Feminine Energy Marathon #Day1 - Why Polarity Is A Game Changing Concept For Your Love Life

Woohoo! I am live! So hello and welcome. If you can see this, say hi in the comments. This is my 10 minutes a day, 10 live streams feminine energy marathon, and I'm super duper excited to be here connecting with you all. And we are going to be meeting for the next 10 days on a daily basis, and I've just been craving connecting with my community so much. So I'm just super duper glad to be doing this. And what we're talking about today is why polarity has been a game-changing concept for me to learn as a high-achieving woman, and is going to be a game-changing concept for you as well. And by high achieving, it doesn't mean you have to be a millionaire. By high achieving, I mean you're a smart, intelligent, career-oriented woman who believes in working for professional success. So welcome everyone. And by the way, I'm not going to look all dressed up every single day, but today I am because we are about to go for dinner after this livestream. So my husband is waiting and we literally just had like a scare with my younger son and he choked on some food. And so like I was wearing this dress and helping my son drink water. So yes. All of that has happened within, you know, 10 minutes before this live stream. So how are these live streams gonna run for the next 10 days? So for the next 10 days, I plan to show up live for 10 minutes, and usually I'm gonna show up at 7 PM Berlin time, which is 1 PM New York time and 6 PM London time. And then what we're gonna do is we're gonna interact and converse, because trust me, the most boring thing is me talking to myself. So I'm not one of those coaches and teachers who likes monologuing and talking to herself. So talk to me, okay? So the way you can say thank you to me, the way you can show me your love, is by interacting. So like the video on whichever forum you're watching this on. Say hi in the comments. Let me know where you're joining from. And I want to let all of you know that, you know, sticking to the 10-minute mark is really important for me because I'm the kind of person who can talk about things she loves 20 to the dozen. And I know we're all busy. You are busy. I'm busy. And so I think it's just amazing for me personally to give myself this challenge where, you know, 10 minutes, bite-sized bite-sized information. And we're going to usually divide this into like 5 minutes of informative content. So where you learn about feminine energy, and we talk about things that are important in dating, in marriage, in relationships. And then we're going to talk about Elevate, because Elevate is my number one signature group coaching program, where I serve amazing, professional, smart, and successful women like you, to have and create the relationship of your dreams. And Elevate is closing enrollment in just 10 days from now. Amazing timing. And so I want to make sure that you are all aware, especially those of you who have been watching the videos, learning, taking notes, but you still haven't made the leap. So that's how we're going to roll. Okay. So let's just get started. Why is polarity a game changer? So how many of you know what polarity is? So give me a quick shout in the comments. Do you know what polarity means? And if you were to define polarity, how would you define polarity? So I'm going to take a look at the comments, but before that, let me just start by giving you my definition of polarity. So attraction is what defines a romantic relationship. So your romantic relationship is different from your other relationships in life. So you have friendships, you have work relationships, you have family relationships, you have relationships with your children, right? But romantic relationships are different from all of these relationships because they are all about romantic attraction. And romantic attraction is about sexual tension between a man and a woman, which means at the end of the day, if there is no romantic attraction between a man and a woman, there is no romantic relationship. You become friends, you become roommates, you become 2 people who like each other but are not physically attracted to each other. And therefore, the hallmark of how I like to explain my clients' romantic relationships, the foundation of it is physical attraction. Now, physical attraction itself is based on the principle of Polarity, and polarity means the presence of polar opposite energies. Okay, which means two differently charged energies. So if you were to understand this in the world of physics, we would say you know opposite poles attract, magnets attract, north pole of a magnet and south pole of a magnet. Now romantic relationships are based on this principle of polarity, and let's say successful romantic relationships, right? Because anybody can have a relationship. I'm sure that many of you watching this right now, if you're single, there are enough number of men that you could choose from, but you are holding out for the right person for you. And so anybody could have a relationship, but successful relationships are based on the Principle of Polarity. Now, why did this principle change my life? So when I was 21 years of age, not that I'm any older today, but when I was 21 years of age, I remember having these really terrible dating experiences where I would go out with men that I was attracted to, and I would be the good girl. On paper, nothing was missing. Then I would find that I was a good conversationist, I could talk about the books I had read, I had a master's degree, I was reasonably good-looking, and yet things would not work out for me, especially with the guys I did like. So of course, there were men that were into me, but they didn't inspire me. I didn't think that they were a match for me. But I'm talking about the men that I actually felt were a match for me, like empowered masculine men. And these men, the ones I liked, they kept fizzling out on me and ghosting on me. And this is where, you know, when I met a man who literally broke my heart into a million pieces— I still have to understand why we women need to go through pain in order to learn our lessons, but that's how I learned my lesson. I remember just sort of waking up the next morning after my heartache And knowing that I had this choice. And I had this choice of either I could become a man-hater, I could give up on love, I could become the single woman who's chronically single, perpetually single, and hates men, and is just going to be the high achiever, and is just going to, you know, maybe adopt a child. And so I could see that my mind was starting to take me in that direction, because I was starting to feel so disappointed and so sick of the experiences I was having with men and in dating. So can you relate? If you can relate, I would love for you to say resonates in the comments so that this is not a monologue. So I would love to hear from you if this resonates. But I remember feeling so done with men, so exhausted from dating, and just experiencing the same ghosting, the same fizzling out again and again and again. And so I woke up the next morning remembering and reminding myself that, Sami, you have a choice. You can go down that path. You can give up on love and you can hate men and you can blame, call all men douchebags and become the hyper-successful woman who just has money and success and career, but doesn't have a happy, thriving family. Or you could decide to figure out what's really going on for you? Why is it that things are not working for you? And take ownership of your part in the process, right? Like in a relationship, there's 50/50 accountability, which is when 2 people are coming together, there's 50% his part and there's 50% my part. And so while I can't control the 50% of the man's part, you know, if he's a healthy man or not, that's up to him. That's up to him to do the inner work. Um, but I wanted to take responsibility for my part. Okay, so Kelly's saying, what if you don't give up but it just doesn't happen? Kelly, thank you for sharing. And let me just be straight with you, when it's not working out, there's something going on there in terms of either a block or a tweak that you need that you're not able to spot by yourself, and that's why it's called a blind spot, which means that even smart, successful women are not able to figure out what their blind spot is, because if they were able to do that, it wouldn't be called a blind spot. So usually, it's not enough to not give up. It's important to be strategic in your love life, and to be not so emotional about the rejections you're facing, not be so emotional about the ghosting and the fizzling out that's happening, And to really try to understand, literally, like in business, how can I optimize my process? How can I save more time? How can I filter out the non-matches faster? How can I date better men? And how can I minimize these heartbreaking experiences for myself? So usually, there is some kind of blind spot that is there when women come and tell me, Sami, I would love for you to help me because I've not given up. I'm still dating, but nothing seems to work out for me. And nothing seems to work out— sometimes it's just really about 2-3 tweaks. When women come inside our coaching containers, they come inside Elevate, we do that for you. We help you spot it, right? And those tweaks make the biggest difference to get you the results that you are looking for. Anyway, long story short, I am so proud of myself for not giving up on love, for not becoming a man-hater, and for taking Responsibility and ownership of my part in the process. And I'm aware of the time, so I'm gonna stick to my commitment of 10 minutes. So today we did some housekeeping for 5 minutes, so I have 4 more minutes to go. Okay, so I learned about polarity then, and I learned that, wow, I've been showing up in my masculine energy throughout my dating experience. So I'm the woman who's leading the show, I'm the woman who's asking men out, I'm the woman who's, you know, ready to help them, ready to rescue them, ready to help them, match them to, you know, jobs and my colleagues for opportunities. And no wonder I was attracting all these men who were nice men, but they were more in their feminine. The guys who wanted me were more leaned back, more relaxed, less ambitious. And the ones that I actually liked, you know, with fire, with desire to give, to do, to provide, to be there for me, they were all in their masculine and they were not connecting with me in my masculine energy. Because once you understand polarity, you understand that if you want to attract a certain kind of man— and let's just assume that you do like empowered, ambitious, giving, generous men— then you're essentially looking to be with a partner who is in his empowered masculine energy. And if you understand the law of polarity, you will know that in order to attract such a guy, if you're going to show up in your masculine energy, you're going to push these men away. You're not going to bring them to you. So who here just had a lightbulb moment? If you had a lightbulb moment, say lightbulb in the comments so I know it's resonating. I know you can hear this, so give me a quick lightbulb. Okay, so here are 2 reasons why polarity is a game changer, and understanding the power of polarity is a game changer. So the first reason is, it helps you attract the kind of man you want. So if you don't care about having an empowered masculine man, if you actually are pretty cool with being the giver and the doer in your relationship, then you don't need to care about polarity. You don't need to care about polarity because you are happy operating in your masculine, and there's no judgment here, right? In the Wunderworld, there is no judgment. You know, I love that I work with smart, successful women. And so many times, these women tend to have a lot more masculine than feminine, and that's totally cool. What I desire for my community, what I desire for all of you, is that you're self-aware of your energy. And if you're consciously choosing masculine energy and to attract a feminine partner, a more feminine partner, that's totally cool. Who cares? You're in love, you're happy, you're living the life and relationship you want, and he's living the life relationship he wants. Now, the challenge comes when we say we're cool with that, but then I get clients in the Elevate Relationships group who come and say, oh, at the beginning, I did all the work and I was happy, but now I also want him to do the work, and I want him to lean forward and bring me flowers and initiate making love, and he's not doing that because he's so used to me leading the show. So this is where self-awareness is so important, because I don't want you to choose randomly. I want you to choose consciously. I want you to create a conscious relationship with an empowered man. And if you are desiring a man to show up in his empowered masculine energy for you, then polarity is the game-changing concept you need to remember, whether you're dating, and looking to attract the one, or you are in a relationship already and you're looking for your man to step up more, do more, provide more, give more, be more of your hero versus you being the one who is running the household and rescuing the household. So that's the number one reason why polarity is so important, because polarity helps us create conscious relationships. And when we know what kind of man we desire to attract or have in our lives, we can adjust the energy in which we show up in our dating lives, in which we show up in our loving romantic relationships. Now, the reason number 2 why polarity is important is because so many times when women break the principle of polarity— so many times, women, there's so much conflicting advice on social media. I totally get it. Honestly, ladies, I love you ladies for showing up, for doing this with me, because there's just so much conflicting advice on the internet today, there are just so many people who are infotainers and make lots of reels, have huge followings. But when you go and they're all giving advice on love, right? And they're all telling you that, who cares? Who cares if a woman is in her feminine or not? Who cares if a man is in a masculine or not? You like a guy, you approach him. You find him hot, go tell him. And these are like big, big infotainers and big people with mass followings. And it's upsetting because if you actually go and check the background, they don't have results. They're not leading with testimonials of love stories and successful relationships. And so, like, I feel so passionate about the work I do and the process I teach because we're so results-oriented with the work we do. And we lead with a process, whether it's soulmate attraction or healing a client's relationship, we lead with Evidence-based process that actually gets results for our clients. Okay, and so polarity is really important, and you want to start thinking about polarity right from the start of your relationship, or even if you are already in a relationship, you want to do the work and cultivate the skill set of introducing polarity in your relationship because otherwise, here's what happens: So many women who come to us are in relationships where they're not adored. They're not cherished, and they don't feel special, and they keep investing in the guy. They keep staying in their masculine energy and keep giving to the man and keep investing in the man, and they don't even stop the giving to see, is this person going to do anything for me if I didn't give to them? If this person going to show up for me if I stop, you know, petting them with my masculine energy and doing everything for them? And so, so many times when women come into our world and we say, okay, let's slowly cultivate polarity in this interaction with this man, they're heartbroken because they see, oh my God, if I didn't call, if I didn't text, if I didn't chase, if I didn't offer help, This person would not even come visit me in my home. This person would not even take me out on a date. He doesn't want to see me for weeks now, right? And this is so hard to see when you are in your masculine and you're doing all the work. It is only when you lean back in your feminine and you go into respecting polarity that a man's true interest is revealed. So, are you listening? A man's true interest is revealed. So, who's having a breakthrough here? If you're having a breakthrough, send me some love, say breakthrough in the comments, or like this video, and let me know you interacted with it today. So, so many times, we don't even see what a man is truly made of, because we're so invested with all the doing, and all the giving, and all the leading the relationship. And so many relationships would not even be born, would not even exist, if the woman was not making the move, and the woman was not making the effort. And that's why polarity is not just some funda, some concept that is nice to hear. It is life-changing. It is game-changing. It means that you can become so much more aware of never again falling for men who are not into you, never again falling for men who will not invest in you, never again falling for men who will not give to you and do for you. And this is why it's a game-changing concept, because women who come to us, they are struggling for years with this. They keep telling me, Sami, I attracted the same guy again. He just has a different name, but again, the same pattern is repeating, you know, again, you know, after a few weeks of him doing the work and the chasing, now I'm the one chasing, I'm the one doing the work. And this can never ever happen to you once your self-awareness is increased to this point. And that's why in ELEVATE, we say our clients don't just attract relationships, because anyone can attract just a relationship. Our clients attract amazing, blissful, committed, loyal, deeply connected relationships. And they attract this, they manifest this, they create this because they believe in the principle of polarity, and they are aware of it, and they follow it right from the start. Because changing an already existing dynamic is slightly more challenging than starting on a healthy dynamic. Okay, and so on that note, we are— thank you everyone who loves Elevate. On that note, I want to invite all you lovely women who've been reading my emails, watching my testimonials, endless success stories from Elevate, watching my videos, and remind you all that Elevate is going to close its doors. And when it does in the next few days. Once Elevate closes its doors, we are going to focus on the women who have said yes. Okay? And I know you want this. I know you've been sitting on the fence, but there truly comes a point when action needs to be taken. And we are now at that junction with Elevate where you need to take action and you need to believe that the grand love story that you see so many other women create is possible for you. You know, every day I speak to amazing women, and the number one block that keeps them from investing in themselves, investing in Elevate, is because they, at a deep, deep, deep level, don't believe that grand love is possible for them. So if you don't believe grand love is possible for you, I would love to hear from you. I know it feels vulnerable, but I would love to from you. Because I believe that, you know, investing that amount of money, if you knew that grand love was possible for you, is such a no-brainer. But the only reason we will stop ourselves from doing that is because we do not fully believe that it's possible for us. And this is where I think with all high achievers, you know, what really matters is, you know, taking action, stepping into the container. And me and my team, we're gonna show up for you 100%. We're gonna give you everything we know about creating healthy love with an amazing empowered masculine man. And we're gonna, you know, just give you all the resources, all the coaching, all the support you need. to, you know, manifest that goal of yours. But you have to meet me halfway, which means that I need to see your commitment to yourself. And that's what investing in Elevate is. It's a commitment to yourself. Okay? And it's not going to work out if I am sitting here and saying, you can do this and come inside Elevate, and I'm doing all the work and I'm teaching and I'm supporting but you are not committing 100% to the process by actually diving in and doing the work. So you need to dive in, you need to do the work, and we're going to give you 6 months of highly personalized support in a group coaching container, which is Elevate. And Elevate is going to be running one cohort for single women who are looking to manifest the man of their dreams, and one cohort for women who are married and in romantic relationships. Now, we have a tried and tested Soulmate Attraction process for the women who are going to be joining the singles group, and what we help you do is we help you collapse the timeline of meeting your King, meeting your empowered, conscious, masculine loving, kind, generous man. Okay, so something that you could probably do for yourself within the next 10 years. I mean, if you're— if you'll never give up, the possibility that you will succeed is high, right? Um, but what we do is we add skills to that, we add mindset to that, we add education to that. And when you add education to the attitude of not giving up, that's when you have a winner's combination. And so we literally If I'm talking to you and you're a woman who is an action-oriented woman, a growth-oriented woman, can commit and do the work, is committed to her goals, then there is just absolutely no reason why within the next year you will not see yourself succeed. So when we bring in our Soul Clients, women that I just— the qualities that I just described, these clients usually take no longer than a year to succeed inside Elevate. And that is amazing, right? Like, I'm so proud of myself. I'm so proud of my team that we get to do this amazing work in the world. And we've helped over 400 women, over 400. So the number keeps increasing every week, walk down the aisle by now. So we know that we're not just, you know, a newbie coach, you know, selling you something. We have a tried and tested process, you know, And we know it works, and we are so privileged and honored to support amazing women like you make your dreams come true when it comes to your romantic relationships. So if Elevate is calling you and you've been sitting on the fence, it is really time to take action now and to, you know, send me a DM on Facebook. You can also email us at support@samiwunder.com, or, you know, Check your inbox if you're on my mailing list. You know, we've emailed about Elevate. You can book a call to speak to a member of my team on samiwunder.com/contact. There are just so many ways. You can write to me on Instagram, send me a DM. This is about you now getting activated and understanding that the window of signing up is really closing. And perhaps it's really smart to have a conversation before signing up because this is not just about signing up. This is about making sure that you're right fit for the program, your energy is in the right place for the program, and also for us to make sure that, you know, we can really help you achieve the goals that you're looking for. So this is the time to take action. Thank you to so many of you who have showed up with me live today. So I definitely exceeded my time, but promise to God, by the end of the 10 days, I am going to stop bang at 10 minutes. So So, I am really looking forward to meeting that personal goal of mine. And I am very excited to see all of you tomorrow for Day 2 of the Feminine Energy Marathon. Tomorrow, we're going to be talking about, do you really have to change yourself in order to embody feminine energy? Yeah. And I personally, Had great resistance there, as do so many smart, amazing women. So it's going to be an amazing conversation tomorrow. Cannot wait to see you live again. This feels so fun, so good, so nurturing. So thank you all for joining me. Big love.