Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Don't do THIS mistake when you are dating 🙅🏻‍♀️ 🙅🏻‍♀️

5 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief advice segment, Sami Wunder warns viewers about a common dating mistake: taking the initiative to call or text a potential partner too early. She explains that sending the first text or call, and especially asking the person out when they haven’t yet made a move, can unintentionally shift the relational dynamic. This proactive behavior nudges the initiator into a more 'masculine' role, causing the subconscious power balance to flip so that the initiator ends up chasing the other person rather than being pursued. The core message is to avoid this chain reaction to preserve the natural pursuit dynamic in early dating.

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You started calling him, you started texting him. You thought, oh, one text wouldn't matter, so you send that text first, and one call wouldn't matter, so you send that call first. And when he didn't ask you out for a date, you were like, ah, it's okay, you know, I can just ask him, when are we meeting next? And so, without even realizing, you started to get into this chain reaction of getting more and more in your Masculine. And what happens is, subconsciously, the whole dynamic turns. Instead of him pursuing you, and instead of him chasing you, you become the one that subconsciously starts to chase him.