Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Do you have Intimacy fears?

29 Aug 2024 · 0 min

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In this monologue, Sami Wunder explains that intimacy fears arise when a person intellectually desires a partner but simultaneously judges themselves harshly and demands perfection. This self‑criticism leads to projecting unrealistic expectations onto men, expecting them to be flawless and never make mistakes. The resulting perfectionism and fear of true love keep love at a distance, causing the individual to push potential partners away.

Intimacy fears are when we intellectually say we want to attract somebody, but we always keep finding fault in every man we meet because we are afraid of true intimacy, afraid of true love. You judge yourself harshly, you're unkind to yourself, you expect a lot of perfection from yourself. You project that energy on men. You expect perfection in men. You expect them to do everything correctly. You expect them to never make a mistake. You're keeping love away and pushing men away because you still have intimacy fears.