Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

Don't pressure him to be your hero

27 Jun 2024 · 0 min

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In this segment of Sami Wunder’s dating advice video, she outlines a common pattern where a woman becomes increasingly needy toward a man. She expects favors, repeatedly checks her phone for his responses, and sends messages expressing disappointment when he doesn’t reply promptly. This behavior, according to Wunder, lowers her personal "vibration" and creates a pressure dynamic that pushes the man to feel obligated to act as her "hero" or savior, even though his attraction to her may be weak. The clip serves as a cautionary explanation of how needy, chasing energy can distort relational expectations and place undue burden on the opposite partner.

A woman will get needy around a man, expect favors from him, ask him for help. She will keep checking her phone to see if he has responded, to see if he's coming, and he's not getting back to her. This makes her get into that needy, chasing energy, causes a dip in her vibration, leads her to sending messages of disappointment to the guy, and the guy feeling all this pressure to be her hero, the one who saves her, even though he isn't feeling that strong an attraction. I even look—