if you miss them for any reason, or, you know, the time is not working for you, you just post your questions on the Facebook group, which is also available in between the calls. And of course, everything is recorded, so you can always come back and watch it later. So I'm really excited, uh, for the 111 women who've already joined, and I can't wait to see who else is going to be diving in. I am personally holding the space for you to rise up and say yes to yourself. You will not regret this, and, um, can't wait to share your success story with the world. Let's make it happen. Let's