Sami WunderCEO, Dating and Relationship Coach For Ambitious Women / 1200+ client success stories / Mum / Wife

DON'T try to impress a man

25 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, Sami Wunder advises women against trying to impress men, arguing that men value what they work for rather than being shown love through doing, caring, or giving. She claims that such expressions of love kill the essential polarity in a relationship, preventing men from feeling the need to pursue, win, and keep a partner happy. Wunder asserts that impressing a man is always his responsibility, and that when women care too much they subconsciously aim to please and impress, which she says does not work with healthy men.

Men value what they work for. If you care about a man, you start to express your love through doing, caring, and giving. That kills the polarity. It prevents him from doing the work to win you, pursue you, and keep you happy. It is never your job to impress a man. It is always his job. And when you care too much about a man, you subconsciously start to show up in ways in your relationship or in dating where you are trying to please him, to impress him, and that just will not work with healthy men.