Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Doing THIS before your first date with him?

24 Aug 2025 · 1 min

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In this short coaching clip, Sami Wunder answers a viewer question about whether to have a quick video or phone call with a potential partner before agreeing to a first in‑person date. She advises that, for most people, the goal should be to meet face‑to‑face as quickly and with as little friction as possible because in‑person connection is what ultimately leads to a man’s interest. A brief call or video chat is only justified when there is a genuine concern about cat‑fishing, when the other person has had negative experiences, or when long‑distance travel makes a quick vibe‑check sensible. Otherwise, she recommends skipping the pre‑date call and moving straight to an in‑person meeting.

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Should you do a quick video call or phone call with a guy before accepting the offer of a first date on a dating app? This is the question Claudia from the UK asked, and here's my answer. I ask all my ELEVATE clients to get to the date in person as fast as possible and with as little friction as possible. Now, the only reason why you should be asking for a phone call or a quick video call is if you have the fear that you're being catfished or he's not real. And of course, if he's had bad experiences, and he's driving long distance, and he just wants to get the vibe before he drives all the way, then it's totally okay to make a quick 5-minute call. But otherwise, get to the date as fast as possible, because it is in-person connection that makes men register you, not all the chatting that you do online.